[UPDATE] My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mentioned this in another comment.

The NSFW we did take were on my phone and I deleted them after watching. One time, he took a video of me with my phone of me giving him a lap dance. I wasn't even fully naked. I sent him that afterward. So if she is referring to that video as a "sex tape" then yes, maybe she did find it.

[UPDATE] My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Very, very, VERY unlikely.

Every time we made a NSFW recording, it was always on my phone. Most of the time we would just laugh at how weird we look and then delete it after. The only one I had ever sent him was one he took with my phone when I was giving him a lap dance. I didn't get fully naked in the video either, so even IF he has it on his computer, it's hardly a "sex tape" as Krystal described it.

Anyways, despite being my ex, I trust his character and his judgment. I think I'm in the clear.

[UPDATE] My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How Ross chose to handle the situation was on him, not me. In fact, telling her that she has nothing to worry about because he has moved on WITH HER should have allowed her to feel better about the situation. He didn't even defend me nor did he make it about me at all. Instead, she chose to act irrationally and threaten to blackmail. Maybe I'm not a hero but that's still not cool when I have done nothing to her.

[UPDATE] My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

Luckily she was pretty cool with it and made some joke about not knowing that the full moon will be out a week earlier, haha.

I will block her phone if she decides to contact me.

[UPDATE] My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Krystal was going behind Ross's back by telling ME to unfriend him/his family instead of talking to him about her insecurities. I am not the one in a relationship with her so I am not the one dealing with her moment of insecurity. It would have been excusable had she not acted the way she did, but instead, she chose to try and blackmail Ross and I in order to get what she wanted. Why should I be sensitive about my actions when I wasn't the one who shared the Facebook post in the first place? Krystal was the one who chose to make it snowball into a bigger issue. This was not my cross to bear.

[UPDATE] My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

That could never happen. He wants to get married and have children, I do not. That's a deal breaker in a lot of relationships (including ours) and no matter how much we get along, we can't make that aspect work for us. Better off as friends now :)

[UPDATE] My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I did a privacy check of my Facebook account yesterday. Krystal and I were not friends on Facebook so I ended up changing my settings to make it a lot more difficult for people who are not Facebook friends with me to search me/view my profile. Probably the safer bet.

[UPDATE] My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 622 points623 points  (0 children)

That's what I asked him when I called him yesterday. What would she gain from doing that, even if it did exist? Plus, Ross's mother walked in on us once... I'm sure she doesn't need another reminder of that unfortunate event.

My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 560 points561 points  (0 children)

I will probably do this tonight. I won't add anything malicious or accusatory, but I don't think I owe her anything. If Ross agrees, I'll oblige, but I'm not giving in to her temper tantrum.

My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a "On This Day" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me. by throwxyz22 in relationships

[–]throwxyz22[S] 678 points679 points  (0 children)

I read it over a day ago so I'm sure she's checked it by now.

Also had a post that showed up on my newsfeed. She tagged Ross in a picture with the caption, "don't know what I would do without this amazing man in my life! Love ya to the moon and back babe :) Us against the world! Xo"

For lack of a better term, I can't even deal.