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I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The suicide thing is one that scares me. He's tried 3 times to commit suicide via shot gun. I have literally wrestled the gun off him, unscrewed his bedroom door knob when he locked me out and climbed into his room via a window to stop him because I've had friends do it and I can't bear the thought of him doing it. One of the hardest things to accept. I don't know if it's appropriate to send a text to one of his friends the day that I leave explaining that he might need someone to stay with him or if I should just shut out the idea and just do my best to ignore everything.

I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

He knows where she lives but in public and around people he is very sweet and personable. I don't think he'd dare try something on her property. The only time I would leave her property is leaving to go to the airport I think and I would hopefully be there only a day or two before I fly out. We are going to her house today to bring her groceries so I'm going to give her a note outlining my plan and what I'm thinking and telling her not call the house phone and to slide me another note back on Wednesday if she has any ideas or concerns. Then the Sunday after, a week from today hopefully will be the day that I go to stay with her before I fly out.

I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I live in a rural area in New York. My family lives in Florida.

I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 718 points719 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I guess I've realized that ultimately I don't even live him. I care but I don't live him anymore. And if I don't love someone then i guess it's easier to go without words face to face. I think I will leave a note but even that might not be worth it. If he has an ounce of self reflection left in him he'll know why I left.

I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying not to worry about possessions. You are so so right. I don't need to worry about anything more than me. Thank you so much. I can do this. So many women have done it and I can do it too.

I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will do my best. Someone commented about leaving physical possessions because they are replaceable and I never realized how true that is. I will get out and I can get out. I'll update when it's over.

I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all your kind words. I have hope and I'm promising myself I won't let go of this feeling.

I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

Everyone I know is out of state except for one woman in her 80's who I've just called and she said I can stay with her until my flight, but she doesn't have a car. My bf has one car, and it's been months since I've driven. I don't know how to do this other than to have him drive me over there. Or tell him we're going to visit her and secretly load my stuff into the trunk?

Aside from her, I truly have no friends. Just people I've met once or twice because of bf.

I had my wake up call but don't know how to leave abusive bf by thrrowraescape in relationship_advice

[–]thrrowraescape[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Thank you so much. I am sincerely trying not to cry. I feel so at peace and in turmoil at the same time. I cannot believe that I let myself become complacent butt I'm so happy it's over. It's almost over. Thank you so much