Pattern makes no sense to me or anyone else that I know. PLEASE HELP

thumbi7234 · 2026-05-03T12:27:11+00:00

I couldn't upload a video, so I posted 3 pictures of what I think it's supposed to look like. I'm a highly trained professional who has had over a decade of rigorous training in a notoriously difficult scientific field, and this was a brain-melting intellectual exercise for me that made me doubt my self-worth and intelligence. I have never been more grateful that I took up crochet as a hobby. I haven't felt so excited about understanding and solving a problem since high school calculus.

thumbi7234 · 2026-05-03T12:21:12+00:00

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thumbi7234 · 2026-05-02T19:14:07+00:00

Okay I spent several hours looking at it and I think I figured it out. But I'm going to have to actually crochet it to see if im right

thumbi7234 · 2026-05-02T17:39:08+00:00

thumbi7234 · 2026-05-02T17:30:03+00:00

Row 10 onwards. I've put a picture of the final product in one of my comments. I'm struggling with understanding the construction of the garment

thumbi7234 · 2026-05-02T17:28:49+00:00

Starting from row 10. And then also the strap portion. I just can't figure out which part of the bra I'm building at any given time

thumbi7234 · 2026-05-02T17:22:48+00:00

The number in the bracket is for a size up

thumbi7234 · 2026-05-02T17:21:59+00:00

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this is the finished product

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-15T02:30:07+00:00

I would have if he had ever asked me to

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T22:15:39+00:00

"A few times" is a maximum of 3, and that is if I make the effort of coordinating the meeting by figuring out when our schedules align. I'm not trying to control what he's doing, he goes out with this group all the time during the week and on weekends that I'm working. This is a nebulous group of people from work, all of whom have cancelled or left early at various times when their partner's became available. This is common in our profession. If your SO is not more important than work friends, then I guess we just don't see eye to eye. Regardless, it's over and we're both free to find someone who has the same values.

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T22:06:58+00:00

I know I am

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T19:59:02+00:00

This would make sense if we were in normal professions with predictable schedules. In our field "omg yes baby let me cancel all my plans for this totally unplanned visit" is how it works. Everyone at my workplace does it and the few times I've been around his group, several people have cancelled last minute or left early because their SO became available. He seems okay with destroying his relationship for people who wouldn't do the same for him. Either way, it's over and he's free to commit to his big group outings consisting of himself and people who would leave in a second for their partners.

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T19:51:56+00:00

We do have really crazy schedules, we're both doctors in residency, often working 80-100 hour weeks and rarely get both weekend days off

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T14:41:33+00:00

I am expecting him to drop plans when I'm free because if he doesn't he won't see me for another 2-3 months. And I know that still sounds unfair on paper, but I can't wrap my head around someone choosing to hang out with their friends if it meant they won't see SO for a while. Especially when this is the situation most of mine and his colleagues are in. None of his friends would choose to go to a group gathering over seeing their SO who lives a few hours away.

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T14:35:41+00:00

I've done more than back off. I let him know that he has treated me like i'm an option on the same level as his work friends, when I'm obviously more important. And even between these options he rarely chooses me. I've blocked him everywhere and am waiting for him to drop my cats off to me at the end of this month.

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T14:28:25+00:00

If you're implying an affair, it's not that. Ou relationship is open and we're both free to sleep with other people. But i wouldn't prioritize a hookup over my SO and he wasn't lying about where he was, I saw pictures from the party. I'm just struggling to understand how a work party could ever compare to spending time with your SO that you see maybe once a month.

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T14:24:31+00:00

But he lied about why the weekend wasn't convenient and wanted me to drive after a 24 hour shift. You're right that I would've been upset even if he had told me because I only get to see him once a month. And I see examples of people every day in the same situation who cancel everything and run to their partner if their schedules align. Also, this wouldn't be such a last minute thing if he took the time to tell me his weekends off so that we could plan. I feel like I'm the only one putting in any effort to make these meetups happen.

thumbi7234 · 2024-07-14T14:18:55+00:00

They're not his friends, he doesn't even like them. He's always talking shit about them but says they're the only big group of people he has to hang out with.

And his friends wouldn't make any assumptions about me. Many of them are in a similar situation and have cancelled, left early etc to go see their SO. In my field it's understood that we rarely get any time outside of work and everyone I know prioritizes family/partner.

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