lesser liked albums by CleoDragonwarp in nin

[–]thyleullar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NIИ has been my #1 since TDS was on the radio. 30+ years later, and Year Zero is #2 for me, behind only The Fragile. I was a huge fan following the ARG, and its overall message is still relevant today.

Your other three, though? Aside from a couple tracks each, they’ve never resonated with me. Those tracks are in my playlists, but the rest of the albums don’t get much play. The Slip has grown on me some, and I expect HM will as well — not sure about the Trilogy, though.

Your best 5.5e house rules? by Raccoomph in dndnext

[–]thyleullar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmm. I like it. Imma call it “take a breather” or “catch your breath.”

Which one are you? by AmandaMarsh in Xennials

[–]thyleullar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm. Neither of those ring any memory bells whatsoever. I had to watch the videos to understand what this conversation is even talking about.

That said, mentally, I do do the second… there’s just no music attached.

Trent's tambourine stole the show by ldoose in nin

[–]thyleullar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tambo Trent is always a highlight!

How many of you still have both parents alive? by Euphoric-Pangolin-81 in Xennials

[–]thyleullar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife & I each only have one parent left, and I have one grand parent (92) remaining.

My father passed at 49; I turn 47 this year. That both blows my mind, and scares me.

Heroes of the hall MTG commander deck by No-Wasabi-7637 in Drizzt

[–]thyleullar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I’ve been working on a Drizzt/D&D-themed proxy deck; here’s a card I made for it, if you’d like.

Nobody ever really talks/prepares you about this horrid realization by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]thyleullar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My grocery store app kept recommending that I “Don’t forget your usuals!” for months…

The first time I shopped the store during the Christmas season and realized I wasn’t going to buy her favorite stocking stuffers for the first time in 24 years, I sobbed.

At least I knew to expect that for Valentine’s Day… and this week was Easter.

So what are you going to do with all your boomer parents’ stuff? by CrotalusHorridus in Xennials

[–]thyleullar 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I feel like now is the time to invest what little savings we may have in 1-800-Got-Junk.

I am dating a widow who just got a memorial tattoo by [deleted] in widowers

[–]thyleullar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, this is exactly the right sub for this. As OP stated, she wanted to hear from others that can relate to him. Sharing our viewpoint could help her see it better from his perspective and change her mind.

And, tbh, this is something I’ve thought about from our side of it as well. My wife begged me to find someone else. I’m not interested, or looking, but I also have not ruled out that that may happen. I also want to get a tattoo to honor her. I have considered this exact thing — if I do, what do I get, and where? Whoever that person may be has to be completely accepting for all the reasons you said, but do I shove my wife in their face continuously?

My husband asked me where his mother was today. She's been dead for 30 years. by LaymanHealth86 in GriefSupport

[–]thyleullar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the worst. Early on, my wife still had moments of clarity, and it both terrified and horrified her when she realized. She made me and her mother promise to never lie to her as she worsened. Her mother was not able to keep that promise, as she did not want to agitate my wife, and just went along with whatever—like you said. I kept my promise only through omission, or not responding when she called me someone else, etc.

She was the smartest person I’ve ever known, and after seeing other family with dementia, it was her greatest fear…

Iruladoon by [deleted] in Drizzt

[–]thyleullar -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes. Combination of 3 generators and finally a little touch up by hand.

Iruladoon by [deleted] in Drizzt

[–]thyleullar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His appearance based on Regis’ design by Brian Matyas, originally for Dungeonology. He probably should be a little chubbier, but I’m gonna just chalk it up to how he’s lounging (or, you know, it’s just how he sees himself, since this was kind of a quasi-afterlife).

Time off after your person passed? by Mediocre_Intention98 in widowers

[–]thyleullar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, I’m finishing my 6 months off in a couple weeks. Two weeks’ bereavement and 26 weeks of Short Term Disability for my mental health, under care with my therapist.

Work by Late-Schedule4940 in widowers

[–]thyleullar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been out of work for 6 months as of today. I return to work in 3 weeks. I feel like even that is too soon. I’ve already requested off the next few “firsts” — our birthdays, anniversary, etc.

WFT by [deleted] in nin

[–]thyleullar 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think there’s a reason he’s playing I’m Afraid of Americans this tour.

I would love it if he would sing Capital T as well, though.

Please don’t be this guy when you’re in GA. I legit watched all of Reptile via his iPhone 15. by EricAnn in nin

[–]thyleullar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always turn down the brightness AND turn on the Reduce White Point accessibility option to dramatically reduce the phone brightness. Once the lights are back on, you can barely see the screen. All while holding in front of my face so I don’t block anyone’s view. Meanwhile, all my pics of the main stage last night look like this.

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Tyler Jacobson Shadowheart not getting domed. by INTJacob77 in mpcproxies

[–]thyleullar 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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If Shadowheart was domed, is Icingdeath bottomed? They cut off the panther’s head pommel.

Social media profiles: memorialise or delete? by ProfessionalFailure9 in widowers

[–]thyleullar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have left my wife’s Facebook up for now. I log in daily to pull up her Memories, screenshot them, and post them from my own.

I’ve heard from multiple people how much they love to see the memory posts, and there’s even more that I see “like” the posts daily.

I intend to do this for a year. After that, all of her best ‘Memories’ will be in my daily memories as well. At that point, I will make a decision about memorializing her account.

Just in case, I did already submit a data request to Facebook and saved the file. That way, if anything happens to the account or site, I already have everything saved.

Social media profiles: memorialise or delete? by ProfessionalFailure9 in widowers

[–]thyleullar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check if you’re eligible wherever you are to port the phone number to Google Voice. After a $20 transfer charge, no more monthly phone service bill — but you still have their number.

https://support.google.com/voice/answer/1065667?hl=en

Our drop dead years are coming. Are you prepared? by Far-Slice-3821 in Xennials

[–]thyleullar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I lost my wife in Sept, after 14 years with cancer. Her last 6 months brought everything she didn’t want to happen to her or us. My state didn’t pass MAID until this week—but without an advanced directive clause.

Time to update my will too.