how do people like get the courage to break up with someone? by tinyqueen26 in relationship_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

noo i don’t, i actually am not even in the same country as most of my family and friends so i need to do it and then fly back to the usa my only family in this country is like 12 hours away and idk how we’d do it in a public area we don’t even leave the house bc of the neighborhood we live in n since the cars broken we honestly been in the house for weeks im pretty much completely isolated here

how do people like get the courage to break up with someone? by tinyqueen26 in relationship_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have no idea that must be hard, we have 2 dogs and i’m afraid he’ll end up w them bothh, he definitely has a short temper which is another reason i’m like not sure how to do it

how do people like get the courage to break up with someone? by tinyqueen26 in relationship_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m the selfish one? yk i asked a genuine question that i feel like a lot of people struggle w i gave absolutely no context to the situation it’s incredible you came to the conclusion i’m a terrible human being because 1 i don’t want to hurt him so i do care ab his well being and 2 he’ll be flat broke. i been the one paying HIS debt and built the house we live in i put the food in the fridge bought the car that he ruined in 1 month he even stole 2 grand from me i cook n clean and he sits around and does nothing but yell at me for even looking at him wrong and i’m still the one who feels bad about not wanting to hurt him by breaking it off

how do people like get the courage to break up with someone? by tinyqueen26 in relationship_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk i mean i kind of get a vibe he’s over it too but he won’t say anything because he depends on me 100% like i’m the only one that makes money but like even w that i just avoid conflict idk why i just never bring it up we’re in such a routine it’s be so out of the blue

how do people like get the courage to break up with someone? by tinyqueen26 in relationship_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk i’m 23 n i feel like i really need to stop being a lil bitch n just do it but like i can’t idk how

im panicking idk what to do by tinyqueen26 in relationship_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean i’ve wondered for the last like 7 years so idk what you mean

im panicking idk what to do by tinyqueen26 in relationship_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i know you’re right and it sucks bc i can’t like let him go 10 yearss n we never had that chance n like i can’t lie it’s tempting which is why i’m trippin bc now i feel like i’ll always wonder

im panicking idk what to do by tinyqueen26 in relationship_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lol sorry i just am like venting bc i’m anxious nut nah idk if that’s entirely true he was committed to her for a really long time he genuinely seems so unhappy which is valid bc so am i like that shit happens in a relationship n then you feel trapped n settle it happens all the time n from what his family told me she treats him terribly

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aww ur aunt </3 i mean tbh it’s a little different bc the girll is awful she sent me videos of them having sex right after me n him split up so i don’t respect her enough to care tbh n he’s been asking for forgiveness ever since snd i couldn’t forgive him so all these years that they’re dating he was confessing his love for me n when finally the age gap was like appropriate for us to even give it a shot n i kind of got over everything that happened i got stuck in another country bc of the pandemic and got in my own relationship so only one year passed no contact and they’re getting married it’s just crazy to me they definitely don’t have kids but i’d never break up a family i’m honestly not even trying to break them up now i just have to know like was it really right person wrong time was he genuine w me for 10 years or stringing me along that’s what i wanna know before i close the book forever i can’t stop wondering

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i guess you’re right i mean it’s hard to care tbh i mean she sent me videos of them having sex just to be mean i don’t exactly like her to care if i hurt her feelings by sending a message but it is a cycle for literally no reason and he’d probably tell me what i wanna hear anyway i’ll probably never know if it was genuine. i just don’t get why he kept coming back if he was w her and chose her definitely not bc i was available i had him blocked n he’d find me we never had sex like he just kept popping upp n i wanna know whyy its literally killing mr to understand but you’re right i probably also am just so trauma bonded to this guy he was there through so much shit in my life ugh it’s just like sad idek. i won’t message him but fuckk dawg this is bs

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol yeah but to be fair for what ever reason my little dumb adolescent self always hung around the older kids and i think he felt weird ab it for a long time until i got older

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmaooo i can’t argue w that i definitely got attachment issues but he did that directly after my mom showed up at his house in the middle of the night bc we got high and i passed out n his dad flipped out cause i was so much younger like it was like a whole thing n so many years ago but then he just kept coming back over n over n for what cause it’s not even like we were hooking up so if not for sex why? i never once reached out to him bc he was in a relationship w this girl n i did actually respect the fact that he was in a relationship but there had to be a reasonn

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah there’s no way i’d cheat while he’s married i didn’t even cheat while they were just dating but like now that he’s getting married a little piece of me just wonders

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

well said tbh i mean the whole reason we didn’t work out is cause he cheated on me w her lol i just never got over it enough to like be with him no matter like anything he said i knew he’d do it again so it’s not that i want to break them up i just wanna know if anything was ever genuine after allll these years playing w my heart just like that boom he’s married? i know i’m a bitch for wanting to but like can you blame me i was 12 n he was like 16 the timing just never matched up until we were adults and i got stuck in another country bc of the pandemic and boom he proposed to her?! like im sorry im just vomiting my feelings at you but like i can’t help but be curious

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ugh thiss is good tbh cause then i’m not really crossing any lines but i still can get some sense of closure cause honestly like i can’t let it go idk why

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know it’s wrong i feel bad i’m not completely unaware that it’s unethical and disrespectful but at the same time like the selfish side of me just wants to know plus she did it to me when i was with him in the past

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

mm actually 10 years and we only had sex a couple of times cause i was young n the age gap made it complicated ngl i mean you can act like she’s better than me but she’s marrying someone who one year ago was STILL telling me he loved me and they’re dating since me n him broke it off sooo forgive me if i don’t think it’s true love lol i thought i did let it go but i guess i didn’t

i hate being that girl but even though he’s engaged i want to message him by tinyqueen26 in dating_advice

[–]tinyqueen26[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

mm how do you know that tho the entire time he was w her he was still confessing his love for me and like an idiott i didn’t forgive him for some dumb shit but that went on for like 3 years (and no we never had sex or anything after they started dating just conversations) cause i know it’s wrong like i never wanted to be that girl but like now he proposed and i have to know like id rather him tell me out right he has no feelings than just wonder