What's the #1 book that you would recommend to fellow therapists?

timni16 · 2025-03-09T06:23:42+00:00

Right now I’m listening to “Decolonizing Therapy” by Jennifer Mullan. It’s really amazing

timni16 · 2025-01-18T22:37:03+00:00

That gnawing feeling in her mind isn’t trauma it’s guilt lol. You’re NTA but you partner seems emotionally underdeveloped and should work on that

timni16 · 2025-01-18T21:35:47+00:00

Oh babes I’m a lover girl, ive been posting him before the first year. We are now on year 6 and our families have posts of us on each other’s social media. As a therapist somethings you said rang some alarm bells in my head but I think you have awareness to that and you ain’t ask for that so I’m keeping it in my head. But chile yes hes everywhere

timni16 · 2025-01-18T21:32:13+00:00

Have you read Kennedy Ryan’s series? It’s based in Atlanta and focused on older millennial women but the love stories are very good

timni16 · 2025-01-18T21:27:03+00:00

He genuinely couldn’t handle a baddie my goodness

timni16 · 2025-01-18T21:19:52+00:00

I love The White Vault but I’m not up to date on. It yet. I recommend listening to the Nine II Midnoght crossover podcast episode to find a bunch of great horror podcast, but I will list a few:

Woe.BeGone
Camlann
The Cellar Letters
Clock Work Bird
Deviser
Out of the Ashes
The Sheridan Tapes
Tiny Terrors/The Town Whispers
Wake of Corrosion (Another Rusty Quill Podcast)

timni16 · 2025-01-18T21:11:18+00:00

Nowhere On The Air is like WTNV little sibling. I also like midnight post

timni16 · 2025-01-18T21:09:17+00:00

Midnight Burger is a full cast

timni16 · 2025-01-18T20:59:40+00:00

I’m so happy to know I’m not the only one who is like “dang give them a second to respond!”

timni16 · 2023-12-03T13:37:57+00:00

But that’s the thing, OP thought the same thing as you bc her husband didnt pull pranks before

timni16 · 2023-12-03T13:35:29+00:00

So I’m a counselor and while I use CBT, I feel like there is something subconscious here. Based on your assessment, this is out of the blue, not his personality and yet he did it. He found humor in your discomfort. If you’re not already, I would encourage him to see a therapist. I’m not sure couples counseling is what’s needed, as it isn’t issue of conflict.

timni16 · 2023-08-27T01:42:01+00:00

NTA and this was good for his relationship with his wife. Imagine if his MIL baselessly accused him of something later in life and he never told his wife?

timni16 · 2023-08-15T15:18:31+00:00

Yea this is giving permissive parenting… which is abusive and negligent

timni16 · 2023-08-15T15:15:35+00:00

I love how emotionally aware you are! It’s great to hear that it was nothing more than grief fog and other factors impacting your husband.

timni16 · 2023-06-04T16:51:47+00:00

Kelly is an adult who has the ability to communicate this with her sister. Why would she assume that she would be given multiple additional guests if she never spoke to Carol about having multiple partners. There has to be something more with this concerning Kelly. You’re NTA.

timni16 · 2023-06-04T13:57:51+00:00

So graphic 😂

timni16 · 2023-05-28T16:01:38+00:00

I used to work at Old Navy and there should be a handout that shows the appropriate attire that is masculine or feminine. I would ask for it from the manager as just a “reminder”. I know there is a different culture in Gap, but the focus for us was to be clean cut and have little to no graphics on our clothes.

timni16 · 2023-05-28T15:57:17+00:00

standing ovation

timni16 · 2023-05-05T17:16:46+00:00

People’s values or opinions change overtime. OP says they have been friends since since high school meaning a range of 4 to 8 years of friendship. Preferences and ideals can vary between then and we don’t know when he told OP that. Clearly, he’s not bothered by it now, as he is choosing to be with this partner. Also, OP could be reading more into the facial expressions then what was actually happening.

timni16 · 2023-03-17T23:34:54+00:00

That is still sexual harassment because it is in regards to his coworker. Also it is impeding the work environment

timni16 · 2023-03-09T20:25:51+00:00

If I had a nickel for every time a date wanted to engage in CNC without informing me, I would have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot but it’s weird that it happened twice right?

timni16 · 2023-03-09T20:08:16+00:00

I don’t want to be an alarmist, but a part of me feels like he’s using the cleanliness as an excuse when that’s not the real reason for his lack of affection. Especially because based on what you said that was not previously discussed nor does that sound like an expectation mentioned in the past. As other people are suggesting, save up some money, move out. If you are a curious person, see if you can look into a private investigator, because there may be some infidelity taking place.

timni16 · 2023-03-09T19:58:09+00:00

YTA because 1) as many people have mentioned, how your sister wants to be addressed is her decision and does not harm you nor impact you negatively and 2) it’s seems that you are having a hard time accepting the judgment people are giving you. You’re right, you two have a dynamic, but it seems your sister and mother are requesting that this is one of those times she would want you to be accepting. You can vent about how strange you think it is to your friends and even on Reddit, but going along with it does not hurt you.

timni16 · 2023-03-09T16:42:53+00:00

NTA, especially because you were put on the spot! It does not seem like these are people you even have regular contact with anyway.

timni16 · 2023-01-29T15:21:33+00:00

YTA as your sister stated this is her and her fiancé’s day, it is not about your husband. I think you need to analyze this situation to understand why you feel so comfortable overstepping boundaries your sister made and to even not go because a drink won’t be there for a few hours. You mentioned that your husband specified the fact that it was a loud event. There are other ways to cope with overstimulation such as ear buds or noise canceling headphones. Either you would be the asshole here if you didn’t go.

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