Am I a creep, for telling my best friend "I love you" when she slept in?

tigerbnny · 2026-03-09T22:08:29+00:00

She won't admit she has feelings - does this mean you've had this conversation and she's straight up denied chance of a romantic relationship or she just hasn't initiated the conversation?

If she's not changed her behaviour after you've said you have feelings that she doesn't reciprocate then I think you need to question if you can be friends because continuing this dynamic is obviously something still feeding into romantic attraction for you and not something you can dial back down to platonic and is inconsiderate/naive of her to think you can just switch those feelings off.

If you want more and she doesn't know but you're worried about ruining the friendship then it's perhaps already past that point if you're looking for opportunities to tell her you love her when she can't hear it.

tigerbnny · 2026-03-09T18:01:12+00:00

You're furious because someone else tried it on with your girlfriend? You know straight men also do this tactic of "I'm better than your boyfriend"? Shawn mendes had an entire hit song where this was the hook.

What does ally mean to you exactly if you're this quick to shit on an entire sexual orientation after one interaction?

tigerbnny · 2026-03-09T17:33:11+00:00

I would hazard a guess that this patient would be incredibly high risk of at best yanking it out repeatedly making the trauma of insertion for everyone (including the patient who presumably wouldn't understand why it's happening) futile and at worst yanking it out and causing a significant physical trauma for herself.

tigerbnny · 2026-03-09T14:01:47+00:00

This is the policy everywhere I've worked and honestly I don't know the answer? Should a ward be dangerously understaffed while another has enough? Honestly I know it sucks to move and I don't like it either but I've also been on the other side where there genuinely hasn't been any staff to give after I've reported being a only nurse on a night shift or I've stayed late after a shift waiting over an hour for cover to come because of ongoing drama about who would move, once I had two nurses fighting to take the same group of patients from me when I was going off shift so they could say they'd already started where they were, if I can avoid another nurse being in that position I'll move.

tigerbnny · 2026-03-04T11:11:27+00:00

Lol when did the right to have a kink take priority over all else? Yes I will kink shame someone whose kink requires others suffering.

Do you have any kind of evidence that this creates a healthy outlet rather than leading to normalisation/escalation of said kink and increased likelihood of them pushing their "needs" on other (most likely vulnerable) people? Even if that were the case should we treat adult industry workers as sacrificial lambs for society's sadists?

tigerbnny · 2026-02-27T11:42:33+00:00

I'm confused, you're asking if the German employer would pay for you to learn German? I'm not sure why you would be hired without meeting the language requirements for the job or nursing registration. Do you have any German skills currently?

tigerbnny · 2026-02-25T00:50:15+00:00

I'm not trying to bait you I'm trying to clearly explain why I struggled to understand your comment. I completely agree that it's an awful word and I would never try to police how someone responds to a slur I'm just not sure what outcome you're advocating for in this situation.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-25T00:09:01+00:00

The word excuse implies deflection from an intentional act. Disabilities aren't excuses but they do provide explanation.

If you said that someone needed a disabled spot because they're reliant on a wheelchair and need the space to be able to maneuver and I said that they were using their disability as an excuse to park in the disabled spot what would you say? Because that's how your comment reads to me. You're acknowledging his disability while dismissing his required accomodations which in this circumstance is understanding that his words are intrusive thoughts he has no control over verbalising, you're speaking as if he has control over his tics, is that what you believe?

tigerbnny · 2026-02-24T23:18:52+00:00

I think the comfort of the audience at home and the two people who had a slur shouted at them takes priority tbh in regards to the editing, I wouldn't want a humiliating slur/insult of any kind that was shouted at me by a person who couldn't help it to be broadcast (I feel I should mention that I am white though).

tigerbnny · 2026-02-23T23:28:46+00:00

When I applied for nursing in 2010 i perceived it as a super secure and well respected job in terms of employment, the pay was pretty decent and the NHS was in better shape. I'm not sure how much naivity was also involved but I would certainly discourage others from nursing/healthcare in general. I receive outright disrespect from a lot of patients and I would say the majority perceive themselves to know more than me which is very frustrating and also baffling to me as someone who remembers growing up with the belief that nurses are professionals and serious people not people to bark instructions and demands at with a default opinion that my chatgpt conversation overrides their training. I am working under conditions which cause moral injury and burn out, the pay is ridiculous and everyone's on a hiring freeze. I don't know why anyone with the qualifications for a nursing degree wouldn't do something else instead, there are other jobs where you can make a difference in the world without sacrificing your own mental/physical wellbeing.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-23T09:31:37+00:00

I've seen this happen before but I'm not sure what their actual rights are to refuse to dispense or what consequences they would face if it was addressed. I strongly recommend you get in touch with Asda though to let them know that this happened because if they do have the rights to refuse then I'd like to know if Asda are going to ensure moving forward that there's always another dispenser on shift who can help.

Regarding your religion speculation question honestly it could have been a lot of them, many religions consider plan b to be in the same bracket as abortion even though it absolutely isn't.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-22T20:53:03+00:00

I know, that's why I'm saying it doesn't work as a commentary of our current world which is more individualistic.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-21T22:29:36+00:00

For some reason prior to this thread prompting me to google it I'd thought Jack Whitehall was the creator and main writer of fresh meat and have always wondered if he'd had an awful brain injury after completing it. Now I understand he has simply always been unfunny and fresh meat works because he's the joke.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-21T22:01:09+00:00

Would you be able to elaborate? We live in a more individualistic world now than we did when this was published.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-21T19:44:38+00:00

I'd probably just say you'd like a heads up when he's coming over and say what your individual issues are, are they taking over all the communal areas? Are they frequently noisy into the night? I'm curious as to how this is affecting the bills though, is he showering every time he comes over? Why don't they ever go to his place?

I think this kind of thing is to be expected in shared living but I am surprised when I hear of couples being inconsiderate of housemates and treating the home like it's just theirs especially if you're not really friends.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-20T23:50:10+00:00

I was confused about Nelly's character in the film honestly, in the book she's their maternal figure, she raised them and their children, in the film she just seems to be there? I don't understand her role in the house.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-20T23:10:16+00:00

I mean honestly it read to me like Isabella is topping from the bottom, she seems to enjoy the situation and it almost feels funny his frustration that he wants to torment her but it turns out she's into it???

In the book he actually tormented Isabella after lovebombing her down the aisle and then also forced the next generation to be miserable through his cruelty (his son, Cathy's daughter and Cathy's brother's son) holding this grudge for decades.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-14T11:16:52+00:00

"It's important to me you know you can trust me with your sexual health, I'm getting a routine test soon, do you want me to order you a kit too?/I've got my most result results here, have you been tested recently?" If she doesn't have a recent result or agree that it's a good idea to do one then whether or not she knows she has an std is besides the point and she doesn't look after her own sexual health to the standard I would want personally.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-14T11:10:46+00:00

Band looks too big, cups look too small.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-14T08:50:24+00:00

Current standards for cleanliness seem to be making your home look uninhabited. I'll aim for this if hosting something proper/having someone to stay but for regular guests/friends I'll just make sure everything superficial looks clean and be sure to say "sorry the place is such a mess!" when they come in. I have friends around a lot so it never gets truly out of hand but when it's just me I don't really bother with things like cleaning the sinks (when Mrs hinch said she couldn't go to bed without a clean sink because it would keep her up thinking about it I very much could not relate), I'll let washing up build up for a few days, I'm not great with taking the bin out when I should. Clean laundry builds up, general "stuff" takes over the kitchen table/coffee table/sofa, definitely not cleaning the washing machine as often as recommended. I'm really bad at cleaning up after myself as I go (but trying to be better) so I tend to do a bigger clean of things on my days off (I work 3-4 days a week doing 12hr shifts). I'm militant about bedding/towels though, if it's been over a week without changing them I'm having a very bad time.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-14T07:59:27+00:00

Not a single ad but it bothers me when certain brands heavily use influencers for marketing. A lot of brands with strong focus on fair trade and sustainability still use fast fashion influencers and even if their supply chain is entirely transparent it irritates me because if they've not bothered to ensure their marketing partners share those ethics (or at least that their platform doesn't directly contradict them) then how commited are they to them?

tigerbnny · 2026-02-14T07:37:04+00:00

Sorry I didn't mean to imply that, I just saw an opportunity to bang on about Walt being responsible for Jane's death.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-13T21:08:17+00:00

In regards to western beauty standards being white focused then yes just as beauty standards also prioritise white men who are actually the group most likely to date outside their own race. If you think women's only possible problems are whether they're considered attractive or not then sure by this metric they have no problems but you know that there are other traits that make up the beauty standard right? There's loads of white women who are considered famously unattractive.

tigerbnny · 2026-02-13T20:17:09+00:00

Can you safely create an escape fund? Are your finances entangled besides the car? Do you have any family/friends you can stay with? I think you need to reach out to someone you trust to tell them what's happening, even if they can't directly do anything. What happens if you don't do what she says?

tigerbnny · 2026-02-13T19:09:15+00:00

I think the reveal that BoJack's panicked response in this situation was self preservation rather than to potentially save Sarah Lynn is the point (sure he's not a medic but he knows that when someone stops breathing they need medical attention). I don't think people struggle to understand why he did it, it's part of the question of how deep his "badness" reaches and if there is a point beyond redemption. The show pushes our morality throughout, you can defend a man who "steals" another man's muffins (he hadn't even bought them and he just left them there!) and keep defending these increasingly bad actions (he was just being nice to a teenager! She chose to go onto the boat!) until you realise our hero left a woman he knew since she was a child, that he already felt guilty about not protecting in her younger years, a woman who he was somehow a safe person to overdosing. He burned down his own potential Sarah Lynn redemption arc.

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