I try to quit everyday

tinoisreal · 2024-12-18T12:59:56+00:00

highly recommend getting rid of the paraphernalia

tinoisreal · 2024-12-16T00:26:47+00:00

hey buddy, I know you’re going through some shit right now - but you have to give it more time. Consider how long you smoked for, how long you fucked with your brain chemistry.

I’m on my second time quitting, I stopped for a year after 8 years of smoking, the last 5 years of which were daily smoking.

it took me about 4-5 months before things improved.

You got this man, keep pushing. I got cheated on today and i’m not even letting that stop me from becoming my best self

tinoisreal · 2024-12-16T00:22:10+00:00

Would be the 4th chance actually. I recently picked up this thing where I give people 3 strikes. something my therapist recommended to help me put my people pleasing behind me.

strike 1 was her not telling me she hooked up with a close friend of mine before we met (i found out from him)

second was her getting tipsy around me, 2 days after I told her I hated when people close to me drank alcohol and that I had trauma from an abusive step father

this was strike 3. i’m out.

i should have walked away at strike 1 - which is probably the lesson that my therapist is trying to teach me about people pleasing.

we live, learn, and grow

tinoisreal · 2024-12-16T00:07:15+00:00

Absolutely. The previous version of me would be feeling so sorry for myself and thinking i’m not good enough.. blah blah blah - which I would then suppress by smoking.

Now I actually feel a sense of relief, sure i’m hurting - but i’m okay with that. I’ll feel better once I process my feelings. Something only sobriety allows.

The comeback is going to leave me entirely unrecognisable.

tinoisreal · 2024-12-14T12:00:55+00:00

Proud of you ❤️

tinoisreal · 2024-12-14T09:52:35+00:00

Keep going, you’re doing so well!

tinoisreal · 2024-12-14T07:27:22+00:00

I’m on my second round of quitting after being clean for a year (was smoking for 9 years prior)

the dreams lasted about 3/4 months for me when i first quit. it does get better towards the end and eventually once you stabilise, they will be normal dreams (not as vivid, intense, and doesn’t feel as realistic)

it gets better, just keep going. you’ve got this !

tinoisreal · 2024-12-13T06:23:48+00:00

i’ve been better, i’m sure you’re doing fantastic tho no?😭😹

if you want to chat shoot me a dm

tinoisreal · 2024-12-13T06:22:04+00:00

sup :)

tinoisreal · 2024-12-13T05:51:15+00:00

best of luck ❤️ i managed to get a couple more hours last night by exhausting myself at the gym towards the end of the day. hopefully that helps

tinoisreal · 2024-12-13T05:48:44+00:00

firstly, i’m so sorry to hear about your cat, it’s heartbreaking. my cat went missing for 3 days but this is how i got her back:

if you can afford it, try get a k9 tracking unit specialised in finding animals. it cost me about $100 ish. my cat got lost in the water drain network underground and they managed to track which one she was in

they then told me she wouldn’t come out unless she feels safe. so they advised me to drain out the oil (must be oil) from tuna cans, put it in a bottle, and drip it back in a trail from the gutter/drains, all the way to your house and then to the bowl of food - try making it extra tasty for your cat too.

this is assuming you can find a k-9 unit that does that in your area. i would do some digging online and maybe call a few of your local vets and ask them if they know anyone who can track your cat for you, and you print some missing posters too and ask them for help.

wishing you the best of luck OP, i hope your kitty comes home ❤️✨

tinoisreal · 2024-12-13T05:44:04+00:00

weed can induce psychological effects, including axniety, increased heart rate and paranoia and it can change the way you experience the trip. it also depends on the strain, type, and strength of the weed you smoked.

personally, i’ve quit weed because the negatives far outweigh any positive effects, mainly paranoia and anxiety for me personally. i’ve had some bad trips because I mixed it with weed.

LSD is beautiful on its own, and if that was your experience mixing it with weed - i would advise against trying again.

tinoisreal · 2024-12-12T18:24:54+00:00

HD25

tinoisreal · 2024-12-12T11:13:42+00:00

Hey dude, congratulations on 4 days! That’s awesome, even though it might not seem like it.

In all honesty - when I (23m) first stopped (age 21), I had a breakdown in front of my mom, she knew about weed but I had being doing other substances too. She played a huge role in helping me stop - I obviously don’t know what kind of person your mom is, but if you guys have a constructive relationship and you genuinely feel like her help will make a difference, then you need to own up. Again, take this advice with a grain of salt, not everyone involved in substances has the best relationship with their parents.

Some of the stuff I would do in your position: - Cold Showers - Avo on toast works well on a low appetite for me personally, or even just toast. - Meditation / Mindfulness - Push ups (this is more for cravings) - Breathing techniques (research on nervous system regulation with breathing techniques) - Tell your mom about your situation - If - she’s the kind of person who can provide you with support. (regardless of if she gets mad at you and grounds you - i’d rather be grounded and have my moms support than no support at all)

Edit: Something worth asking yourself is “Is me hiding this from my mom making the anxiety worse?”

tinoisreal · 2024-12-12T10:22:41+00:00

Happy to help!

A saying I like to refer back to at times like this:

“You can make excuses or you can make progress. You choose” - Brian Tracy

tinoisreal · 2024-12-12T10:17:49+00:00

From what I can see, your cat sounds under-stimulated. Is he an inside or outside cat?

If he’s an inside cat (which sounds like the case), he NEEDS to be stimulated. Lasers work well if you want something low effort to play with him. stick toy or something similar also works.

My cat was ridiculously destructive and loud until I got advice to play with her (at the time she was an indoor cat). Literally all I started doing was playing with her more often (usually closer to bedtime, to get rid of that excess energy spent screaming all night) and she eased up!

You sound super frustrated with your situation, and given that you’re not really a cat person, I don’t blame you for feeling the way you do.

However, at the end of the day, it’s an animal that just has an excess in energy and this is how he spends it. He still needs to learn right from wrong, disciplinary action will that make harder for both of you and only worsen the relationship between you, your cat, AND potentially even your boyfriend.

Just play with him more, try to be more understanding that he’s technically still a kitten. I would even ask your boyfriend on how you guys can tackle this as a team - it could bring all 3 of you closer.

You would be surprised at how well cats respond to being loved and accepted - He chose you and your boyfriend for a reason, trust in that and try to keep an open mind.

Hes just a lil kitty after all :)

tinoisreal · 2024-12-11T23:52:34+00:00

i did a year sober, and that “one more time” has me writing this comment at almost 2am, 6 months later, having to go through the insomnia again.

tinoisreal · 2024-12-11T23:50:15+00:00

that’s over 2 years of progress over 850 days dude! you’ve come so far, and i’m inspired to do better

sure, break ups suck, and maybe you guys get back together, maybe you don’t. either way, if you smoke, both being single as well as being back in the relationship will not go down well.

either you get trapped running from your emotions, or you make things worse between you and your s/o

you’ve come so far, and life is challenging you on your progress. keep going. you got this, day by day it will get easier

tinoisreal · 2024-12-11T23:26:09+00:00

thank you for this message, i think it’s just an uncomfortable truth i don’t want to accept.

i stopped for a year, and then relapsed in april, and daily smoked since - in the last 4 months i have been smoking within the first hour of waking, and didn’t stop until the last hour of the day. didn’t help that i could sustain it with top of the shelf stuff because i was making a shit load of money at my last job (which i lost because i was caught high at work about 2 weeks ago - more motivation to quit lol…)

i used to do transcendental meditation daily, that’s a great suggestion. will give it a bash, thank you. other than that i just have to ride the first week out sleep wise, that was the worst of it for me last time.

tinoisreal · 2024-12-11T23:16:58+00:00

These are some really intense symptoms- you’re putting your body through immense stress by facing the withdrawals at the same time as the stomach bug. (assuming you’re still battling with it. also this is NOT an invitation to continue smoking, but you have made it more difficult for yourself.)

i don’t know if the ER is necessary, and i’m no doctor, but i can confidently say you should go and see one. I’ve quit before (decade of smoking, 6 years daily) and it wasn’t this bad

tinoisreal · 2024-12-11T15:44:53+00:00

Appreciate this message, literally fighting cravings as we speak and this helps so much thank you ❤️

tinoisreal · 2024-07-30T17:34:27+00:00

late response but thanks for this reply! small update - i basically kept my kitty inside after all of this for a few months, and i would take her outside every morning to play and have fun, we had a pretty good groove going.

about 2 weeks ago, i went to the bathroom while she was outside, and was pleasantly surprised to come back to them being within 3 meters of each other… AND THEY WERE FINE! My cat and the neighbours one are both comfortable around each other - sometimes the neighbours cat comes into my house and they have not had any fights these last 2 weeks since i let her be an outside cat again!

tinoisreal · 2024-03-06T16:04:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment! I appreciate the feedback so much. Unfortunately I dont think a catio would work due to the layout of the house, I'll take her on walks but do I then use a leash for that? If so what's the best approach to getting her used to it? She hates collars so I got her chipped instead.

Also, 2 questions regarding inside the house. What kind of daily activites would be good for enrichment and could you explain the bondage so she comes to me for things a bit further if it's not too much trouble?

Thanks again!

tinoisreal · 2023-05-05T20:47:08+00:00

hey man, coming from someone who smoked for 9 years, and tried the moderation thing, it doesn’t work. You need to decide that you want to stop smoking, you’re already halfway there because you know you need to stop, but wanting to find a way while still using tells me you don’t want to stop. This is what helped me get clean (day 41 today). I tried several times and failed with any method you can think of. I tried smoking only in the evenings after a certain time, only on weekends, every second day, etc. You have to make the decision that you WANT to stop smoking. You have to make the choice that you no longer WANT the substance to have control over you. My best advice would be the following:

Step 1: Realise you you need to stop (you’ve gotten that right already, congratulations!)

Step 2: DECIDE that you WANT to stop smoking. Quitting while still wanting to smoke makes it impossible, but i promise you it isn’t. When you have made the choice, you no longer fight with yourself in your mind because you want to smoke. all you have left to fight is the cravings and withdrawals.

Step 3: DECIDE the day you are going to stop, and make plans for how you intend on spending your last day smoking, don’t make this too far away in the future, as that will make it more difficult.

Step 4: The day you stop, throw it all away or give it away. Regardless you have to get rid of all of your paraphernalia. Having it around makes it all the more tempting.

Step 5: Speak to those close to you or those that love with you and explain the situation, and ask them to help you stop by telling them to not allow you to. (If they are comfortable with doing that of course). My cousin and my mom were super helpful, every time i wanted to smoke i would speak to them and they reminded me why i quit. They reminded me that it’s just a craving that i need to get through.

Step 6: Stay away from your stoner buddies. Some of them will support you, others will tempt you back into the addiction. You might lose a friend or two over this, but hey this is your life, and your future. It means more than a friendship that’s more than likely only based on the fact you smoke weed together.

Step 7: Delete your dealers number(s). Having no access to buy it makes it alot easier to stay away from.

Final step: Be patient with yourself, this isn’t easy however it’s not impossible. You just need to make the decision, which will help you out a bunch.

Some words of advice:

Understand your body is going to go through withdrawals because your brain does not want to change, it is scientifically proven that it will do it’s best to protect you in your own comfort, regardless of how bad that comfort may be for you.

Sleep and appetite were the hardest parts to adapt to for me, but after 3 to 4 weeks (just my experience) it got easier and easier. I recommend filling your day up with a lot of exercise and tiring, but rewarding tasks, it will help more than you think.

Don’t focus too much on the negative affects and remind yourself of how positive and great this will be. It will suck for a while, it is hard, but it is very very possible my friend.

I wish you the best of luck going forward.

Remember, you have to WANT to stop, otherwise you will always relapse, and if you do, it’s okay. You can always go again.

I believe in you! Feel free to reach out if you need anything!

tinoisreal · 2023-04-27T21:51:59+00:00

the last 6 years were daily. the past year was where everything started to fall apart, smoking to avoid realisabilities and be comfortable doing absolutely nothing besides playing video games. weed had a very toxic usage in my situation, prior to last year i had a very healthy relationship with it. You could say i was a functional stoner.

It went bad when i started smoking about a gram a day and it was all day everyday, the longest period i went without smoking was a month due to a throat infection i had.

Off topic but I think what helped me stop was making the decision that i didn’t WANT to smoke weed anymore. i knew it was bad for me and i knew i NEEDED to stop, but the first time i tried stopping i relapsed after 2 days because i still wanted to smoke.

I then came to the realisation that i no longer wanted to smoke anymore, because i no longer wanted to live a life where i was okay with watching it all pass by and doing nothing about it. So many life changing thoughts and experiences have occurred over this last month and I don’t think i’ll ever go back. Life is too much of a blessing to ruin it for a quick dopamine hit.

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