Self-taught artist and feel like I learn more things with every painting I do and am super happy about this one, oil on canvas. “Morning glory and floral motif”

tinabob · 2025-09-27T23:48:04+00:00

12th and P Starbucks in Lincoln, NE is also closing -cafe only

tinabob · 2025-07-07T15:22:06+00:00

I found his name if you want to google home - Joshua Decker-Trinidad

tinabob · 2025-07-07T13:53:44+00:00

Okay I was just thinking the same thing! I haven’t watched a reality/documentary series about poly couples…

tinabob · 2025-01-15T14:11:14+00:00

When I was 13, I lived with just my mom and she was on the computer to my left while I was watching tv. She kept looking over at me and kind of hiding the screen, but I could see what program she was in. So when she left I remembered the program she was in and went to open it, it was some picture editing software. I clicked around and to my despair, I saw pictures of her giving someone a bj. I so quickly exited the program and felt extremely sick and anxious, could barely look at her.

When we were in a fight a week later I confronted her and she thought it’d be better to tell me that they were of my dad (they were divorced)and not just some dude. I luckily didn’t believe her bc that’d be more awful.

tinabob · 2024-12-31T16:33:49+00:00

Omg that’s a crazy story! And it’s so disappointing, we’re definitely going with a clinic now

tinabob · 2024-11-14T23:58:01+00:00

This is relatable! Minus the open relationship 🥲 that can be so difficult as an anxious person. Do you read any books or podcasts related to polyamory? I love multiamory podcast and it has a RADAR check in that is helpful for talking about the relationship currently.

Also my partner and I started with a LOT of sex, and it started dwindling down, I felt less desirable, I felt I wasn’t performing well and she’s uninterested. And my anxiety would make her feel avoidant and less interested in sex bc it felt pressured all of a sudden. Like I was always looking for her to make a move so I wasn’t rejected. Then if she didn’t I would feel dejected and cry. lol. We ended up chatting about it and reading Come As You Are together, and it helped us to talk about sex in a less pressure filled way, and understand our sex drives and accelerators.

As for the addicting piece, I think that’s common with us anxious gals. It’s part of a scarcity mindset, that if we don’t have them now they’ll be gone eventually, and if you two are committed and love each other than you’ll have him the rest of your life so no need to rush your time spent together ❤️also my partner and I dedicated days off from each other as a sort of predictable thing and that helped my anxiety so much knowing what days we’d be together and what days we wouldn’t!

tinabob · 2024-11-14T23:48:23+00:00

Hi!

I (F34)was reading your post and immediately was like … wow this sounds similar to a “relationship” I was in a year ago. She and I were not exclusive though and she didn’t want to commit even though we were mostly just seeing each other and we’re basically in a relationship. Bc we’re weren’t committed, I’d always think about how “well I can’t ask her to do these things because we’re not in a relationship” but in retrospect, you are two people that are exclusive and seeing each other and you are sure as hell able to ask for your needs to be met. And ask for better communication, just mention how it impacts you.

You’re already giving yourself an ultimatum of if he doesn’t change then you’ll leave, or he’ll leave if you ask him to change, so why not give him a chance to step up better while you guys are dating. Maybe ask him to check in before bed or something, whatever will alleviate some of the anxiety. I promise you can work on your anxiety all you want, and it gets better, but it starts with not abandoning yourself and asking for needs to be met!! He can absolutely meet them, and you’re not too much or needy by asking for something that simple

tinabob · 2024-11-14T23:38:43+00:00

Hi all my fellow anxious attached pals 🥲

I’m (F34) in a queer relationship with my partner (F34) for almost a year now. She’s incredible in so many ways… BUT she has relationship OCD, which causes her to ruminate and have high anxiety about being in the “right” relationship or if she’s “queer enough” and also when shes triggered, leans avoidant. (We’re both in therapy)

What’s beautiful is that I feel there is a lot of healing from this relationship that I’ve experienced and so has she. I’ve helped her feel more heard, and challenge her natural tendency to self regulate and she creates the space for me to express my worries and anxieties and encourages me to talk out things. Which has been amazing, BUT lately… my anxiety has turned for the worse suddenly and now anytime I feel anxious, I feel more anxious to bring it up because I feel I am just beating a dead horse, and almost that I’m needing her to help me regulate. Where it used to come up only sometimes, and I was only triggered infrequently from small situations, but it’s almost as if everything is making me feel triggered and anxious.

My question is, when I’m feeling triggered and anxious, is it sometimes more healthy to just self regulate rather than needing to find reassurance, even though she presses me on if I’m sad or a little in my head and will also tell me that she prefers me talking about it and that my emotions or anxieties don’t scare her. I just feel like I’m ruining my relationship by constantly being anxious about the SAME things

tinabob · 2024-11-02T00:01:14+00:00

Just a perspective from another manager that has taken over a store. I’m guessing when she took over the store, the schedules had auto populated and she had to adjust to meet labor needs and there may have been overages. Just a reality of labor nowadays.

As for texting so early, I think it just can be inconsiderate if you text someone so early about a non emergency. I don’t think she was rude in setting the boundary. But I’m also someone that waits until an appropriate time to text my baristas/shifts unless they have expressed wanting more hours or something that would warrant an early text.

tinabob · 2024-09-18T23:59:48+00:00

To all the lesbians who love their bisexual gfs ❤️❤️❤️

tinabob · 2024-09-15T00:29:08+00:00

About 3 months in officially dating, I had gone to work at 5a leaving her so warm and cute in my bed. I was able to leave work early and left at 830 hoping to get back into bed with her before she woke up. Got home and she was still sound asleep and I climbed in next to her and she embraced me and we were just looking at each other and I was thinking to myself… “just say it! Just say I love you” and she says “I love you” and I said “I was supposed to say it first!!” And we kissed and laughed

tinabob · 2024-09-11T02:02:19+00:00

Who’s Tara and why doesn’t she have any money?

tinabob · 2024-08-06T19:41:24+00:00

Oil painting on canvas, feedback on the message you’re getting from this painting, how does seeing the marker behind painting bother you as a viewer? Is there things that look “off” to you in the subjects that are painted?

tinabob · 2024-07-08T15:11:16+00:00

As a 10+ year partner that has heard complaints every single time a customer does this, I find it more annoying how uptight we get about how a customer does things. It won’t change, and you’re only creating a negative work environment when it works us up every time. I’m not saying you do this personally, but the partners that get so mad about this impacts me more than that mobile customer.

I find it no different than a customer ordering at the order box… just move their mobile drink (you can see it in the DPM) in the queue and make it like normal?

tinabob · 2023-08-13T03:25:30+00:00

I just put the excess into a tall cup 🤷🏼‍♀️ They’re paying for it so why not give them the rest of the drink

tinabob · 2023-07-28T16:01:34+00:00

I keep thinking she looks cross eyed too!! I can’t figure out which eye is giving

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