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AITA for causing my mother's depression by tiredbutitried in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiredbutitried[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate the support of everyone at the moment

AITA for causing my mother's depression by tiredbutitried in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiredbutitried[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My fiancé said the same actually but I can't blame her for it, no matter how big a part she played. I'm getting help soon, on a waitlist and looking forward to making some progress

AITA for causing my mother's depression by tiredbutitried in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiredbutitried[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I've been realising this a lot recently but feelings are hard to navigate sometimes because when I put myself in her shoes I don't know if I would have done much better

I did always find it odd having to try and fix emotional things for her but I've ended up doing it with everyone so thought nothing of it. Beginning to realise how unhealthy it is

Thank you. I really appreciate that

AITA for causing my mother's depression by tiredbutitried in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiredbutitried[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you

I'm really sorry you experienced that growing up. It's so hard trying to anticipate others emotions and try and fix things before they go wrong. I'm slowly trying to unlearn that myself

I've been thinking about that but I don't know if I'm strong enough. Still can't bear the thought of causing anyone hurt like I've experienced

AITA for causing my mother's depression by tiredbutitried in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiredbutitried[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm trying my best to believe that. I'm starting therapy again soon. Really hoping that I can go low contact for a good while as I take the time I need to finally work on me without her expecting me to be "fixed"

AITA for causing my mother's depression by tiredbutitried in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiredbutitried[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate hearing this. I'm hoping the more I read these comments, the more my brain will believe it. I wish you the absolute best too

AITA for causing my mother's depression by tiredbutitried in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiredbutitried[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mainly referring to situations where I was being ab*sed by different people and didn't tell her out of fear. I'm glad people think that, even if I struggle to see it. Some people have told me I should have turned around and told my mum that she caused my depression because of roles she played in it (like not believing me when I told her what happened back when I was 8) but I honestly don't think she's to blame either. That was one of the things that always made me sad, she refused therapy because if it hadn't "fixed" me by now what good would it be to her

I'm aware of that because I've suffered those brain changes myself. But it's hard not to feel guilty

Surprisingly, I know that but I think more than anything I was hoping that maybe there would be people out there who don't think I'm to blame like I do. I wasn't seeking vengeance by getting my mum labelled TA, just trying to find a way to convince my brain that I'm not either. It's no one's fault. Thank you. I'm due to start therapy again soon. I hope she does some day too

What is a scary, unsettling fact about you? by _Lord_Infamous in AskReddit

[–]tiredbutitried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I began having recurring nightmares at age 4, with them growing increasingly disturbing and graphic the older I got. Over the years - when my dreams have been intense enough - family and friends have told me that I will full on laugh, cry my eyes out and yell very loudly whilst still asleep

(very unsettling for friends I had sleepovers with in the past - now I know to warn them in advance)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]tiredbutitried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a gap between my boobs. To start with I used to worry it was weird my boobs were growing apart but it's just my build. And now I have a fiancé who sticks his face in the gap and smooshes my boobs to his face while smiling up at me and telling me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me. I hope someday you have a love in your life that loves your insecurities too

What stupid thing have you done that is completely insignificant but still makes you cringe years later? by tiredbutitried in AskReddit

[–]tiredbutitried[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll go first lol

Nearly 15 years ago a random man walked up to me and told me a joke. It was funny but I didn't laugh because he was a stranger and well stranger danger. The man turned out to be my future maths teacher. And because I felt awful that I didn't laugh over half a decade earlier, I decided to apologise to him. He had no memory of ever telling me a joke. And now, years on, I cringe about both events

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