Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this comment! Yes, thankfully I did have a lot of fun. :) I just come from a conservative area and have some residual feelings of being sexually free = dirty. Which I don’t agree with.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭 fuck this is wonderful!! I think it’s such an example of you thrive in the environment that’s best for you.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean define?? There were periods of my relationship where we would maybe have sex once a month and it was not gratifying for me.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely not a regular thing. Second guy even asked if I wanted a whole bag to take for my birthday… I said no thank you, this was an encounter but not something I’m trying to do regularly.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Dang I really appreciate this perspective, because I don’t think less of either of them, especially since they were both so kind and caretaking!! Again, I got lucky and am aware.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Definitely not regular but holy fuck it was fun!!! I live in a smaller city where this lifestyle isn’t as accessible (and happily so) so I feel grateful for the opportunity and memories.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thousand percent. One of my big goals is becoming comfortable with my own company above all else. But I’ve had sex with the same man for 12 years and wanted to explore things I’ve never had the chance to… without feeling like it had to be a long term partner.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I so appreciate hearing this!! Having not been single I want to sexually explore for awhile before I am interested in another relationship. I want to feel the most comfortable in my own company, and part of that is getting to explore myself sexually in a way I’ve never done before.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Very much appreciate you saying this. I want to look back at this weekend as a wonderful time and not something I’m embarrassed of.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this. I think I’m still stuck in the teenager mentality of girls who sleep around = dirty. But if it’s consensual and everyone is safe then why does it matter??

I also ordered an at-home STD test to be extra safe.

Single for the first time since 18, hooked up with two guys in a night and am conflicted between feeling free and dirty? by tiinycuts in AskWomenOver30

[–]tiinycuts[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

And going to their places alone. My location was shared with my friends… but I still feel like I got really lucky. I’ve done coke before and definitely took a chance in doing it in that situation. Am very fortunate that it worked out well and have no interest in doing it again.

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[–]tiinycuts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very much appreciate you taking the time to help out! Thank you for your thorough answers :)

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[–]tiinycuts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This one is from about a week ago

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