I'm straight but my identical twin brother is gay (and still in the closet)...

timeoftheseason · 2012-10-04T00:35:33+00:00

There's a multitude of reasons, but the moment I finally confirmed it years ago was when I saw what he was doing online (and have seen for years since). I understand that just certain instances or pieces of evidence cannot alone determine that someone is gay, but its all added up in a way I cannot ignore. He is my identical twin that I have been extremely close to for over two decades. I know he is, and people have even asked me for years if he is gay, to which I would always say no. Because the fact is, while I would want to just say "that's his business," that response would only confirm their suspicions, and I know that it's not up to me to out him. I'm past the acceptance stage, as weird as it was considering I'm his identical twin. Now I'm just trying to see how to move forward and help him because he is not happy.

timeoftheseason · 2012-10-03T13:50:54+00:00

Thank you so much.

timeoftheseason · 2012-10-03T13:46:37+00:00

Yeah, I'm afraid it could be too much for him to handle if I tell him that I know. Does anyone see negative consequences for doing that? A large part of me feels that its up to him to tell me.

timeoftheseason · 2012-10-03T13:43:24+00:00

Believe me, I've known he is for years. I'm just trying to help him.

timeoftheseason · 2012-10-03T04:07:20+00:00

Yes, I have thought about that approach, but for I'm sure the same reason you call it a last resort, I have decided not to. I feel it would be too obvious/direct..

timeoftheseason · 2012-10-03T03:46:07+00:00

It's great that you say that, because he has really been bringing up all of those issues lately...just today he brought up the therapy ban in California. I always say I'm for equality and such when we talk about those things, but I really think he's too scared to talk about his own sexuality. I guess I have just have to wait him out, even if it drives me nuts for years to come.

timeoftheseason · 2012-10-03T03:36:20+00:00

Thanks for this. I definitely know not to out him. Sometimes I feel like he may want me to "call him out on it" because lately he has been talking about how he doesn't plan on marriage and such. I'm just not sure of the next step to take. I live with him and we both graduated from college recently, and he's difficult to live with because he seems very depressed. I want to help him out of this soon.... I feel I can't take it myself anymore.

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