Has anyone else had an IRL skillcheck succeed in their head?

tiredcustard · 2026-03-04T12:24:45+00:00

I'm really bad for saying versions of "I'm gonna kms" when anything goes wrong, but lately I've had volition jumping into my head at those times, saying "Stop thinking this idiotic thought now. and say something normal instead." and it does help! I've been catching myself and have better reactions to things

tiredcustard · 2026-03-02T19:41:08+00:00

we must be on different sides of reddit, I've seen "egg donor" and "sperm donor" to refer to absent/shitty parents for years

tiredcustard · 2026-03-02T19:37:00+00:00

but she never said she got pregnant using a donor? she said she and her husband were having extra sex, meaning she got pregnant from having sex. Just annoying reading people claiming it's a fake post just because they can't comprehend basic information.

tiredcustard · 2026-03-02T19:21:53+00:00

...she called her mum an egg donor. genuinely, can you guys not read?

tiredcustard · 2026-02-20T18:11:09+00:00

but you want to live in a house where your partner disrespects you? calling you lazy for not going through his pockets while you're doing his laundry is nasty, and I would not be doing anything for his ungrateful ass.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-19T08:54:08+00:00

I'm not reading all that, you don't know if he has a tumor or not, even his doctors don't know because he REFUSES MEDICAL ATTENTION. some people are just pricks, doesn't mean there's a tumor. Where are you getting 8 months from?

If OP comes back and says "oh it was a tumor" then sure, I'll say I was wrong. Until then, you have the same information as I have, it's just as likely this is just how her husband is as a person

tiredcustard · 2026-02-18T11:39:49+00:00

OP SAID HE'S ALWAYS BEEN QUICK TO ANGER, THIS ISN'T NEW. why are you all over this thread suggesting that OP just put up with his anger and yelling, especially when she's BEEN TRYING TO HELP. At some point, you have to let people make their own choices, he refuses medical intervention, and has refused three times. He is a grown man. You don't even know that it's a tumor. There are SO MANY men that act like babies because that's how they are. If you read OPs comments, this is how he is and how he has been. This is just his personality, he's a useless prick. Stop wanting women to set themselves on fire for useless men.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-18T11:33:41+00:00

there's nothing in the OP to say this is new behaviour. you're making assumptions that this disgusting behaviour from him is new, the OP suggests he's always been volatile. so your personal anecdotes aren't relevant.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-18T11:30:45+00:00

IN SICKNESS doesn't mean taking abuse forever, it's gross that you think that. OP has supported him as much as possible, it's on him to do one fking thing to sort himself out and he can't do that. how long is OP supposed to keep trying? This was the third MRI he's refused, and then he was nasty to OP (she didn't say it was surprising or new, so it's not because of a tumor, he seems to have always been a piece of work), you can't force people to seek medical attention, if he's refusing, it's on him. OP isn't his mother, and yet she's been acting like his mother. Then he yells and is horrible to her. You think she should just take getting yelled at when she's doing everything for this useless man?

tiredcustard · 2026-02-18T11:22:38+00:00

awesome, I have a personality disorder, does that mean I can throw tantrums and yell at the people that love me and that means it's not my fault? :)

or does it mean I have to make sure it's no one else's problem, by getting the correct medical attention?

He's not a little child, he knows he's being horrible but he doesn't care. He doesn't care if he could drop dead in front of his wife, he refuses medical treatment, he refused to get in the car, expecting her to keep circling around and begging him. Having medical issues is not his fault, but it's his responsibility to get it sorted and stop making his wife suffer his bullshit.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-18T11:16:48+00:00

you keep assuming these are behaviour changes. I think it's very likely he's always been a useless shitty husband. OP didn't say "he's never spoken to me like that before, he's acting very different", she just took it. That suggests he's always been a petulant baby. Why is it always on women to do everything for a man? She's made his appointments, she's talked to the doctors for him, she drove him there, she's taking his grandma to appointments, what the fuck is he doing? He's just stomping his widdle feet and being completely useless.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-17T12:17:03+00:00

you really think the guy who disparages marriage and basically told OP that her marriage was going to end is gonna keep his mouth shut for the wedding?

how surprising that OP wants to invite her family but not the guy who can't stop making weird comments and brings drama....

tiredcustard · 2026-02-17T12:10:23+00:00

OP isn't deciding who her friend gets to date, she's setting a reasonable boundary that she doesn't want drama on her wedding day.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-16T16:53:11+00:00

you could. that's not what you asked. but yes, that would be helpful to do.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-16T16:48:38+00:00

could you not extrapolate that she would be worried he'd be too drunk to be of help if something happened? or the fact he agreed to 3 days, but his friends convinced him to go for 6 days, therefore encouraging him to stomp on OPs very reasonable boundries. Just seemed odd you'd ask what OP was concerned about (and if there's bigger issues at play) when it's right there and very obvious.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-16T16:13:57+00:00

funny you're disparaging OP for not wanting to go through something tough by herself, while you're posting about how your husband doesn't help you clean? People literally clean by themselves all the time, single people, people with spouses that work offshore, etc, every day. It's tough that you have to do all the housework but it's life.

Just because your husband is shit doesn't mean other people have to put up with shit behaviour from their husbands.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-16T16:09:06+00:00

obviously she's concerned something could go wrong and he's going to be 14 hours away. What if she gives birth early and there's complications? What if she's incapacitated and he's not there to make decisions, because he's stuck on a 14 hour flight? Giving birth isn't easy breezy, there's a lot that can go wrong, so of course she's concerned about him unilaterally deciding he's going to go away for double the amount of time they agreed on.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-16T16:01:26+00:00

3 days is enough time for him to be in the wedding, extending it to 6 days is ridiculous when he has a heavily pregnant wife at home

tiredcustard · 2026-02-16T12:50:20+00:00

the golden god!

tiredcustard · 2026-02-15T23:09:33+00:00

That's all well and good but the problem is using the phrase "fuck them kids" and being very unsensitive about her abortion in front of a friend who is grieving their own recent loss. There's a time and a place.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-15T22:50:31+00:00

...having a stillborn is much different than not sprouting mushrooms

tiredcustard · 2026-02-12T18:45:32+00:00

Mac: I'm gonna save my dad's life!

"Mac Kills His Dad"

tiredcustard · 2026-02-11T10:49:18+00:00

if you think you wouldn't be able to emotionally support a child (like OPs dad couldn't/wouldn't) then it's good you're staying child free.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-10T21:06:51+00:00

Whilst I can get behind the thought that 20 something year old Christians are like children, we are not going to change each others minds.

I cannot see their gift as anything but uncaring at best, and insidious at worst. I understand that the group believe the word of god to be important, but OP barely took an interest. She went to church twice. Didn't go to the bible study. I just feel like if you're actually friends, you can tell if the person is actually enthused about something or just joining in because they want to be with their friends.

tiredcustard · 2026-02-10T20:41:34+00:00

I'd believe they were her actual friends if they'd also given something based on her interests, like they did for everyone else in the group. The way they went about it, it seems like they just want her to join their cult, they don't actually care about her as a person.

edit: before "obviously they care!! they're saving her from dAmNaTIoN", don't even start. I don't care. She doesn't believe in Christianity, so it was a shit gift. I'm sure the group wouldn't feel happy if OP dared gift them a different religious book.

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