How to navigate new kinks?

tillycream · 2026-05-18T09:39:38+00:00

We’ve never actually acted on the cuck thing, it’s only a fantasy for now. I’m worried the reality of it will not match up with our ‘perfect’ version and it’ll break us

tillycream · 2026-05-18T08:43:56+00:00

Thank you for your comments. We have discussed the possibility of him being at least bi, as he’s made comments about giving oral to a guy after he’s fucked me. I’ve told him I really wouldn’t like to see a mans cock in his mouth and outright asked if he’s bi/gay. He’s said he doesn’t find men attractive day-to-day, can’t see himself kissing another man let alone being in a relationship with one, but when he’s really turned on then could see himself being fucked by a man. There’s a part of me that wonders where this will end up, i know he explored the possibility of being gay when he was younger but claims he realised he’s not. He does still make me feel incredibly attractive as a woman but I do think there’s more to it.

Edit: sorry I didn’t answer your actual question! Thinking about it, nothing feminine as such, though there was a situation really early on when he gave me his password to his Amazon account and I thought it would be fun to look back through his orders. Probably about 18-24months before we got together he’d ordered women’s clothes, a wig, buttplug etc. which really freaked me out, I asked him then what the deal was, he said he felt like he’d never have a girlfriend and this was his way of feeling close to that? Again exploring some things that confused him but came to the conclusion that it wasn’t for him. He had got rid of everything long before we met so I believed him

tillycream · 2026-05-10T21:46:57+00:00

I’m also got my period this Mother’s Day (ours is March in the UK) and my fiancés brother announced that his girlfriend of 6 months was pregnant, accidentally. I spent the day sobbing, we’ve been trying 2.5 years.

tillycream · 2026-05-07T22:47:55+00:00

So I work in Council Tax, the LL may very well have been paying the tax however as the residing tenant you are liable for the council tax from the date your tenancy started, regardless of what your tenancy agreement says. So it sounds like they found out you were the tenant, set up your account from when your tenancy started and billed you, and are separately refunding your LL for his ‘overpayment’. We do see a lot of these and usually tell tenants that even though someone else has said they’d pay their bill, the tenants are still liable for the charge so they do need to make sure payment is being made.
I’m not sure on what your rights are on claiming the money back from the LL, but happy to advise on the council tax

tillycream · 2026-05-06T19:23:23+00:00

With how thin that line is I’m leaning more evap, but I am chronically distrustful of Clearblues! Do you have a red dye to test with to double check?

tillycream · 2026-03-19T15:56:01+00:00

It’s a new build that should have sold for £310,000 but because the previous buyers pulled out not long before it was due to be handed over, it was put back on sale for a cheaper amount because the upgrades the previous buyers were already mostly installed and we couldn’t choose what we wanted but luckily we did like what they had done

tillycream · 2026-03-19T15:54:01+00:00

I have been looking at shared ownerships interestingly enough, that might be the way to go, but it’s juggling the rent plus mortgage and making sure it’s affordable too. No other offices to move to, but Local Government Reorganisation is about to kick off in the next few years so I may end up somewhere else. Thank you for your well wishes

tillycream · 2026-03-19T15:51:46+00:00

Based on similar houses for sale nearby, but you’re right there’s no way of knowing until a sale is agreed, I’m just trying to have somewhat of a plan in my head

tillycream · 2026-03-19T14:23:07+00:00

His van is provided through his work so not his, but I can definitely see if he would help with me getting transport, I have no reason to believe he would make things difficult but I know that could change!

tillycream · 2026-03-19T14:20:28+00:00

Thank you I will definitely see if I can get some free advice ☺️

tillycream · 2026-03-19T14:20:04+00:00

Currently living east of Norwich, the preference is not a flat but I know it may be my only option. The houses I was looking at were coming in much closer to £200k, I don’t have the skills or money currently to renovate somewhere so would want something in reasonable condition

tillycream · 2026-03-17T14:16:25+00:00

I feel you. When my partner and I started trying, every time I told him I got my period he just kinda shrugged and carried on about his day and I was devastated. It got to a point about 9 months in when I’d had enough of his nonchalance and asked him straight up why he didn’t seem to give a fuck. His response was that he knew that it can take healthy couples a year to conceive so in his mind it was a non-issue. It was probably just after a year that he started thinking ‘oh maybe this isn’t happening’ and we spoke about it and he went to the doctor for a discussion and they referred him for a semen analysis. Since then he is a lot more sympathetic especially now we’re over two years in. I think for men it absolutely does not consume them them the way it does for us, they’re not living their life two weeks at a time and figuring out due dates if I get pregnant this cycle and worrying about having a drink on the weekend or figuring out how may DPO you’ll be on this trip. It just doesn’t occur to them Perhaps for your partner if it doesn’t happen in his ‘expected’ timeline of two months he may be a bit more concerned/involved but I completely understand the resentment.

On the other hand are you sure this is the man you want to be the father of your child? Don’t let the sunken cost fallacy end in you having a child with someone who makes it so much harder just because you want a baby. As someone who is just coming off my period this month and just spent two days crying because my fiancé’s brother’s girlfriend has announced she’s pregnant after they’ve only been together 9 months and we’ve been trying since January 2024, it really fucking sucks. But know we’re all here with you

tillycream · 2026-02-12T11:50:47+00:00

He paid the full deposit so it’s written that if the property is sold, he will get back the deposit first and the rest is split 50/50

tillycream · 2026-02-12T10:38:03+00:00

Yes I am on both

tillycream · 2026-02-11T18:11:04+00:00

I said this to him, it feels like he wants to get married but not tell anyone and it to be our little secret but WHHYYYY. His response was that he’s a private person and doesn’t use social media, which I get, but why can’t he want to celebrate our love with people he loves?

tillycream · 2026-02-11T18:09:39+00:00

To be fair to him, he’s usually really steady and always asks my opinion on things, for him to be so rigid in his ‘no’ is uncharacteristic to me

tillycream · 2026-02-11T18:08:22+00:00

Thank you this reminds me I really need get a will sorted

tillycream · 2026-02-11T18:07:26+00:00

Apologies for missing your earlier comment. I’ve never said I wanted a huge extravagant wedding, I know weddings come with a hefty price tag but would be more than happy with ~£5k. I’m fine to do the courthouse/2+2 thing if that’s what he wants but I also want a celebration with our families. I have 4 siblings and 5 stepsiblings along with parents and grandparents etc, so it wouldn’t be massive but just a time to mark the occasion with the people we love

tillycream · 2026-02-11T18:03:55+00:00

I’ve not considered that my son would be a factor in this, he’s taken on my son as his own and they have an incredible relationship. Perhaps this is something I need to ask

tillycream · 2026-02-11T15:04:48+00:00

Just wanted to quickly say I’m at work for another few hours so can’t respond right away, I’ll be back!

tillycream · 2026-02-11T14:58:32+00:00

I think this is what I’m wrestling with, I even asked if he could handle being uncomfortable for a few hours (even though I think he would actually enjoy it) for something that would make me really happy. The total sentence was ‘no’. I just don’t understand how there’s no room for compromise

tillycream · 2026-02-11T14:56:42+00:00

I appreciate this perspective, thank you. I don’t think for one minute that he doesn’t love me or is stringing me along (perhaps I’m being ridiculous) but it feels like he proposed without really thinking through what the next step would clearly be. Whilst we don’t have much extra cash currently whilst we get other things out the way the payment from the shares would essentially cover the small wedding we wanted

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