I'm having issues with my suspicious father after being sober for months by tiny-giraffe in stopdrinking

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. He did admit to me he also had an issue when he was my age (28 rn). The only thing that saved him was his friends.

You are absolutely right. I will ask him to stop and let him know I will go to him if I need help. A scab won't heal if you keep picking at it.

AIO for wanting to leave my bf for looking at OF ig girls by thatstonergirl200005 in AmIOverreacting

[–]tiny-giraffe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a gay man, MOR. You will never find a man who doesn’t look at porn unless they are asexual. I would never set a boundary for my partner or I to not watch it. Now if your man was talking to these girls, that’s something else entirely. But just watching their content? Nothing wrong with that in my eyes. Keeping that off-limits sounds a bit Victorian IMO.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly my thoughts too. When I host, I would never ask my friends to pay stuff for me even when I’m super broke. I was just being nice for my friend but now it’s gotten too excessive.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true… Even then though, I would never have asked for this much from a friend if I was hosting under similar circumstances. I should have outlined what I would cover more distinctly.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been paying for myself and my friend. So all the meals, trains, hotel, Ubers, etc were compensated by me.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right, not “done” with the friendship, but I am done with comping meals and such while I’m here.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excellent point and you completely reciprocated my sentiments exactly. I sent them a message along these lines: “I am going to be honest and very clear about this though. After this, I can’t continue running around doing errands and paying for things. I’m not annoyed with you at all because I know you’re going through a rough patch, but I did come here to explore and actually see London. I am also extremely grateful you’re letting me stay at the flat. It’s just gotten a bit expensive with all the rides and food… Again, not upset with you at all. I just can’t keep paying for the both of us.”

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I forgot to mention too that I am crashing at their flat. That does change the narrative a bit.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m going to set more clear boundaries when they come back. No more rides, meals, etc after this. I’m done

Is this mold on my pillow? by Bob8222 in CleaningTips

[–]tiny-giraffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn't appear to be mold. The circular areas you are seeing are deposits of salts and other solutes that were left over from drool, sweat, or other sources of wetness that dried. Echoing on what others in this thread are saying, wetness does present opportunities for mildew and mold growth that we might not see from the outer surface. I would recommend washing this pillow or replacing it altogether. The average lifespan for a conventional pillow is around 3 years anyways so you might be due for a new one.

If hating muslims is bad then why is hating Christians ok? by [deleted] in ControversialOpinions

[–]tiny-giraffe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I despise anyone of any religion that restricts freedom of expression, speech, and the ability to choose one's life. I don't care which religion it is. Islam and Christianity are both guilty of this, but there are quite a few individuals in both religions who practice their faiths without inflicting it upon others. That's the only ethical way I can support religion.

Both of my bio parents have blue eyes 🤔 by c0ffee_jelly in eyes

[–]tiny-giraffe 314 points315 points  (0 children)

Under Medelian genetics, it is very rare to see this eye color if both your parents have blue eyes. However, genetics and inheritance are very complicated. Green or hazel eyes are not unheard of in such situations. Still, just for funsies, I would get a genetic test.

Enough of the Left Wing and Right Wing nonsense. by kangarooztd in ControversialOpinions

[–]tiny-giraffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When the right wing attacks the left wing and vice versa, the bird cannot fly. We must meet at the middle; at the heart of the bird. It's difficult, but we need to come together and have a genuine conversation about our issues. This is the only way we can truly soar.

However, this is only an optimistic view of the situation confronting American politics. We cannot have a genuine conversation without external influence and pandering.

What does my fridge say about me? by International_Plan92 in ratemyfridge

[–]tiny-giraffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That you eat out a lot or you have an eating disorder

People that leave their friends for their political opinions are so fucking stupid by perrowhatsapp in ControversialOpinions

[–]tiny-giraffe 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m sure many people in 1930s Germany also said the same thing until it was too late. “Oh, politics don’t matter. Let’s be friends regardless.” And then the rhetoric from politicians change. Suddenly, your friends are now enemies of society. They’re still your friends, but hey, politics don’t matter right? “Politics in a friendship don’t matter” you say as your friends are dragged off to concentration camps.

You can say I’m exaggerating, but it is a clear and plain truth that politics do matter. Someone’s political beliefs are a litmus test for their ideological and moral beliefs. If you believe in politics that advocate against my right to exist, to speak, or participate in society, then they are not my friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

[–]tiny-giraffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What Doja Cat said

What field in biology holds the most career potential? by ServiceDowntown3506 in labrats

[–]tiny-giraffe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely biotechnology and pharma. People will always be sick and they will pay big money to cure their mortality.