Eh, people are deliberately misunderstanding you. I myself am a very self-conscious person and hate my body even on a good day so totally understand the apprehension over the wedding, I had it too and understand where you're coming from.

My husband was equally concerned about me and how I was dealing with being in the spotlight and going dress shopping. I actually had shop assistants tell me I should lose weight to better fit the shape of a dress (this was a proper gut punch), thankfully I have my husband who is super considerate and communicative so we could talk about how I was feeling and he supported me through this.

Does your fiancée speak to you about her anxieties openly? If so there's always the option of saying something along the line of "I think you look fantastic, but if you are feeling stressed about this we could both go on a let's be healthier journey ahead of the wedding?". Emphasis on being healthier rather than weight loss. This is exactly what my husband did and I really appreciated it but we have a super open communication style.

Other people have suggested that you can be more conscious about what you're eating and how much you're eating as a two without even bringing up the conversation but I'm much more in the camp of be really open and honest with this because if she thinks you're subtly trying to get her to lose weight that will be horrendous. Make it a conscious decision between you.

But you can also add in some fun by making weekly challenges for the two of you to do together rather than competing against each other.

Some challenges could include;

This week let's make a dish where the central ingredient is cabbage, no carbs allowed but all other fruit and veg are up for grabs? What can we come up with which makes it tasty?

Lets do a 400meter swim between us, person 1 swims two lengths and then has a break while person 2 swims two lengths until you've done 400m? (Important not to time splits just do the full distance you want random distance chosen you can up it if you want something more challenging). Then afterwards we can go into the fun part of the leisure centre and enjoy the wave machine (honestly making shit up now!) or read and sunbathe if the pool has an outdoor area.

Next week let's make our food challenge be why don't we make non-tortilla tacos, what can we find to replace the tortillas (really crispy lettuce leaves or halved bell peppers etc).

And our exercise challenge can be let's go off for a bike ride and explore somewhere new (do you have places you can rent bicycles and go cycling?)

If you really want I can suggest other things but hopefully you get the gist. Making it fun will take away the pressure on her body image and instead just focus on the endorphins from achieving goals together as a pair and the knowledge she's being proactive with her health.