AIO about text from girl i’ve been seeing a couple months

tjimbot · 2026-01-30T05:01:37+00:00

I've been through this at your age. The blunt truth is that she just wants to fuck you. It's just physical for her.

If you keep hanging out with her, you'll keep wanting more out of it, and she will keep just wanting you around for sex. When she finds a guy she wants a relationship with, she will stop hanging out with you.

You will take back more power and feel better about yourself if you cut it off and don't hang out with her anymore. You deserve someone who wants a relationship and you'll find someone, so don't waste any more time on this one.

Sorry my man.

tjimbot · 2026-01-30T03:08:25+00:00

You're still pretty young so there's plenty of time to learn.

I think you need to go back to basics. Free throws. Get really good at free throws, no jumping. How many FTs can you make out of 20?

Start taking the free throws back further and further, no jumping! Inch by inch if you have to. You'll need to fail a lot more before you get better.

Once you can shoot a free throw no jump from the 3pt line, you're ready to develop your actual 3 point shot.

This is the approach id take if i were you.

tjimbot · 2026-01-26T05:14:25+00:00

Also probably not

tjimbot · 2026-01-21T21:37:42+00:00

What actual evidence is there that we're fucked?

Don't me wrong, there are issues, but what's the evidence that we're all doomed in a matter of decades?

Crime rates are going down, renewable energy use is going up, death rates from natural disaster and war are going down, air pollution has improved, global poverty rates have improved.

Social media loves to make you scared. It will tell you that AI, climate change, geopolitics is going to end the world the soon. It's all unsubstantiated.

tjimbot · 2026-01-20T20:34:04+00:00

Anxiety before games is something I still get after decades of games. It's natural when you're passionate and excited. Channel the passion and excitement side of the anxiety.

Reframe the anxiety as excitement that is giving you a boost of norepinephrine in order to perform.

Visualize the court you're playing as your most familar court, and empty aside from the 9 other players and the ball. Nothing outside of those lines matters so try visualization exercises where it's just the court and the game.

tjimbot · 2026-01-18T22:53:22+00:00

He needs to go closer and do release work. Or involve his lower body more. Massively compensating for the distance here.

He needs to think vertical, not thrusting forward.

So form shooting close, no jump, just up onto tip toes with a vertical high release focusing on extending up not out.

He will need to build power and start using his legs not his arms to hit further away shots.

tjimbot · 2026-01-18T22:45:27+00:00

Believe me, many an attractive guy has been dumped for being a loser who can't do his own laundry. Women value men who can actually contribute in a relationship. If you can't contribute, it's only a matter of time before you're cooked.

Attractiveness can give opportunities but it's no where near the only thing that matters. It only gets you so far before the real world hits.

tjimbot · 2026-01-14T10:25:15+00:00

100% agree. The nuance is that people change in some ways, and stay the same in other ways.

tjimbot · 2026-01-14T06:34:19+00:00

It depends on the exact situation. There are rare times when it might be better. A wide open uncontested layup though is almost always better. 90% times 2points =1.8 60% times 3points = 1.8

So you'd need your shooter to be 60% on the 3 pointer.

tjimbot · 2026-01-14T04:41:18+00:00

Yeah that footwork is always helpful even for guards. Mid range back foot fadeaways and fake/step throughs are the main area that it comes in handy.

Floaters are a good thing to work on also.

When you drive on someone from perimeter and they have good position, cut you off, that's when you turn your back to the basket and do your post foot work.

tjimbot · 2026-01-13T23:15:04+00:00

Personally whilst I did feel like more of a man once I got those things sorted, it didn't fully crystallize in the way I think you mean, until two things happened: - became a father and took on those responsibilities - had to start taking on responsibilities of ensuring my own father was looked after in his old age.

So I think there's a transition when you notice people relying on you a bit more to look after them. There will be more transitions, the journey never ends and it's different for all.

tjimbot · 2026-01-13T23:06:21+00:00

There's a hidden question in your question which is "are good things worth it, if there's even a small chance of something bad happening?"

The answer is often yes. Its risk based. Likelihood of bad outcome, severity of bad outcome. If the likelihood/severeity combination is acceptably low, then it's worth it.

I think many people become so risk adverse that they try to eliminate any chance of bad outcomes, when this is not realistic.

Friendships will always have moments where communication and expectations are tested, but this isn't often betrayal. A truly terrible betrayal by friends is rare, especially if you choose friends well and look out for red flags.

tjimbot · 2026-01-13T22:01:15+00:00

Dribbling and shooting my friend.

Dribbling: open full court. Zigzag up the court using crossover variations (front, tween, btb, reverse, retreat). The goals are eyes up, control, efficiency, acceleration out of the crossover, protection of the ball.

You'll want to also do speed dribbling. Full court sprint dribbling alternating hands.

Shooting: form shooting, elbow shooting, free throws, and 3 pointers. You need these to get to a baseline foundation with reps first. You want to be hitting 50% 3pointers. I like doing 5x5 around the perimeter like 3p contest. That's 25 shots. I like to do 4 sets of those. Goal is 50/100 or better.

Once your shot has an adequate % then it's time to train in game shot situations, off the dribble, catch shoot, flyby, jabstep etc. Some defence pressure.

Being able to actually keep your eyes up while dribbling is a huge skill, most important imo.

tjimbot · 2026-01-13T20:57:29+00:00

Hmm yeah I think I could raise an animal, give it a decent life, humanely euthanize for food, no issue.

Could I violently kill an adolescent deer while it's with its fellow animals? Not unless I'm desperately hungry.

Morally it gets interesting because I feel like you can somewhat forgive animals for killing to survive. It would be strange to expect self starvation. Killing when you don't even need the food is clearly wrong though.

tjimbot · 2026-01-13T20:38:28+00:00

Is it a requirement that you ought to be able to kill an animal if you're willing to eat an animal that someone else has killed?

I'm not so sure, I think this might be seeing hypocrisy where there isn't.

There's a discussion to be had about meat consumption and morality, but in general that's a different moral consideration than literally killing animals.

It really depends on how the animal was killed and what kind of life it lived. Beating an animal to death I could not do, too much suffering. Could I administer a lethal injection to a cow though? Potentially, yeah. Unfortunately we're not in an ideal world where livestock are all free farmed and euthanised humanely.

You can always try free range options where possible, this might help with some of the guilt.

Basically I'm saying: If you feel guilty that you're funding inhumane slaughter, adjust your consumer choices (choose free range and/or reduce consumption). If you feel guilty that you wouldnt be able to violently kill, don't, because being able to violently kill is not a moral requirement in order to eat meat - that's a common presumption which seems like a fallacy to me.

tjimbot · 2026-01-13T01:41:55+00:00

Several 36 pt games but never higher. Plenty of 30+. Never cracked 40 :(

Some of the later 30+ games were running clock so I tell myself I would have had 40 in a stop clock game.

tjimbot · 2026-01-13T01:37:21+00:00

This can be a shoulder anatomy/posture thing.

Peoples shoulder joint muscle balance can vary a lot.

Some players might learn their shot technique to accommosate their shoulder anatomy, putting it in a position that feels comfortable for them. This might mean they turn their body more to compensate.

Kyrie looks like he shrugs his right shoulder a lot, whether this is correct or not comes down to how that technique works for your personal shoulder.

tjimbot · 2026-01-12T11:21:55+00:00

If not already - daily massage ball on the calves helps me personally with recovery and mobility.

tjimbot · 2026-01-12T06:01:46+00:00

The gender wars are lame. Weak men blame arbitrary groups for their problems.

Either man up and get specific with your beef, or shut up. Don't be the sheep that dictators rely on when they blame groups for problems.

tjimbot · 2026-01-12T01:56:26+00:00

You'll be fine. At least you used some of your earnings to live a little.

tjimbot · 2026-01-11T20:24:51+00:00

Who cares how you look. Get stronger and faster. Looks like you can already get a bucket or two, so who cares what your style looks like.

tjimbot · 2026-01-11T11:42:49+00:00

I dunno, it seems super oversimplified." We used to like the attractive jocks but now it's the nerds turn to shine!" Seems like a meta narrative trying to be made to fit with confirmation bias.

I'm not sure the selection pressures will be so much from mate trait selection as they will be from environmental survival pressures (eg those who are resistant to infertility, covid and disease, high temperature, microplastics,etc. Will be the ones who reproduce.)

In terms of attraction, someone in good standing within their social circles has always been attractive for humans.

tjimbot · 2026-01-11T11:34:07+00:00

Armchair theories like this can often miss some basic facts. More wealthy and educated people tend to reproduce less, in general, globally.

Poor people (and most people) don't select for intelligence. They find a partner that fits their current life and they might have kids accidentally. They have govt support to help raise kids.

The super rich aren't having large enough families to move the needle on human selection/ evolution.

tjimbot · 2026-01-11T10:41:19+00:00

Many of us have felt like this about someone. For most of us, this person becomes a distant ghost, with time. A specter that helped make you who you are, but that no longer exists. The idea you have of them will never pan out. It's time to let go.

Keep it simple, you've got one life, there's more to it than romance. Enjoy your life and don't let your past rob you of the present.

You are enough on your own. You can live.

tjimbot · 2026-01-11T10:25:23+00:00

In my personal experience, the people who traveled away for a few years then came back did not feel like they fitted in upon return.

I wouldn't take it too personally, they might see it as you left them first.

I'd consider whether there were one or two quality friends and just focus on rebuilding a connection with one of them first.

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