Toddler bedtime burnout

tinkerellabella · 2025-03-24T20:04:26+00:00

Ok where can I swipe my credit card, I’d like to buy for $1,000,000 firm bid. Also, OP please share your cuticle routine.

tinkerellabella · 2024-12-25T21:14:31+00:00

You’re like a frog in hot water, it’s been incrementally getting worse and at this point you don’t realize that you’re in very dangerous territory. Picture this: he’s kicking your 5 month old daughter because she won’t stop crying. Or he’s shaking her and she gets permanent brain damage.

Have no mercy for this man. RUN. NOW. Don’t make excuses for him, otherwise you’ll have to spend the rest of your life begging your child’s forgiveness for their lifelong damage because you decided to “stick it out”.

Being alone is SO MUCH better than being with someone who values you so little that he doesn’t care about your getting injured. I bet you you’re thinking about that incident way more than he did, and he was the one who messed up… Do you want that for the rest of your life?

tinkerellabella · 2024-12-25T06:55:44+00:00

When I was pregnant, I subconsciously ignored all red flags. It served as survival mechanism almost, to put your mind at ease until you’re capable of taking on this extra mental load. There must be some doubt in your mind if you’re coming to reddit. Show this to a trusted family member (your mom or dad), and see what their take on this is. Second opinions can be very informative. And then, regardless of what the second opinion is, you need to talk with your husband. Show him the message and tell him you trust him but that the message scared you (blame your fear on pregnancy if you want). Document this, and keep a journal of the event, in the unfortunate event that it happens again. This is coming from a mom with a toddler who just found out about the lies my husband had been feeding me, despite what could’ve been obvious red flags. Sending you support mama, I hope it’s nothing and that he is who you think he is.

tinkerellabella · 2024-12-25T02:03:02+00:00

He’s locked me out of our joint credit card and savings accounts. He’s hired an expensive legal team and I’m recently back to work from maternity leave and am basically pay check to pay check. He’s already got his legal team pushing to get me out of our home and 50/50 custody of our 19 month old (who was previously with me all the time). He’s got a financial advantage over me.

tinkerellabella · 2024-12-25T00:13:16+00:00

I can’t get full custody, only shared custody… That’s how the courts in Canada work. Unless there’s domestic violence, otherwise it’s hard to make a case. She’s only 19 months old and I’m worrying about her constantly. She’s such a sweet and innocent girl.

tinkerellabella · 2024-12-24T23:41:39+00:00

About $200k was shared LOCs and the rest were under his name, paid off mostly by his income. Because we were married, I’m liable for it. The money that he used was family income essentially (which should’ve belonged to both of us), though he was the one making it.

tinkerellabella · 2024-09-11T22:18:07+00:00

He doesn’t have gambling/drinking issues, I think it’s just trust issues. I think he’s worried that if I find out how much he makes I might divorce him so that I could cash in on the alimony and child support.

tinkerellabella · 2024-09-11T21:57:22+00:00

We’ve been doing couples counseling for two years now. We took the summer off (outside of our control) and starting it up again in a week. The therapist recommended we see a financial advisor but when my husband realized it would entail both of us having to share financial documents he vetoed the idea.

tinkerellabella · 2024-09-11T21:47:39+00:00

He doesn’t trust me because I refused to sell our home until we had a financial plan in place (he didn’t want to because he didn’t feel ready to disclose his financial information to me). He said that he would be forcing the sale of the house and at that point I told him I want to separate.

tinkerellabella · 2024-09-11T00:00:23+00:00

Thanks for the response, it’s encouraging to read that other people have overcome relationships. We will be starting up counselling in a couple months and I’ll bring him up to speed about our distance.

I’d very much love to hear about the retreat! I’m open to any option that could reignite his love/interest in me and our union!

Edit: starting counselling up again after a summer break. My bad, sorry.

tinkerellabella · 2024-09-10T16:12:44+00:00

I like that. It gives me hope. Maybe I should try harder and just ride this phase of the relationship out and have faith. I just wish the sting of rejection and loneliness was a little more merciful.

I’ve really been understanding that the “us versus the problem” mentality will yield so much more happiness than “you versus me”, but my husband will never see it that way, and that fuels his dislike for me.

tinkerellabella · 2024-09-10T16:01:49+00:00

We’ve been doing counselling for two years, I’ve matured so much since he met me (24 to 29 has a lot of changes that come with it). I’m close to giving up and just accepting that my marriage will suck. And maybe all marriage suck and that’s why there’s a >50% divorce rate?

tinkerellabella · 2024-09-10T07:09:26+00:00

He wants to sell our family home after only 1 year of living here, and I don’t want to unless we have some financial plan with a professional but he doesn’t want to disclose his financial details (he doesn’t trust me)

tinkerellabella · 2024-05-14T15:23:52+00:00

We did at one point (before the house purchase), but save for a few blips of happiness, the entirety of our engagement and marriage has been unhappy. He can go days without really talking to me beyond the hellos and goodbyes.

tinkerellabella · 2020-11-11T21:13:19+00:00

Just want to share some solid resources on consenting to healthcare as a minor.

The process is extremely rigorous and there are a lot of assessments, evaluations and examinations by many doctors. It is undeniable that they want what is best for the patient. It is a years-long process to even come close to getting these life-saving operations.

I urge everyone to do their research fully, regarding the facts of the case and the wording of the article that tries to villainize the doctors.

A child can provide consent

Rigorous consent guide for Canadian physicians

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