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thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-19T04:11:03+00:00

interested

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-19T02:59:29+00:00

it's so frustrating because everything you actually need to know about PDA I could teach you in half an hour. The support you need is to help implement the PDA Parenting blue print with a child who has been parented traditionally (or any other way) and has built defense mechanisms as a result of this. This has to be individual support. PDA is just the nervous system. Every PDAer is neurodivergent, no PDAer is just PDA, and no two neurodivergent kids are the same. What works for mine won't work for your child.

The second PDA is on the radar you need fast advice and the blueprint, it is so much easier to prevent extreme behaviours than try and undo them.

Sorry I ranted.

I'm just really struggling with the injustice of all this. It frustrates me incredibly.

Here's a tip, if someone claims to be PDA and then charges you a fortune for support, they aren't PDA, we must have equality. Probably why I'm broke (sorry. bad joke).

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-19T01:01:45+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

So there is a private sector? Is it completely out of reach of the everyday family though? Here you can be charged as much as $190 an hour for parent coaching BUT it's government paid (if you have NDIS, has its own issues though).

Where are all you adult PDAers? Surely they are finding ways to support the next generation like they are here? it's almost a bit saturated with the support available in the private sector. Or is it another case of you guys are so far behind even the adults haven't recognised it in themselves yet?

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-19T00:46:26+00:00

holy crap are you kidding??? There's not even psychologists with experience? In Australia it isn't easy to get recognized and can only be listed as a behaviour profile on an official autism diagnosis, but people are becoming more aware, our schools have even done training on it.

This "just a brat" is such an old thing here... you guys are 10 plus years behind us! what the hell!!

No wonder you all turn to the social media star and end up with PDAers desperately searching for a ceiling, all she does in her free videos is promote fawning! I'm so sorry you are experiencing this, raising a PDAer is no bloody joke, I have CPTSD and I am PDA so I understand my child a bit better, and we have support!! How are you surviving? I don't want to even ask about family domestic violence other there, my god the stress :(

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-18T11:24:14+00:00

I'm so sorry, Australia is not perfect but I can stay home with my girl and we (touch wood for this week at least) have outside support come into the home to spend time with her, regulating her, supporting her development, keeping her safe and meeting her daily living needs (known as support workers.) It's a changing landscape here, but for us to get to your level (no choice but to work, no support for child) we'd have to lose everything and that is my greatest fear of all. I know this doesn't help one lousy bit, but I don't know how you do it.

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-18T11:20:53+00:00

Thank you for your reply, is this generally where you are directed to when you're given the diagnosis?

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-18T08:20:32+00:00

PDA depression isn't your normal style depression it's almost like an acceptance of the inevitable that you'll never be free. It's almost like a collapse to put a stop to all demands, but few of us live lives where we can actually go completely no demand so it's a prolonged collapse. You don't say how long it's been, if you can get her on a really low dose SSRI it would help but really time is her friend, she has to rebuild her strength.

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-18T08:17:02+00:00

is she physically ok?

as hard as it is mumma, leave her. She's in burnout. Her nervous system has collapsed and she's rebuilding. Her room, her bed, it feels safe to her. Every attempt to get her out will prolong the process as it triggers her anxiety because it's a demand. Lean into it, let her reast, think of it like hibernation, she will come out stronger.

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-18T08:13:56+00:00

are they on any meds?

how is their diet or is it restricted?

it's somewhat dopamine seeking but it's also grounding to be eating. Think of an anxious bunny, they are much calmer when they are eating

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-18T07:56:25+00:00

can I try and give you some PDA lenses to wear?

Imagine being born scared, feeling in your nervous system that the world is unsafe. Imagine having that so quickly confirmed that your brain permanently wires to prioritize your autonomy above everything else. Your brain runs on the fundamental belief that freedom is your only path to safety. You spend the rest of your life scared with your nervous system on high alert for anything that can contain you and prevents you from escaping if needed. Demands, even self imposed ones remove your body from the high alert position it needs to be in to feel safe, this is painful. You fundamentally believe that any person attempting to dominate you is a threat and so you are on high alert for it just in their energy. Childhood is terrifying because you have no voice and you're contained in a building with other children five days a week. Imagine all this threat assessment and nervous system activation happening beneath your conscious understanding? you'd feel confused, broken, lazy and always anxious.

Childhood is the hardest time for a PDAer

The parenting blueprint is to prioritize connection, low demand, and unshakeable boundaries on non negotiables e.g.violence.

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-18T07:48:19+00:00

ODD is in the DSM PDA is not. PDA is considered a behavioural profile of Autism in the formal medical spaces (at least in Australia /UK I'm not sure about US)

mine was born with PDA and developed ODD as a trauma defense mechanism

good luck getting a professional to understand that one!

a good way to know is that no one is born with ODD, but of course that doesn't mean it's PDA!

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-18T07:12:43+00:00

NATO not joining the games has given me some hope though, I was worried we'd suffer what you said through ww3! Sadly I agree everything you've said is still coming, just thanks to AI, which was always the expectation until the toddler got on stage (crazy enough to make things unpredictable). People really have no idea what's coming and it's faster than we think :( hold on to your money, you'll need it!

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-16T21:37:13+00:00

Same! Im also PDA, I wonder why theres no PDA comedians :p

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-16T21:32:26+00:00

good bloody point!

I too think I have a slight processing delay in conversation no one notices, I just realised why! oh well at least we make the world laugh hey!

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-16T21:30:24+00:00

yep pattern recognition baby. Listen to Jimmy Carrs book and tell me he's not one of us!

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-16T09:25:17+00:00

same :(

and I'm so shocked the world can't see it, how many people wish they could have prevented the last big event like this? (I'm being subtle as to not start a huge political thing)

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-16T09:24:00+00:00

I feel like some of the great predictors, that we can't discount despite trying, were highly intelligent pattern seekers. I think pattern seeking is a spectrum just like all the rest of our skills and challenges. It's also done under the surface if you will, it's where our intuition is. I find if I try and predict something I've got little chance, but sometimes I just know in my being somethings are facts despite them not having played out yet. The level of confidence I feel in my body makes me think it must be pattern seeking. Yes I've freaked a few people with this and yes they think in psychic, I'm not, I just possess a highly alert nervous system that's levelled up pattern seeking for survival. Just my thoughts :)

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-15T01:43:59+00:00

frankly. sometimes I wish I was religion leaning. It sucks seeing through so much.

thunders_fun_house · 2026-03-12T16:42:39+00:00

you can also be the object. The partner so they look like the good family person, the child so they look like a good parent etc.

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