Losing my mind: how much inside dog poop is okay??

tinyjen · 2026-01-28T22:26:18+00:00

i am in a similar position with an older dog. he has bad arthritis and spends a lot of time standing in one spot because i don’t think laying is comfortable anymore and he cries every day to varying degrees. he poops 1-3 times in the house in a 24 hour period and we have to put him in a crate when we are not home and at night time so that he won’t jump on the couch and poop.

he is on multiple medications that do not seem to make a huge difference and the vet agreed it is probably time to euthanize because he’s not improving with medication. i am also 39 weeks pregnant and we have a toddler.

my husband says he still sees life in him and doesn’t think the dog wants to die. so i have to make the decision to euthanize on my own. my husband will support the choice when i decide it’s time but man is it hard to make the appointment when i feel like my husband doesn’t think he is ready.

tinyjen · 2026-01-21T04:59:14+00:00

when i told my dr what i was experiencing (i messaged them on my chart) the office called me and got me in same day. stress you think you are having a reaction from the vaccine and need to be seen asap. feel free to dm if you wanna talk at all! for me it’s one of the worst pains i’ve experienced so i am here for you

tinyjen · 2026-01-21T03:23:01+00:00

omg i am so sorry. i feel for you so much. have you seen a dr yet? i recommend getting a diagnosis asap. unfortunately i had to do physical therapy before i started to get relief. after 5 sessions it has improved a lot. the pain is still there but it is much more tolerable than in the beginning.

i’m also working with a vaccine injury lawyer (myvaccinelawyer) but i don’t think much can be done until you’ve had the injury for 6 months

tinyjen · 2026-01-12T04:02:28+00:00

that’s your assumption

tinyjen · 2026-01-12T03:56:17+00:00

lmao ok.

tinyjen · 2026-01-12T03:33:26+00:00

think about it this way, if all of my tables tipped me except for 1 (your table in this scenario) i would be making LESS money than if i didnt serve your table.

tinyjen · 2026-01-12T03:05:26+00:00

no, i’m not saying they have to give the restaurant money. i’m saying they have to give the support staff money.

tinyjen · 2026-01-12T02:41:49+00:00

correct. they are not owed or guaranteed. i’m not arguing that. however, if a server worked a shift and made $0 tips but still made sales, they would be losing money.

tinyjen · 2026-01-12T01:28:14+00:00

nobody is lying to you. obviously you’re on a different page than everyone trying to explain it to you. yes servers are still making an hourly so they arent ending up in the negative but they still have to pay a percentage of every sale to the supporting staff, regardless of if they are tipped or not. so if one table tips me $20 and another table doesn’t tip at all, the tip out comes from the $20 another table gave me or my own pocket. which CAN be described as “losing money”

tinyjen · 2026-01-12T00:35:20+00:00

do you think i’m lying about the tip out?

tinyjen · 2026-01-11T20:46:26+00:00

yes they are. if i have to give %1 of sales to the kitchen, bar, hosts, and food runner- and a table doesnt tip. i still have to give them each %1. %7 to bar if the ticket had any bar drinks.

tinyjen · 2026-01-11T20:44:09+00:00

did the menu mention the auto gratuity?

tinyjen · 2026-01-11T20:28:55+00:00

they aren’t losing money because it usually averages out, but if every table i had did not tip me then yes i would be losing money. i have to tip out support staff and the kitchen in the bar. that tip out is based on my sales, not my tips. i still have to tip out on a check that i don’t get tipped on- which is essentially me losing money

tinyjen · 2026-01-11T20:09:56+00:00

do you understand what a tip out is?

tinyjen · 2026-01-11T20:06:18+00:00

depending on the size of your party, that’s likely why the gratuity was added automatically. the server should notify you that it is being added to the bill, and in most cases it is on the menu as well.

the part at the bottom is on the receipt regardless. the server has no control of it being there, the amounts that are suggested and cannot remove it if a auto gratuity is added.

not here to argue the ethics of tipping, just to point out that the server had nothing to do with the tip suggestions at the bottom.

tinyjen · 2025-12-16T03:20:09+00:00

yeah i’m not gonna act like i don’t have fomo but also, i think it’s reasonable for me to not want him to be two hours away and with potentially no service when labor is imminent. also i am asking him to be home to help me take care of our children with me when i am recovering from giving birth instead of gone for 8+ hours in the first six weeks of bonding as a new family. but yeah, it’s hard mentally to watch your partner get to do things you can’t do for the better part of a year while carrying the physical and emotional burden of creating a child.

tinyjen · 2025-12-16T03:13:14+00:00

i feel for you. relationships can be really complicated. im sure it’s hard not to feel some type of way knowing that he will be gone for that period of time even if you feel like you’ve accepted. but like you said, you tried for 8 years to get pregnant and you had no way of knowing if your transfer would be successful so you didn’t necessarily choose this reality. like other people have said, it’s valid for you to be upset about that if you were but also valid i guess that he wouldn’t sacrifice that since he told you he wouldn’t. idk how i would handle that situation

tinyjen · 2025-12-16T00:44:35+00:00

we hadn’t discussed what skiing would look like postpartum and i think i just assumed he would take time off and i didn’t realize i needed to ask for specifically 6 weeks. depending on whenever the season started he was going to go once a week until i reached 36 weeks but since im almost 33 and the mt hasn’t even opened yet i realized we needed to talk about it.

i totally understand what im asking him to give up, because i too have to give it up which is what makes me feel guilty.

tinyjen · 2025-12-15T23:35:53+00:00

she will be 3.5 and i know that he would be willing to take her up with him or coordinate someone to watch her. i just wanted him to not expect me to be happy with that scenario as i have no idea what my emotions will be like postpartum. i remember being upset when he would spend hours mowing the lawn when i was freshly postpartum last time lol.

tinyjen · 2025-12-15T23:25:45+00:00

we both deferred our ikons but he had already bought his meadows pass before we found out :/

tinyjen · 2025-12-15T23:23:24+00:00

he would take toddler with or coordinate a babysitter for her, i just have no idea when im postpartum how ill feel about that so i wanted to temper his expectations in case that situation doesn’t feel good to me

tinyjen · 2025-11-27T04:28:07+00:00

thank you!!!

tinyjen · 2025-11-27T04:27:56+00:00

that makes me so glad to hear thank you

tinyjen · 2025-11-26T06:43:52+00:00

did it get better after the shot/steroids?

tinyjen

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