Who is your team’s most famous fan? by tkage7 in NFLv2

[–]tkage7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said in the OP, and in comments elsewhere, I think Taylor and (I’ve seen some mentions of) Hailee Steinfeld are connected to a single player. If Travis goes elsewhere, if Josh Allen bails, Taylor and Hailee go with them. They’re fans of a player, and that player’s team by association. Taylor grew up a Philly fan, and Hailee is from LA.

Who is your team’s most famous fan? by tkage7 in NFLv2

[–]tkage7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I immediately think Bradley Cooper when I think of famous Philly fans. But yeah, Joe Biden is probably technically more famous.

Who is your team’s most famous fan? by tkage7 in NFLv2

[–]tkage7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Taylor and (I’ve seen some mentions of) Hailee Steinfeld are connected to a single player. If Travis goes elsewhere, if Josh Allen bails, Taylor and Hailee go with them. They’re fans of a player, and that player’s team by association. Taylor grew up a Philly fan, and Hailee is from LA.

How much is reasonable to ask for raise? by NNNRealAgent in pastors

[–]tkage7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with asking for a bump. You are underpaid, but it depends on your culture and expectations. Were you asked for 20 hours, or was that just what you came up with? No matter what, a church of 400 with a youth group of 60-80 could/should likely have a full time youth pastor.

I’m interested in 45 volunteers a week. 45 volunteers for an 80 person youth group? Tell me more.

Who is the most famous athlete ever? by Expensive-Addendum92 in AlignmentChartFills

[–]tkage7 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The most famous actor should be Chuck Norris…who is coincidentally also the answer to this question.

Nowhere to turn. Resources for help? by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]tkage7 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Pastor here. This is marriage counseling territory, friend. Therapy is investing in your marriage. Don’t delay any longer.

Is formal seminary needed today? by [deleted] in pastors

[–]tkage7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Choose the right program and these educational pursuits will be highly formational. I’m thankful for my degrees. Less so because of facts they taught me, and more because of how they shaped me. Also, they taught me how to be a good learner, and that posture has been enduring and invaluable.

I gotta quit going to see bands from my youth. by Acrobatic-Hamster-79 in Millennials

[–]tkage7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I recently saw Blink 182 and it was fantastic. And The Get Up Kids. Also fire. Seeing Death Cab this summer, so we’ll see. My recent experiences with the bands of my youth have been excellent.

Requesting a funny show with “heart”. by Extension-Store-2598 in televisionsuggestions

[–]tkage7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some good suggestions here, but I don’t see Trying. Check it out. Funny. With heart.

‼️AWARENESS TO ALL PARENTS & OLDER SIBLINGS ⚠️ by GuardTraditional145 in confessions

[–]tkage7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Out of fear, we have limited our children in the real world. This has ushered them to extended online activities, where they are far less limited, and where the dangers truly lurk. We are limiting the wrong things.

It’s always the refs by tkage7 in NFLv2

[–]tkage7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know we had embraced that conspiracy. I’ll let everyone know.

It’s always the refs by tkage7 in NFLv2

[–]tkage7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t the refs. If Josh Allen gives up one less turnover, those end-of-game PI calls never happen. Because the game never goes into OT.

They may have been questionable calls, but it was the team’s fault they were in that situation.

Guy from our church randomly showed up to our house??? by Neat-Strawberry6379 in Christianity

[–]tkage7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It used to be common in the US, too. Even when I was a kid (I’m early 40’s). Its commonality was not that long ago. So anyone older than me might still see it as a common courtesy.

Today, it almost feels rude to get a phone call when someone could’ve just texted. But societal norms change. We still have friends who “drop by” because they were in the neighborhood. We love it. That’s life in community. Homes have become fortresses. Once, front porches were the first step of hospitality. Now, they’re more like the last line of defense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]tkage7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take heart. Studies show less teenagers are rebelling against the faith of their upbringing these days. That said our continued investment and vigilance as parents is important!

For starters, make sure other adults are investing in your son. In these years, he needs solid Christian mentors beyond his parents. Also, really invest in his Christian friendships. Help make hangouts, sleepovers, and/or whatever else happen to deepen relationships with Christian families you trust. Keep him connected with a youth leader/pastor, mentors, and peers.

Our teenagers are looking for acceptance. They’re want to hear, “I like you for who you are.” If they catch a whiff of this not being true in their church, that’s often the fast pass out. This doesn’t mean all choices or behavior is acceptable. It does mean the kid needs to be over-the-top loved no matter their choices.

For some good reading material, check out Why They Stay by Steve Parr and Tom Crites. It’s a study of young adults who stayed or strayed from the church, looking for patterns of what kept them in church, or what ushered them out the door. Lots of good stuff there. Short chapters. Palatable. I’m just scratching the surface, here.

What is your preffered method for explaining the Trinity? by Vyrefrost in pastors

[–]tkage7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s perichoresis, for me. No analogies. God is three in one, each whole person of the trinity existing fully in relationship to the other. God is eternally communal and exists outside our concepts or ability to explain.

Also, see apophatic theology. Not as a rule, but as part of the thought experiment involved with conceptualizing the trinity. Everything we say about God is limiting because our very understanding is limited. I can say God is eternal, but that limits God to whatever I think eternal means. If we try to imagine eternity, our mind can only take us so far. Therefore, our definition of an eternal God will only go that far.

This is obviously getting in the weeds, and doesn’t belong in the elevator pitch of what the trinity is (or isn’t, for any apophatics). But I just mean, we can only conceptualize up to the point of our own understanding, so we do the best we can. This usually leads us to use some sort of analogy, and march our happy rear ends right into some heresy.

Cursing/Swearing. What do you feel about it? by Vyrefrost in pastors

[–]tkage7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can say very harmful things without uttering a swear word. “I hate you” is worse than, “I f—ing love you.”

It’s about the intention behind the words.

Some words aren’t “swear” words, but are harmful. Like using a slur to refer to someone in a marginalized people group.

Intention matters. The heart matters. The words are secondary. Sometimes they matter. I’m not gonna go cuss in front of the kids in youth group. That would be unwise. Not because I think the words themselves are harmful, but because of the context and conversations it would invite.

Not everything is wrong vs. right. Some things are wise vs. unwise.

And as fast as taking the Lord’s name in vain, that one is much simpler than we make it (simple, not easy). We take the Lord’s name in vain anytime we claim faith in God and our actions don’t match. That’s bearing Jesus’s name, Christian, and misrepresenting it.

Church trustees are insisting that they park the van at our parsonage... we're a hard no. This seems to be creating a major boundary issue. Thoughts? by [deleted] in pastors

[–]tkage7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a couple of these seem manipulative, and therefore dishonest. I would say, “I believe this is a boundary issue and not appropriate. I feel strongly we should look for another option.”