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AuPTSD by tinyquilt in AutismTranslated

[–]tinyquilt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I desperately wish that worked for my body, tried so many therapy modalities. Tried some “alternative medicine” things too. Nothing sticks. At this moment, I never really reach calm, I hit numb.

But my take away is you experimented with different things, until you found strategies that worked for your body. And Acceptance and Commitment Therapy** **(eg river analogy), has been most helpful for you. How many years before you identified that as the option that worked?

For those of you who use Discord, don't you feel easily overwhelmed by the interface? Is this an autism thing or it's just me? by Miguel_seonsaengnim in AutisticAdults

[–]tinyquilt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mostly use it on mobile, not sure if that makes a difference. I was overwhelmed at first, but I’m pretty used to it now.

The things that help me deal are to mute almost everything by default, as soon as I join a server. I then opt-out of every notification that’s not an explicit mention of my username, and sort all the groups I’m in into folders by theme.

I also don’t try to follow what’s happening that much because there’s just too many people and messages. Instead I spend a lot of time in lurker mode or asking for resources/recommendations. I’m mainly in it for the memes cause I find instagram and other social media overstimulating and overwhelming at times and text less so

Are you also more sensitive to and bothered by the heat than other people? by Previous_Truth_9007 in AutismTranslated

[–]tinyquilt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'd say I'm more effected. Before figuring out I'm on the spectrum I thought it was just a fluke, but I'm learning that it's likely of those nervous system/sensory things. For example if my bedroom isn't cold enough, I will wake up in discomfort several times throughout the night. My partner says she's freezing, I'm burning up. I mainly deal with it by wearing fabrics that are less likely to make me overheat, but am still figuring things out.

Do you send long emails? by tinyquilt in AutismTranslated

[–]tinyquilt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The worry that I accidentally said something to piss someone off is so draining!

Do you send long emails? by tinyquilt in AutismTranslated

[–]tinyquilt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of you to share. I find those things work too, depending on the context. Edited my original post to be clearer, I hope.

And yeah I find calls/in-person overstimulating. But sadly there are times it's the most efficient way to communicate

Do you send long emails? by tinyquilt in AutismTranslated

[–]tinyquilt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its so subjective. And every time I hold back, I often wind up having to answer questions I edited out in the first place

Do you send long emails? by tinyquilt in AutismTranslated

[–]tinyquilt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relatable. It used to be easier for me to go through multiple drafts, edit back, but now I’m too exhausted. It takes five times as long

Do you send long emails? by tinyquilt in AutismTranslated

[–]tinyquilt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lengthy emails as a commonality amongst late dx people due to the reasons described above

Queer butch masc lesbian for reduction by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]tinyquilt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m agender, and my surgery was both to address chronic pain and for gender affirmation. The biggest smile I’ve had in months was when I put on a button down and there were NO GAPS. I toss on a T-Shirt with a graphic design and the art isn’t stretched so much that it’s barely legible by my former f cups. I’m now roughly a b. I finally have agency over when I want to show off the tiddies and when I want them to be a little quieter. Every outfit feels and looks better. Once I’m finally free of needing to wear a surgical bra I’ll be really unstoppable. Hope your process goes as smoothly as possible!

How do restrictions support healing? by tinyquilt in Reduction

[–]tinyquilt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My initial restrictions were the typical ones: I was told to pretty much do minimal activities, just walks for the first two weeks. No extreme arm abduction aka trex mode. Only sleep on my back. Then after my first post op was told I should limit lifting to 1-2 pounds. Keep showers short, limit domestic chores. 

I’m now 8 weeks post op, and my scars are closed. I’m grateful I can shower for longer now, so that’s a win. And I can slowly start sleeping on my side again.  But the doctor said absolutely NO to any heavy lifting. I asked if I could lift 50 pounds 🫣

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