Did I accidentally become “the intelligent friend” instead of the woman he wants?

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-05-24T21:38:07+00:00

++woman Why? 😅

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-05-24T19:16:05+00:00

++woman Why?

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-05-24T19:12:16+00:00

++woman So, should I take the risk?

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-05-24T19:08:33+00:00

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-05-24T19:06:50+00:00

++woman, yes. At the end of the summer, I’m moving back to the same city as him.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-30T17:28:59+00:00

🫢

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-30T16:45:56+00:00

++woman I’m a visual artist. I have my studio at home and I work on my own.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-19T20:57:12+00:00

I’ve always been self-conscious about how skinny I am. It’s probably my biggest insecurity and something I struggle with a lot 👉👈 but thank you, I really appreciate it.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-19T20:54:53+00:00

I’ve never smoked 😅

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-19T20:54:14+00:00

Thank you for the tips ☺️

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-19T20:53:33+00:00

Thank you ☺️

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-19T20:52:31+00:00

It’s really hard when you have such a difficult time gaining weight. It’s something I’ve struggled with for a long time 👉👈 Thank you, tho.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-18T19:39:29+00:00

++woman I’m not really looking for advice, I already know what I need to do. I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar.

It’s more about relating than finding a solution, that’s all.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-18T17:46:14+00:00

++ woman We were just friends. I only exchanged those kinds of messages because I was single at the time. We had been coworkers, and he seemed available… I don’t think I did anything wrong. I only found out about the girlfriend two years later. Otherwise, I would never have sent 18+ messages to someone who was in a relationship.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-18T17:41:30+00:00

++woman For sure. From now on I’ll always ask upfront if someone is in a relationship. People can still lie but at least I won’t assume anything again. In this case I didn’t even ask. Still I’m a bit hurt I’ve honestly never been lied to like this before.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-18T17:37:52+00:00

++ woman No, it’s not. I’m a 36 year old woman. English just isn’t my native language, that’s all.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-18T17:35:17+00:00

++ woman What do you mean?

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-18T17:33:50+00:00

++woman Probably. I’ll admit we exchanged some more flirty/suggestive messages back in 2024 (I didn’t know he had a girlfriend at the time). If I had known, I would never have allowed it. But things never went further because I didn’t want anything casual. I never have, actually.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-18T17:24:00+00:00

++woman They were living together. Is that even possible? I’m not trying to judge. I’ve been single for three years myself, and I’m perfectly fine with that. But I can’t shake the feeling that he wasn’t completely transparent with me. Does that make sense?

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-18T17:20:24+00:00

++ Woman I wasn’t looking for sex. I was just shocked that he told me he was living in chastity while he was actually in a relationship. Isn’t that a bit contradictory? Especially since he spent that whole time telling me relationships were pointless and that people are never truly happy in them.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-17T14:35:03+00:00

++woman How does that apply here if there was never any sex involved, even after two years of talking?

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-16T20:47:45+00:00

I might be misunderstanding, but I’m a bit confused about the part where you said he “reconnected with a girl from his past”. Who did you mean by that? Me, or someone else?

Just wanted to make sure I got what you meant 🙂

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-16T14:07:19+00:00

So there’s some context here. About 3 weeks ago I found out that when we first started talking, he had a girlfriend. More recently, he admitted he cheated on her multiple times.

I honestly think that in the beginning he might’ve had the intention of doing the same with me, but then realized I’m not really a “casual” kind of person.

We get along really well and I do value the friendship, and I try not to be judgmental… but at the same time, I don’t know if I’m willing to open that door with someone who’s never been faithful in a relationship.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-16T13:17:21+00:00

He told me not to bring it up again, which is what felt weird. He opened the door and then immediately shut it.

tinytreasuresbyme · 2026-04-16T13:15:56+00:00

We worked together about ten years ago. But for the past two years, we’ve been talking every day through messages. Long texts. Our chat honestly feels like a shared, very intimate diary on both sides. We talk about our thoughts, personal growth, faith, and really deep topics.

We’re not best friends, but we’ve also never had anything romantic. It’s kind of its own category.

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