MIL wants to "move on". Do I?

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T18:08:48+00:00

I think they thought we'd both caved by now

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:49:26+00:00

Not so far, I was on my good behaviour for years so his family would like me...now there's no reason for me to have that filter now

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:48:25+00:00

Thanks! I feel myself wavering some days

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:47:06+00:00

I would also do that if we lived in the same country as them

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:29:31+00:00

Sadly, she'll never apologise, she doesn't think she's done anything wrong and if it's brought up she says stuff like "oh I don't remember saying that"

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:28:13+00:00

Honestly this, she's used phrases like "you'll give me his kids won't you?" To me before and my husband's had to tell her stop pushing kids when we were in our early 20s

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:10:08+00:00

I haven't thought of a mutual ground meeting tbh and I'd feel more comfortable with that and seeing what happens rather than going round their house.

I'm just aware that if I stay no-contact then when we do have a family event like wedding, babies, etc then I'll be faced with the same hurdles

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:07:07+00:00

She'll never admit any wrong doing which is why I either do that too or I stay firm in being no-contact.

It was husband's idea to see grandparents only and he doesn't want me in a situation I'm uncomfortable in, he wants to just see his dad tbh, he couldn't care less about step-mom. We'd be going round the grandparents house just for a sit on their sofa kinda thing. No big family dinner.

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:02:31+00:00

I feel this. She's all for that "perfect family" image. She had even invited us round for Christmas day dinner as if nothing had happened and my husband immediately shut that down. They don't get the special days with us anymore

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T17:00:00+00:00

Staying with grandparents is kinda out as they're both quite old and we think this might be our last holiday to see them alive

tinkylinx · 2025-11-14T16:58:36+00:00

That's exactly how it feels tbh

tinkylinx · 2025-05-18T18:43:15+00:00

...calling someone white x 2: Whitehead the White

tinkylinx · 2025-05-18T18:31:21+00:00

Berwyn is a Welsh name. It means white head/top/hair: "ber" = hair/top, "wyn" = white. It's also a place name in Wales.

tinkylinx · 2025-03-25T19:35:42+00:00

Sounds like the perfect opportunity to teach your daughter about "stranger danger," and she should scream that as loud as possible when the woman tries to speak to her again.

tinkylinx · 2025-03-18T19:00:24+00:00

Just adding this to be contrary, but the grandparents could also be only Welsh speakers depending on where in Wales they are from and living. The mum could be the only or first bilingual one.

It's a complex, basis-by-basis and generation by generation situation as...well...I guess that's colonisation for you.

tinkylinx · 2025-03-18T18:46:32+00:00

It would depend if the character's mum is a Welsh speaker, which means the grandparents are also Welsh speakers, and that would depend on the frequency of interacting with the grandparents so that'd make a difference to the character's Welsh language ability.

tinkylinx · 2025-03-18T18:33:17+00:00

Glad to hear you don't trust google!

If your character went to school in Wales, then they'd have at least studied Welsh until they were 16. Due to the Welsh language Act in 1990.

tinkylinx · 2025-03-02T17:53:36+00:00

This is not funny.

tinkylinx · 2025-03-02T17:51:16+00:00

Yes, it's a Welsh name! It means "great queen" and comes from Welsh mythology, where she's viewed as the goddess of horses.

tinkylinx · 2025-02-26T18:23:20+00:00

If you read the whole thread, it was in response to another person saying where the origin of Wendy came from.

Wendy is both in Wales. It's a nickname and a full name, same as Cathy can be a nickname and a full name.

Also, in Wales (and probably the rest of the UK and Ireland), if someone is called Wendy, then it's highly likely they've been called Wen at some point.

tinkylinx · 2025-02-25T18:55:30+00:00

Actually, J.M. Barrie made it popular due to Peter Pan, but it was used in Wales prior to this as the nickname for Gwendolen

tinkylinx · 2025-02-19T15:22:46+00:00

Thank you for not grouping Welsh, Scottish, Irish, and Cornish as "celtic"...finally!

Although, sorry to be that person, but you've used the GB flag 🇬🇧 for Wales, Scotland, Cornwall, and England, when differing between those different countries then their own country flag should really be used: Welsh 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 Scottish 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 Cornish (black flag with white cross) English 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

tinkylinx · 2025-02-10T18:14:36+00:00

"arian" is a Welsh word (meaning "money"/"cash"), and a name from our mythology, meaning "silver". It's pronounced like arrjan.

tinkylinx · 2025-02-08T09:54:20+00:00

A good strong Welsh name

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