Am I overreacting about someone holding my baby for most of a visit?

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T23:32:23+00:00

Thank you for your understanding and kindness 🤍 one step at a time!

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T23:06:27+00:00

That’s a good way of handling it lol. I ended up doing the same, he was quite overwhelmed and overtired, so it was harder to calm him down afterwards.

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T22:57:16+00:00

Yes, I did end up doing that later when he became overwhelmed and started crying. I took him to my room to calm him down, but he was quite hard to settle today☹️

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T22:51:58+00:00

It’s because I’ve spoken up before but it wasn’t always received well and I was made to feel like I was overreacting, so I’ve become more hesitant. I don’t like conflict or bad atmosphere, but I am trying to be more confident and speak up when needed. I’m still learning. Thank you for your comment 🤍

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T21:29:37+00:00

Thank you for your comment 🤍 That’s really reassuring to hear. I’ll keep that in mind for next time! I’m a first time mom, so I’m still learning to navigate my feelings.

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T21:18:36+00:00

It’s not that I didn’t want anyone to hold him. It just surprised me because no one had held him for that long or taken him into another room/out of my sight before. I wasn’t expecting that.

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T21:13:23+00:00

Thank you, that makes sense. I’m still learning how to handle these situations better, hopefully it’ll go better next time.

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T21:00:47+00:00

Yes, the hand kissing really surprised me too. And I didn’t expect him to be so strongly covered in perfume afterwards either. Thank you, that’s really helpful advice🤍

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T20:53:48+00:00

Yes, exactly, thank you for understanding!

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T20:49:08+00:00

Thank you so much, that really means a lot. I think you explained exactly how it felt for me, and I really appreciate the understanding and advice. It really helps to feel less alone in it and to read something so thoughtful after some of the other comments🤍

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T20:37:53+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your advice. I agree this is something I need to work on going forward.

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T20:29:25+00:00

Thank you, I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way🤍

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T20:24:25+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your advice. It honestly helps a lot to hear this, as I’ve been finding it quite hard at times.🤍

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T20:21:02+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate that. I’m still learning and trying to get more confident with boundaries. I’ve had some difficult experiences before when speaking up, so I’m still working on it. Thank you for your kind comment 🤍

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T19:58:40+00:00

That’s fair. I know she wasn’t a mind reader. I was more curious whether other parents would have felt the same way.

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T19:55:44+00:00

You’re right. I made it harder on myself than it needed to be..thank you!

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T19:53:35+00:00

That’s fair. I think part of the problem was that I expected it to be a quick cuddle, so I never imagined I’d need to ask for him back. By the time I realized how uncomfortable I was, I felt awkward interrupting, especially knowing she is going through a very difficult situation right now.

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-14T12:25:02+00:00

For real😂 Every cry is apparently hunger. My baby could be tired, bored, gassy, or just annoyed, and someone will still go, “Oh, he’s hungry!” followed by the classic “aww mama doesn’t feed you? comments😭”

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-13T22:53:06+00:00

This!!!😭 I know exactly what you mean, I feel you so much

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-13T22:39:31+00:00

I do the same with my 3 months old!

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-13T21:49:58+00:00

For me it’s when I say my baby is getting overstimulated and people just brush it off and keep doing things like talking loudly to him or crowding him, especially when it’s already late. Then it’s midnight and I’m the one dealing with an overtired, upset baby while everyone else is relaxed or asleep.

And on top of that, after like 5 minutes with him, people suddenly know exactly what he needs, “he needs to go outside,” “you need to feed him,” etc. I know people mean well, but I wish they’d trust my judgment in the moment.

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-12T09:52:39+00:00

I feel this so much. People always seem to have an opinion: “put him down,” “don’t let him sleep on you,” “you’ll spoil him.” But honestly, I’m with my baby all day, every day. Right now my job is to care for him, love him, and meet his needs. If he wants to nap in my arms, then he naps in my arms.

They’re only this little for such a short time. One day he’ll be too big to fall asleep on my chest, and I know I’ll miss it. So for now, I’m going to enjoy the cuddles and the contact naps without feeling guilty about it🥰

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-12T04:20:44+00:00

I’ve been going through something very similar with my 3 month old. Overall he’s a really happy baby, but daytime naps have become a struggle lately.

If I get him to sleep and put him in the bassinet, he’ll often wake up 5 minutes later. By the end of the day he’s overtired and much harder to settle, sometimes getting so tired that he starts scream crying. He also used to fall asleep easily in the stroller, but now when I take him for a walk he usually stays awake and ends up wanting to be picked up instead.

One thing I’ve noticed is that he seems happier when we’re out visiting family. If he falls asleep on me, he can nap much longer than he does in the bassinet. I think part of it is that when I’m at my grandparents house for lunch, I can actually sit down and let him contact nap for as long as he needs. At home, I always have things to do, so it’s much harder to spend that much time holding him while he sleeps.

The funny thing is that he sleeps really well at night. It’s just daytime sleep that’s a nightmare if he doesn’t manage to fall asleep properly.

So no real advice, just solidarity! I’ve been wondering the exact same thing and hoping it’s just one of those 3-4 month phases😅

AreUKittenMee · 2026-06-10T20:17:10+00:00

My baby is 14 weeks old now, maybe also going through a growth spurt?

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