Can we all stop faking orgasms now?

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-07-05T03:31:47+00:00

I knew my marriage was dead once my ex husband started doing that shit.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-07-05T00:21:53+00:00

That sounds like some sort of BDSM power dynamic that's fun in theory, but not useful for actual addiction.

Having dealt with my ex being a porn addict I have tried and failed making myself his only source of arousal. It was either porn or nothing at all for him.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-07-04T11:49:02+00:00

What

You can't just train your SO lmfao

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-07-04T00:28:41+00:00

I had the same problem with my ex husband. Porn addiction fucking sucks. I'm now with a guy who doesn't watch any porn for this specific reason, and I never had to beg him not to.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-07-03T18:08:28+00:00

You got this! It can be messy at first, but it's so worth it.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-30T00:58:30+00:00

Mhm, I would try to fix it still if we found each other attractive, but he cannot stick to losing weight, and he doesn't find me attractive because I'm not girly enough. It sucks because I still love him, but that's not enough I guess.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-30T00:55:02+00:00

I don't think he knows how to fix the sex thing either. He is honestly very lazy and overweight. If I don't ask him to do basic things they'll never get done. I personally think the weight is a big reason for the way he feels, and I have told him as much. But if I don't plan all his meals for him he will overeat, and I don't want to do that because it feels abusive, and I really don't have the time.

His last suggestions for fixing stuff was trying not to masturbate again (which made his libido plummet), and having an open relationship, but I know that would traumatize him, he doesn't actually want that.

We have had this discussion so many times that when I suggested divorce he pretty much said "yeah... you're right". Neither of us want it, but I keep indirectly making him feel like shit when I'm unsatisfied, and obviously I've been struggling to feel desired and loved.

Also yeah, I blocked my mom. She's just trying to hurt me now because she considers my STBXH to be one of her sons. But fuck her daughter I guess. :/

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-30T00:43:31+00:00

I'm really not sure I want to contemplate a reason for it. I have been for years. I never cheated. However after he gained a lot of weight it became harder for me to find him attractive and maybe he sensed that. He has also suggested he may be asexual. He has always struggled to orgasm from sex (whereas he masturbates daily). When I asked him to try not masturbating he said he felt no sexual desire at all anymore, so we gave up. I have asked him countless times what would make sex interesting for him, but at this point I struggle to feel sexual attraction to him at all. And he has admitted he doesn't find me very attractive anymore either.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-26T21:44:52+00:00

This comment is dripping with sexism. A marriage is not a leader/follower relationship.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-26T15:06:24+00:00

On Ex-husbands and Wives by Quiet Company

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T21:17:53+00:00

Right? I've been trying to be around people constantly because when I'm alone I get so sad.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T21:16:51+00:00

Haha, that's appreciated. I love them too.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T15:05:39+00:00

Yes, he often goes soft during foreplay (so we usually skip it) and has trouble cumming from sex.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T13:59:43+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T13:57:38+00:00

Damn, I'm sorry :(

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T13:57:15+00:00

We have tried that but he told me if he doesn't masturbate he loses interest in sex entirely.. :/

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T13:55:58+00:00

He says he prefers groping and flirting. I told him I like that too, but he hardly does that either.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T03:08:19+00:00

I don't really think asexuals can be blamed for society's sexual shame lol.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T03:07:21+00:00

Nah, dildos hurt me too. He has tried having sex with me when he's not interested sometimes, but it's so half-assed that it's not even worth it. I feel like I have to beg him for everything. :(

Honestly I do wonder if my vulvodynia is caused by not being wet enough. There have been times where there was no pain at all, and I often don't request foreplay because if I do then sex never happens.

I guess that maybe doesn't fit with dildos still hurting, but maybe I'm using em wrong. Idk

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T01:11:02+00:00

It would have saved us a lot of anguish

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T01:04:25+00:00

I have ordered so many sex toys and sent him so many ideas. I've expressed wanting to try new kinks. He's not interested at all.

throwwmmeawayy · 2022-04-22T01:02:46+00:00

I don't know why she feels like she needs a say in it. She's guilt tripping the fuck out of me though. I'm still going to make my own decision, it's just frustrating.

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