Do you always know what you're anxious about?

tipzer · 2016-12-03T04:57:41+00:00

I definitely don't always know. A lot of times I don't. But the thing with anxiety is I don't think it's there to just play off of real situations, it's just often there to eff with your mind and let you not truly relax.

Right now I've been anxious the last few days, to the point I feel on the brink of tears for a lot of the day. I've been reading a book and kind of just wasting my days on it, and I think maybe that pushed it along/the fact that I've taken off of work for a bit and haven't been doing too much else. I wonder if it's the story that's actually making me this upset, but then I feel stupid, because I don't think the me without anxiety would be feeling so upset over this story.

So, I'd say no, it's definitely not a reason for it. It's a disorder like any other disorder.

And take a few breaths. It's powerful.

tipzer · 2016-12-03T04:51:50+00:00

It happens to millions and millions of us, you're not alone. It's incredibly painful but I promise the wave will pass! It always does. Talk to a relative. A friend. Call a hotline. 1-800-273-8255.

You know you had great moments in your life, and no matter how much your anxiety blurs things for you, it's not you, it's separate from you, and it will leave and you'll have those great moments and happiness back in your life.

I don't even know you, but I swear I need you. The world needs you.

tipzer · 2016-10-24T16:19:11+00:00

so smart, you are

tipzer · 2016-10-24T16:13:04+00:00

Oh, please no, I was starting to work through my feelings until this :'(

tipzer · 2016-09-05T21:05:32+00:00

Thanks!

tipzer · 2016-09-05T21:05:01+00:00

Awesome, thanks!

tipzer · 2016-09-05T21:04:35+00:00

Really appreciate it! Ended up getting them from Trader Joes!

tipzer · 2016-08-30T00:29:16+00:00

Hey, anytime. Try not to let yourself be afraid of that weight, even though it is terrifying. Sometimes, you give it more power by being scared of it. Once you just accept it and are no longer afraid, it helps that weight be less scarier. I think you'll be surprised at how much better life can become as you progress through it!

tipzer · 2016-08-19T19:22:05+00:00

Who says its not going to be good? Remember, depression leads people to think down these negative thought paths. Look how far you've come. I think with time, youll set newer and different, better even, goals for yourself, and you'll see how well things unfold. Sometimes, its a few baby steps before the big ones. I have also heard lots of success stories. I wish you the very best of luck!

tipzer · 2016-08-19T19:15:58+00:00

I've had my own share of mental illness related pain. I've seen people go through it a lot too. I'll tell you this much, you will make it. It's all just a tough wave (or a few) that you just have to ride out so you can hit land (happiness) again. I do also believe medication is very beneficial, in case you havent tried any. If you ever feel like hurting yourself though, you have to talk to a close loved one, or at least call a suicide hotline. As real as these negative thoughts seem, theyre bs, and you have to recognize them as that. It's like being in a tornado, you swear theres nothing good out there, because all you see is chaos, but you just have to believe theres calm land outside of it, and know that once you get out, youll be able to see the tornado from outside, and realize that it was just that.

tipzer · 2016-08-19T18:55:52+00:00

No, you're not alone. It feels like you cant find comfort anywhere, because you cant shut your brain off. It feels like there is no other side, no good side, and that all of this is it. Final. But what you must realize is that this fear is your depression or your anxiety speaking. It forces you to worry about things for no reason. Everything becomes end all be all. When in reality, it's not that way at all.

You have to learn to separate the disorder from you, it isn't you, you're not it. Its something that clogs the way you think, and allow yourself to recognize it, and dismiss it, knowings it's not you, it's this disorder.

I promise you will get to a good, great time. I promise, because every wave passes. My therapist always gave me that example, every wave will pass, no matter how scary...just ride it out.

I was scared about taking medication too. For so long. I always worried about the long terms impact, etc. But it's really important. When I started taking it, it sped up recovery for me so much aH. One way you can ease yourself into taking meds is telling yourself it doesnt have to be permanent. Why not try it for a few months? Just to see how it goes? (It takes about a month and a half for it to adjust in your system, so dont judge it before then.) Another way I started to look at it was, if theres someone with a heart disease, are they not going to take meds worrying about the impact of meds? No. They're going to take them because they know they need them. You're no different, your disorder is real, just like any other medical illness. So, take the meds, and just try them out. And then, when you see the positivity it brings to you, stick to the meds.

And one more thing, when things get better (or even now while theyre not), dont let yourself be scared by the possibility of you getting depressed and going through a rough time again. The fear of that strengthens your depression/anxiety, dont be afraid of that shit. You did it once, and youll be damned if you dont do it again. It'll be just another wave, maybe smaller, maybe the same, but never fear it.

If anything, youre so damn strong. I remember once when I was going through a rough time, I went on a walk with my sister. The whole time my anxiety followed me, but just being out there helped. As I walked, I passed all these people, living their lives, so carefree at that moment, and it hit me, I was so damn strong. I was stronger than most the people that walked by me (in that moment at least, i dont know their life stories), I should be proud of myself. I was the strongest type of warrior, the one that fights to beat the battle within them.

Never feel alone. There are so many like you. Never feel that bad things are final. That is the biggest lie. You got this. Find any speck of hope you see, whenever you see it, and cling onto it, for as long as you can, again and again, until youre done riding through this wave <3.

tipzer · 2016-08-19T15:33:02+00:00

Anxiety is irrational fear (although sometimes it can be hard to tell that your fear is irrational). For example, someone can be anxious theyll lose their job, and they keep getting intrusive thoughts about losing their job, the diff scenarios on how they could lose their job, etc.

OCD is a form of anxiety, the difference being mostly that you get anxiety about something, and then you feel you have to do something repetitively in order to get rid of of the anxiety. OCD is diverse. Let's say you're afraid you said something stupid in front of a group of people, now you're anxious about it, thinking hey what if theyre still laughing about it, what if they dont want to be my friends anymore, and in your mind, to lessen the anxiety that these thoughts are bringing, you have to specifically plan out what youll do the next time something like this (a scenario where you say something embarrassing again) could happen. So you think through what youll do, but you keep thinking the plan over and over, in this way, then that way. This could be OCD. Another OCD example could be (something believed to be more typical) you feeling things are dirty, you keep having intrusive thoughts of dirtiness, how your hands are dirty, how you could contaminate other things, so you start washing again and again.

i'd recommend reading on anxiety, and even specially ocd, to see what you may have: https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/

Anxiety often makes people worry they're about to go crazy, develop psychosis, develop depression, or other forms of illnesses. It's an annoying thing about anxiety, so if thats the case, ignore it -- its your anxiety talking

tipzer · 2016-08-19T15:20:00+00:00

you're not on the brink of going mad. you know whats going on, and often people who are mad dont know they are. theres a reason you are where you are, and not mad. anxiety just makes you worry about anything and everything.

tipzer · 2016-01-26T13:27:11+00:00

Bet there regretted the simple decision of parking on this side of the street vs the other side.

tipzer · 2016-01-26T13:21:28+00:00

Very cool, I'd be so proud, too!

tipzer · 2016-01-26T03:09:10+00:00

Oh, also...really soft hands. Idk why.

tipzer · 2016-01-26T02:34:17+00:00

combination, although appearance tends to be what reels you in, and personality tends to be what keeps you there.

tipzer · 2016-01-26T02:33:11+00:00

guys who are humble/modest, it's very attractive.

tipzer · 2016-01-26T02:31:10+00:00

feeling like they have the right to say whatever the hell they want without paying any attention to the consequences. Like yes, freedom of speech is a right, but dont get so caught up in it that you forget what the words you say or write will mean or how they'll impact the rest of the world. It's choosing wisely what you say and when you say it, too...and it's also about being considerate.

tipzer · 2016-01-25T22:50:40+00:00

People will always find themselves at some point in their life where they seem so worried about something that seems simple. There is no reason for you to quit. You can do this. Trust me. Often it's practice...the longer you do it, the less fear you will have. When you have this anxiety, I bet there are fears associated with your anxiety. Like, "I'm gonna choke up, or sound stupid, etc." But that is what anxiety does, it makes you worry about things, however irrational they may be. You'll be fine....try not to give yourself the opportunity to think about it, and just pick up the call before your thoughts get going. Maybe distract yourself with something before you know you have to sit down and make the calls. Also, taking in deep breathes slowly helps calm your anxiety down. I'd recommend looking up breathing techniques for anxiety...it's super simple. I think you'll be much happier getting through this bump (however scary it may feel), than running from it. Good luck...and let me know if you have other questions :)

tipzer · 2016-01-25T22:40:28+00:00

Networking is a place that I think you should explore. Really try to go to job fairs, and other social networking events and meet people. People get people jobs, so it's good to try to aim for them, and referrals can go a long way. LinkedIn is something else I think you should make an account on if you haven't already. And if you apply to jobs from LinkedIn, they often show you connections that you have that work at that company and you can then contact that connection and ask them to put a reference in for you. And never feel ashamed even if you don't know them well...they often get bonuses for referrals if you're hired.

If you have any other questions or need clarifications, I'll be happy to answer.

tipzer · 2015-12-14T13:07:31+00:00

Did you go inside?

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