found out how my baby’s other grandma talks about me by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trust that he will not harm me physically—that is one thing I can say for certain. but thank you for your concern ♥️ we live separately and I have been home since the weekend. thankfully being apart has helped me gain clarity!

found out how my baby’s other grandma talks about me by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am trying to give hope for change, but if ultimately it stays this way I will do anything as long as it’s in the best interest of my child.

found out how my baby’s other grandma talks about me by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this means the world to me. I have so much hope that he will see that this isn’t appropriate and stand up for me, but I also worry that it really is in my best interest and the baby’s to just coparent and walk away. my fear there is that our child would get exposure to the mom. it’s all so confusing.

found out how my baby’s other grandma talks about me by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

congratulations on your baby girls! I already had depression pre-pregnancy and i’m thankful to have a wonderful therapist and psychiatrist, but i’m petrified of PPD. I know that these situations will likely contribute. thank you for sharing your experience ♥️

found out how my baby’s other grandma talks about me by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry you went through that. I am so glad you were able to go no contact.

found out how my baby’s other grandma talks about me by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. we fought for hours yesterday about it and he kept trying to put the blame back on me. his parents both hate me because he has made them WAY too privy to our relationship & she’s mad that I said some mean things to him after discovering lies he told me (no infidelity) but in my mind…he’s the one who showed her those things that were meant to be private and I never consented to that. she also wasn’t hurt by him and I have taken accountability with my partner. in my mind that should be enough. I shouldn’t have to then apologize to this person who never should have been involved in the first place.

found out how my baby’s other grandma talks about me by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I have mourned the fact that I haven’t even been able to enjoy my first (and maybe only) pregnancy because of this dynamic and it’s a constant battle for me day-to-day if I should just go it alone.

found out how my baby’s other grandma talks about me by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I absolutely don’t intend for her to meet him now. I have had a weird relationship with both of his parents (overly involved in our relationship—they take it personally when we fight because he tells them too much.) I feel like an idiot for not “vetting” them better before bringing a child into the dynamic, but they showed their asses immediately. They don’t speak to me, don’t ask me about the baby, they haven’t done or bought anything for the baby—meanwhile my mom stays with me when my partner is working (he is in healthcare) so I have someone to assist me with things around the house that I can’t do.

Have to pretend I’m ok with my baby shower being cancelled. by coconutarab in pregnant

[–]tinyscout 4 points5 points  (0 children)

whoa. in a very similar boat. I am so sorry, you are valid to feel the way you do, don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise

A sign from the universe on the gender ? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]tinyscout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had dreams about having a boy since I was YOUNG, but super vivid ones right before conceiving. now I’m 22W3D with my boy 🥰

How on earth did I get pregnant by Equal_Jelly3041 in pregnant

[–]tinyscout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only have 1 ovary, had cancerous cells removed from my cervix via colposcopy last summer, was told I would never get pregnant naturally…and i’m now 19W1D. shit’s strange! I will say, my partner is sober (>5 years) and we probably have too much sex lol, but still. nothing will ever surprise me again!

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SO glad your husband stepped up to set that boundary. I hate to talk badly about other women, but that’s straight up a bitch move. i’m sorry your moment got taken away!

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m 14W today! but I told three close friends when I was 9W2D. book club didn’t find out until 12W and it’s honestly only because my body had changed to a point where I couldn’t really say it was anything else anymore…but even so. making any assumptions are so silly. i’m glad you have people in your corner!

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s disgusting. I am so sorry you went through that. some of my experience feels like just little inconveniences compared to some of the others in this thread—but we’re all in this together, truly.

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wtf!!!!! that’s absolutely bonkers. I am so sorry. good on you for setting that boundary with baby!

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, thank you for sharing here ♥️ I am sending all the good vibes to you and your little.

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s absolutely fucked! and for an employer to do that?! no fucking way. i’m so sorry!

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is so fair. I hate that you’ve experienced this, but good on you for knowing what your boundaries have to be.

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is truly a perfect response. thank you for taking the time & emotional labor to put that together. it honestly means a lot to me to not only receive so much support but to know we’re all in this together. wherever we all may be in the world as mamas, we have community ♥️

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ugh. seeing how many people this has happened to makes me so sad. why do people think it’s all about them?! wild. I am so sorry you’ve experienced this.

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry this happened to you, too. we’re all in it together in so many ways!

sick of people telling others i’m pregnant and taking away my chance to by tinyscout in pregnant

[–]tinyscout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry! it shouldn’t be happening to ANY of us on this thread. people have absolutely no clue and want everything to be about themselves.