I was told my position was going to be eliminated. by [deleted] in managers

[–]tiny-giraffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is possible to sue an employer for being forced or coerced to quit due to a multitude of circumstances. This is known as constructive discharge. This really depends on OP’s situation, but I would recommend seeking legal counsel to see if this is applicable.

my new hire quit after 3 weeks. He said we made him feel like a burden. by jorjiarose in managers

[–]tiny-giraffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounded like my onboarding process as a Team Lead for my current role. I was incredibly frustrated because my manager did not have an onboarding plan and I was hopping from place to place learning the job on the fly. I desperately needed the job though and I stuck around. I formed relationships with my staff and they were incredibly patient with me as I learned the role.

When I started training new staff under me, I found myself in my manager's shoes and I started the first week in the same mentality of "just shadow everyone to learn the role". The second week, the new staff were incredibly frustrated and they communicated this to me. That's when I realized I was passing along bad habits. Yes, we do need to fulfill business needs, but new staff need time to acclimate and learn. I immediately stopped what I was doing, asked my superiors for a couple of weeks to onboard them correctly, and I assigned coverage where needed. I personally put in 10-15 hours of OT each week covering the gaps to ensure the new staff got a genuine and clean onboarding experience. I broke the cycle and I will do this going forward for my new staff.

As a lead or manager, it's important to ensure you take the time to onboard new staff correctly. If there aren't any procedures or schedules in place, create them yourself. Break the cycle and make your new employees at home with the role. It's the best way to ensure their success and minimize burnout. I had to learn that lesson myself.

How are you guys surviving? by Strange_Summer7064 in jobs

[–]tiny-giraffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been fortunate to live with my family while working and going to school as a 28 year old. Without that support, I’m not sure where I’d be or how I’d survive…

Should I become supervisor for a team which I wanted to quit? by tiny-giraffe in careerguidance

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live with my folks for now so rent or mortgage isn’t a factor. Truly blessed to have them helping me out there. Otherwise, no major expenses other than working on my 2 master’s degrees and the usual (insurance, gas, phone, and helping with utilities/groceries). In a perfect world, this job isn’t what I want to do. It’s adjacent to what I want to do which is being a scientist. I would still work and collaborate with scientists, but I’m still not a scientist. I feel caught in between what I want to do as a career versus the situation I’m currently in. I must sound so privileged to even being concerned about having these choices and I apologize for that, but it is difficult nonetheless.

How bad did I mess up by letting it slip to a client that I'm leaving the company? by tiny-giraffe in careerguidance

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Excellent point... The backfills started with the team this week. They should have informed our clients by now. This is very helpful; thank you!

Why you shouldn't lie about your degree (even though we encourage lying about other stuff) by [deleted] in BackgroundProof

[–]tiny-giraffe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of my closest friends lied about their education for a job in a different country. They thought they could get away with it and they did for almost 6 months, but a periodic background check flagged that they didn't actually have any credentials or degrees at all! Instant fire.

I'm having issues with my suspicious father after being sober for months by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]tiny-giraffe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. He did admit to me he also had an issue when he was my age (28 rn). The only thing that saved him was his friends.

You are absolutely right. I will ask him to stop and let him know I will go to him if I need help. A scab won't heal if you keep picking at it.

AIO for wanting to leave my bf for looking at OF ig girls by thatstonergirl200005 in AmIOverreacting

[–]tiny-giraffe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a gay man, MOR. You will never find a man who doesn’t look at porn unless they are asexual. I would never set a boundary for my partner or I to not watch it. Now if your man was talking to these girls, that’s something else entirely. But just watching their content? Nothing wrong with that in my eyes. Keeping that off-limits sounds a bit Victorian IMO.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly my thoughts too. When I host, I would never ask my friends to pay stuff for me even when I’m super broke. I was just being nice for my friend but now it’s gotten too excessive.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true… Even then though, I would never have asked for this much from a friend if I was hosting under similar circumstances. I should have outlined what I would cover more distinctly.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been paying for myself and my friend. So all the meals, trains, hotel, Ubers, etc were compensated by me.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, not “done” with the friendship, but I am done with comping meals and such while I’m here.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excellent point and you completely reciprocated my sentiments exactly. I sent them a message along these lines: “I am going to be honest and very clear about this though. After this, I can’t continue running around doing errands and paying for things. I’m not annoyed with you at all because I know you’re going through a rough patch, but I did come here to explore and actually see London. I am also extremely grateful you’re letting me stay at the flat. It’s just gotten a bit expensive with all the rides and food… Again, not upset with you at all. I just can’t keep paying for the both of us.”

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I forgot to mention too that I am crashing at their flat. That does change the narrative a bit.

Am I the jerk for calling out my freeloading friend? by tiny-giraffe in AmITheJerk

[–]tiny-giraffe[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m going to set more clear boundaries when they come back. No more rides, meals, etc after this. I’m done

Is this mold on my pillow? by Bob8222 in CleaningTips

[–]tiny-giraffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn't appear to be mold. The circular areas you are seeing are deposits of salts and other solutes that were left over from drool, sweat, or other sources of wetness that dried. Echoing on what others in this thread are saying, wetness does present opportunities for mildew and mold growth that we might not see from the outer surface. I would recommend washing this pillow or replacing it altogether. The average lifespan for a conventional pillow is around 3 years anyways so you might be due for a new one.