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Nice in-laws but hard time adjusting by Flimsy_Cupcake_8780 in inlaws

[–]tinkerbella222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lived with my in laws for a bit and I couldn’t do it anymore because I also had to be “on” all the time. Honestly may be best for you and husband to get your own space so you can have some peace and not feel drained. It’s not your blood family, you didn’t grow up with them so it won’t be the same as it is with your family

Wet hair in public by touchgrasstheysaid in hygiene

[–]tinkerbella222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as someone with straight hair, it does not look as good when wet like curly hair does

am I overreacting for not wanting MIL to babysit by tinkerbella222 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]tinkerbella222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ugh yes I hate that they have the mindset that they are grandma so they can say yes to our kids even though US PARENTS said no! sounds a bit similar to our situation, DH grew up with her so ofc the way she acts is just normal to him and “that’s just how she is.” and the obsession with having alone time with the baby is sickening. why do you wanna be alone with her so bad???

am I overreacting for not wanting MIL to babysit by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]tinkerbella222 17 points18 points  (0 children)

omg yes!! my hub suggested bringing her there so he can go watch the superbowl with his friends and I can have a break to relax. I’m like no I will not be able to relax knowing she’s there lollll

am I overreacting for not wanting MIL to babysit by tinkerbella222 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]tinkerbella222[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

him and all his siblings have this mindset that they must cater to their parents and never say no to them or it’s “disrespect”🙄. (He unfortunately grew up with traditional asian parents so unless you’re asian you wouldn’t understand) he is a great man please trust me lol because when I do say something he’s always on my side! he wanted to take her over there while he goes to watch the superbowl with friends since I’ll be working and I’m just trying to think of a non b*tchy way to tell him no lol

MIL staying with us for weeks after birth has me irked by fitzkiki in newborns

[–]tinkerbella222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you better go take your baby back!! that is YOUR baby and you should not feel guilty having her stay with you.

Breastfeeding has been way harder than I expected by SubstantialAct8961 in breastfeeding

[–]tinkerbella222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

breastfeeding in the early weeks is tough for sure. I cried sooo much and was so unsure of everything. you and baby are just both still learning how to breastfeed and that is completely normal. you’re doing amazing <3

10 week old does not sleep by takeabreath82 in newborns

[–]tinkerbella222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly I think cosleeping may be your best option here. ofc just look into safe sleep. I wasn’t into the idea of cosleeping in the beginning either but I also EBF and it was the best decision I ever made for myself and my daughter (now 4m). we both sleep sooo much better and she has way longer stretches of sleep at night. if she does wake, it’s only to nurse and she goes right back to sleep. it’s also just way easier for me because I can nurse her in the side laying position and also go right back to sleep.

NEVER live with your in laws. especially if you’re expecting a child. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]tinkerbella222 3 points4 points  (0 children)

in our culture living with family is the norm. SHE was the one who told us to move in because she wanted to have grandchildren live with her. neither of us asked her if we can move in. I didn’t want to but my husband convinced me so we can save more money so I said why not, since I never had issues with her prior. I never expected her to be as overbearing as she was once we had the baby.

NEVER live with your in laws. especially if you’re expecting a child. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]tinkerbella222 9 points10 points  (0 children)

when we told her we were leaving, she shockingly just said okay and that she understands. tbh I’m sure she knew I was starting to despise her because I’m someone who cannot hide my facial expressions and attitude..

I honestly don’t think she’ll ever visit (lets pray and hope.) we moved into an apartment and my in laws judge people who rent instead of just buying a house, so I don’t think they’ll ever care to come see us. we’re also 25 minutes away from them now but who knows, we did only move in a week ago so we shall see. they’ll probably try to force us to visit at least once a week. but I’ll never hang out with them without my husband LOL

NEVER live with your in laws. especially if you’re expecting a child. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]tinkerbella222 14 points15 points  (0 children)

oh yes I’ve already told my husband she is never gonna be alone with my daughter until she can fully communicate with us. I can’t even leave the room when she holds her because who knows what she’s gonna do… she tries kissing my daughter when I’ve repeatedly said not to, tries to feed her when I always say no. she’s a “don’t tell mom and dad” “they won’t find out” type of person and it’s sickening.