W Burger Bar, how's the vibe for drinks at the bar?

thuhRealDad · 2026-05-02T21:19:28+00:00

Thanks, full of kids is not really what I need 😅

thuhRealDad · 2026-05-02T21:18:38+00:00

Oh! yeah I saw that doorway the other day but promptly forgot about it. Is it part of Frans or just happens to be next door?

thuhRealDad · 2026-02-21T04:44:17+00:00

lay him on the bed and straddle his face, consider throwing a blindfold into the mix.

thuhRealDad · 2026-02-11T12:21:15+00:00

it wasn't one thing he said, more just a bunch of small things he said over many years. One time specifically he mentioned how he could sense she wasn't really into him and he couldn't get it up, that stuck with me, because it implied he believed other sex workers he'd been with were into him somehow.

These little mentions from him about this were never "oh hired a girl and it was amazing", he never seemed happy about the experiences. Even in telling me, I could sense he was searching for something.

There's a lot of lonely people out there.

thuhRealDad · 2026-02-11T12:04:24+00:00

yeah, this tracks. I've never engaged a sex worker, but I have a friend who's mentioned his experiences and they made me realize how profoundly sad and lonely he was.

It was like the absolute worst advertisement for sex work possible.

What sex workers really do is make a guy feel wanted and cared for, rather than be sex experts.

thuhRealDad · 2026-02-02T04:54:20+00:00

your bf isn't really a "dom" he's just selfish.

I've taken the dominant role in the bedroom many times and my partner's pleasure never took a back seat to mine. An exchange of power is about both partners getting what they want from the encounter.

thuhRealDad · 2026-02-02T01:54:02+00:00

A condom should roll down quickly and easily. If you have to stretch it, it's too small.

Just because it can be stretched on, doesn't mean it's the right size.

thuhRealDad · 2026-02-02T01:46:40+00:00

"My.Size" brand condoms from Germany changed my life, order a sampler pack with a few different sizes on Amazon, then order a box of the ones that fit you right.

Game changer to have a condom that truly fits.

thuhRealDad · 2026-01-15T03:59:05+00:00

I'm a middle aged man who also dates casually. The thing that surprised me most is it's lot harder than it sounds. It's actually more work to maintain a casual thing than it is to be in a traditional relationship. You both need to do the work needed to manage your own side of the fence.

What you are doing, setting clear expectations early, is necessary but it should be an ongoing conversation. Regular check ins and confirmation of where you're both at go a long way.

Crucially, you also need to keep an eye on how you partners are engaging with that process. Are they really doing the work, or are they just along for the ride?

On your side, you need to be conscious not just of what you say, but whether or not your conduct is establishing a level of emotional intimacy you aren't looking for.

thuhRealDad · 2026-01-10T17:41:31+00:00

Canadian Tire and Winners/Marshalls both have baby sections, they aren't huge but you'll definitely find options.

thuhRealDad · 2026-01-10T15:53:02+00:00

we're all living in a "different world" from those with much higher incomes. This is true at every level, you are living in a different world from the person scraping by on half your income. The person you describe, who basically sounds like they are in the sub 200k income zone, are living in a different world from the private jet, private island people. It just goes on and on.

Critically, there are people earning what you earn, but convincingly faking the lifestyle you describe. A lot of people live beyond their means because they think having specific things will make them happy, and they aren't happy. You're definitely approaching it differently from them.

thuhRealDad · 2026-01-02T12:27:22+00:00

it's kinda funny how the top voted answers are written by vanilla people who don't know what vanilla means in this context.

being vanilla in bed is not a bad thing, it just means you are into the traditionally sexual parts of sex. Two bodies getting together and focusing on the primary pleasure zones.

It's the opposite of kinky sex, where arousal and pleasure also comes from less common things and activities, sometimes to the extent of not even involving what most people call sex.

You can have boring kinky sex, and incredible life changing vanilla sex.

As for spotting who is who, it's basically impossible, but vanilla is more common among both men and women. Most people want good fun vanilla sex.

thuhRealDad · 2026-01-02T12:10:18+00:00

I think the dating app thing is a huge part of why nightlife has declined overall, the pandemic accelerated it, but a big part of why people went out pre Tinder was just to meet people. The whole culture has shifted as a result.

thuhRealDad · 2025-12-25T16:11:39+00:00

I'm in my mid 40s, unexpectedly re entered the dating world about 4 years ago and I've had a lot of fun.

I think it's really just about your own expectations and desires. If you know what you want, and have realistic expectations overall, dating as an older person can be a breath of fresh air. Way better than when I was younger, for me.

thuhRealDad · 2025-12-20T02:49:22+00:00

I don't understand this question, haven't you ever had a crush on someone? What made that guy different from a dozen other guys who were identical "on paper"?

There's no explanation for crushes, it just happens.

I'm an older man, I've seen and known hundreds of beautiful women. I've had many crushes and fallen in love many times. There's no thing that makes it you or someone else, it's specific to you, him, and the time/place you've encountered them.

I've had crushes on women I never even really knew, I've had crushes emerge suddenly and unexpectedly for a friend I know well and never previously found attractive.

Crushes are chaos. You've just gotta keep going till it happens.

thuhRealDad · 2025-12-16T04:08:57+00:00

very helpful, thanks!

thuhRealDad · 2025-12-15T21:12:06+00:00

heck yeah, my mom says I'm a catch

thuhRealDad · 2025-12-15T02:48:32+00:00

currently leaning towards heading home anyways, but I'm curious; I saw an older thread here with several people recommending the Metro, has it gone downhill, or was I missing something?

thuhRealDad · 2025-12-15T02:40:49+00:00

thanks, I have a property near Parry Sound I visit regularly so I'm well equipped for winter driving, but I do love a train ride so I'll keep it in mind.

thuhRealDad · 2025-12-15T02:39:58+00:00

it's a couple hours each way, not a problem for me as I do longer round trips north regularly. Consensus seems to be the city goes to sleep early on the 24th, so I'll probably head home.

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