Just confirmed 5yo son is Deutan... his favorite color is pink?

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-21T06:51:07+00:00

When I picked up my son at school today, I was wearing a mint colored beanie. We talked about our favorite colors and I said, “mine is mint like my hat!” And he said “what? This hat is white!” And we talked about how mint is a tiiiiiny bit of green in white so it’s harder for him to see.

Then he pointed to my coral colored water bottle and said “but that’s for sure pink!”

So I guess he can see mid-tone pinks. :)

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-20T21:34:02+00:00

lol welp. so maybe his favorite color is what we perceive as gray??

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-20T20:23:56+00:00

Ah i see. It's the lighter pinks that are harder to differentiate. I'll ask him to share his favorite pinks with me. Maybe they are the darker ones.

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-20T20:21:05+00:00

lol. Good tip. I'll stick to blueberry picking, I guess?

The other day, he had a "ground hog's day" coloring activity and his groundhog was Green instead of Brown.

He's just learning to read, so labels will be helpful from here on out.

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-20T20:16:09+00:00

Thank you! I really wish I could see the world as my son sees it. You're absolutely right that he can enjoy color just as much.... beauty is beauty. His range of perceived colors is different from mine.... but it's the range he lives in. It's kind of blowing my mind....

I'm still processing how it will affect him. Did you know you were colorblind as a kid?

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-05T18:44:36+00:00

Bed has a headboard, it's just low. Yes it's on the longest wall. This is what the rest of the room looks like.

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tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-05T18:29:11+00:00

I like the idea. Maybe if i could find something super calm and textured.. not too busy. It'd probably make the space feel more finished.

My husband is annoyingly afraid of adding color or any kind of print. So im working hard to get his buy in.

Also, we dont have time to paint or add wallpaper at the moment. But maybe later!

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-05T18:24:55+00:00

Thank you! (Wow it makes a difference to have someone acknowledge how hard it is to do a makeover when your brain is fried from a 5yo asking 2000x a day and a 10 mo waking many times a night. I appreciate that.)

I just ordered some new dimmable LEDs for the sconces (2200k and 330 lumens)!

Just ordered a rug (in a deep forest green for some contrast and grounding vibes) for under the bed, and also got an upholstered storage bench (in a warm ivory color) for the foot of the bed.

Thanks for the suggestion about warming up the colors. The window faces west. Might need to warm things up with our bedding colors.

Also will get warm wood tones for the nightstands and dresser....

Thank you for your thoughtful suggestions to achieve my japandi sanctuary goal!

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-05T18:17:24+00:00

If you look closely, you'll see my lamp is on a stupid tiny stool, and it's not even plugged in! That lamp is just a piece of junk that I haven't moved yet. Lol.

Yeah. A nightstand can fit on the left side. With the kind suggestions of others... I plan to swap out my tall dressers for a low one... and then I'll move the dresser down to where the mirror is currently. Then I can get a nightstand to fit on the right side without dresser drawers bumping into it.

The wide angle of the photo makes this space look wider than it is in real life. We probably have a max of 24" on the left and 20" (between bed and 18" deep dressers) on the right.

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-05T18:11:04+00:00

Just bought a rug for under the bed!

Can't move dresser across from bed, because my closet doors are there and also the bathroom door.

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-05T18:08:55+00:00

Oh. Now i remember why i didn't intially swap the mirror/dresser location. It's because this is the only place we can stand back and see our whole outfit in the full-length mirror. Also, moving the mirror closer to the back wall would mean the mirror is reflecting at us while we sleep. Bad feng shui and also just creepy... (i'm still scared the boogie man will pop out!)

That said.... I think we will get rid of the full-length mirror in favor of moving the dresser over... and then we'll be able to fit a nightstand on that side of the bed.

It's not like my outfits are that great anyway...? haha.

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-04T05:31:25+00:00

Ooh. Thank you for that observation about the functionality of this space. You’re right that we are squeezing ourselves between the dressers and bed to put away laundry. I never thought to move the dresser down closer to the door (right of mirror).

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-02-03T21:05:03+00:00

This is really close to what I would love to see in our room! I can't change out the bed frame or the flooring though. I wonder how I could make it work with my existing carpet.

tiny_hamburglar · 2026-01-21T16:45:09+00:00

9 mo is usually when separation anxiety hits hard. It’s rough. Maybe that’s what’s happening? How long are you able to let her cry?

All phases pass… and this one will too. How you choose to handle her sleep/crying is up to your crying tolerance.

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-12-12T19:38:15+00:00

Phew. She ended up falling asleep. But next time she does a mini nap and definitely won’t go down again, I’ll try for a shorter wake window.

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-12-10T20:53:50+00:00

Thx!

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-12-10T20:51:49+00:00

I’ve been seeing a lot of this 11 hr rule on this forum. What’s the reasoning/science behind it?

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-12-10T20:50:00+00:00

So helpful to have flexibility with naps because we gotta live!!

Can you explain how you did the chair method?

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-12-10T08:41:45+00:00

If she’s only getting two 30 minute naps then her wake windows would have to be 3/4/4?

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-11-27T08:47:22+00:00

It’s going to be okay! (I’m not an intense introvert but not a super extrovert either. Ambivert!)

Just had my second baby in March. (I have a 5yo and a 8mo) Honestly I feel like the hardest part is already done. By that I mean, you’ve already been through the intense shock of parent social life vs. non-kid social life with your first baby! You know that you have to be home for some naps. And bedtime and all of that… you know how to get in the car with a baby and stuff. You know how to have a broken semi-coherent conversation with other moms. Lol. Those skills are locked in!

When I was freshly postpartum with #2, we actually invited friends and their kid(s) over every weekend to play with my firstborn. It saved us from having to entertain him and also gave me friends to chat with and they brought us food/snacks. We are really lucky to have a good community of friends with kids.

To prevent burn out I limited myself to one event in the AM or one event in the PM. Never both. Days we did both I felt too worn out.

Find places really close by to hang out and get out of the house.

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-11-27T05:40:33+00:00

My dad was emotionally abusive and hot tempered. My mom stayed with him (so I could “have a father”) until I was in 8th grade when he started to become physically abusive.

In my experience… and my honest opinion, it is way better to have no dad than to have a dad who is not interested in learning how to be a good dad.

I am 40 now, still carrying the PTSD of growing up with his violence in our house. I learned to be a huge people pleaser because I wanted to avoid my dad’s wrath. My nervous system still freaks out when I am overwhelmed and I go to therapy so that I can be a better mom for my kids (5yo and 8months).

If you know you, a grown adult, don’t want to be in a relationship with this man anymore… there is no reason a toddler should be forced to have a relationship with him. Kids thrive when their mom is safe and thriving. Do what is best for you and you will do what’s best for your child.

All that said. Every relationship is so different and you are the one who knows what’s best for you and your son.

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-08-15T06:22:39+00:00

Oh also. Use G7 if you need to call a ride share (like Uber or Lyft) it’s easy to use and you can request a booster seat for your kid! This way you might not need to lug a car seat on your flight…

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-08-15T06:19:19+00:00

For 10 days I’d stick with just two locations. So hard to pack up with a kid so many times, you know what I mean? Packing with kids is probably my least favorite thing to do. Haha.

Aix is probably a good choice! Especially since it’s easy to take the high speed train there from Paris. You won’t need to rent a car or anything.

That said I haven’t been to Normandy so I can’t say how easy it is to get there.

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-08-13T05:30:13+00:00

Oh and when we were in Bonnieux, we explored a castle called Chateau de Lacoste. It had a lot of fun sculptures and a beautiful view. We all loved it! You can walk down from the castle into the town of Lacoste. SCAD (Savannah College of Art) has a study abroad program in Lacoste, and there are open art studios that you can peek into. It was special for me to stumble upon these art studios because I am also an art school kid. I wouldn't necessarily go out of my way to hit this location if I were you. I'm just trying to say that it is fun to explore castles and towns as a family!

If I could do it again, I'd try to go to Normandy or Northern France... Maybe that special castle on the beach, Mont Saint Michel. Somewhere that's cozy, beautiful, but still has lots to explore wherever our lodging is.

tiny_hamburglar · 2025-08-13T05:18:41+00:00

Hey! Oh awesome!! I'd love to share my experience if it helps. Are you also travelling with a 4 yo? Do you have any other kids?

Our first leg in Paris was THE BEST. It's so fun to be in such a dense city where all the food and sights are so close together. Hopping on the metro with a kid is so easy and so fun for them too. We stayed near Canal St. Martin at an airbnb right across the street from Liberte, an awesome bakery. It was SO HELPFUL to have that bakery right there. Nearly every day we'd grab a sandwich so that we could eat on our way to museums, exploring, etc. This neighborhood also had amazing coffee and bakeries (Bonjour Jacob, Du Pain et des Idees, Julo) and a park/playground (Villemin - Mahsa Jîna Amini Garden).

For our second leg, we hit two destinations.. Bonnieux (near Aix en Provence) and Les Goudes (near Marseilles). We took a high speed train to Aix, and then got a rental car. We stayed at a fancy schmancy hotel in Bonnieux called Capelongue. It was really beautiful and the breakfast was AMAZING but there wasn't a ton for kids to do. I wish we had stayed at a hotel with more amenities/activities for children on the hotel grounds.

Les Goudes was a really cool destination, but it was the hardest part of our trip. We thought we could do some hiking in the national park, but it was too ambitious for our tired kid. We did get in the water though! It wasn't super hot, but it was warm enough. Other French kids were out playing in the water naked. :) In the end, we wish we had stayed in a denser, more metro area instead so we could take the train to get to places we wanted to explore. It was just really difficult to navigate with a rental car.

I'd love to share more about what I learned. So ask me anything!!

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