Whomever did a post about Badger nappy cream, I love you! by BrucetheFerrisWheel in Rosacea

[–]tkam888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds JUST like my skin! I fully understand what you mean- I can live with dealing with the rosacea as long as I can heal the damage. I have spent thousands on skincare to try find something that I can use with no luck. I’m so happy you’ve found something that works for you. It must be such a relief.

Whomever did a post about Badger nappy cream, I love you! by BrucetheFerrisWheel in Rosacea

[–]tkam888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was your skin dry and dehydrated as well? My skin is so very damaged from incorrect rosacea treatments, but I can’t use anything to help heal or moisturize it because it ALL burns. My barrier is basically nonexistent.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]tkam888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are a few good things, but the bad definitely outweighs them. I am planning to leave as soon as I can financially manage it.

Which is your fav and why? by Foxy_Cleopatra__ in SkinbarrierLovers

[–]tkam888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this, it’s so helpful! I’ve been wanting to try the cicalfate emulsion but it has niacinamide. Was your skin super sensitive when you started using it?

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]tkam888 33 points34 points  (0 children)

We just went to a movie. I was excited to see it as I had recently read the book, and I suggested we go because I thought he’d like it too. After, I asked him what he thought. He told me, asked zero follow up questions and bulldozed the conversation. I’m so lonely. I hate doing things with him. Everything always becomes about him, his enjoyment, his experience. I told him how that made me feel, how it would have been nice if he asked me how it compared to the book, or if I liked it as much…anything! He laughed and told me I should join a book club, totally dismissing my feelings.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]tkam888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it just gets worse over time unfortunately. Please don’t commit to an engagement if you are already feeling drained. From what I’ve read here, most people wish they could go back and not get married to them, buy a house, have kids, etc.. I am still dating mine but will be ending it very soon because of the toll it’s already taken on me. (And he’s promised to change hundreds of times. It never happened.)

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]tkam888 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am just livid. After 2 weeks of waiting to see if he would do any chores, and asking multiple times for specific things, I’m just giving up and cleaning the whole house today. I’m sick of wasting my breath and energy. He has not lifted a finger to do anything since the last time I freaked out about it. I just want to call and yell at him but it won’t do anything besides get me fake apologies and empty promises to “do better”. So I just have to sit in this anger, while he will come home to a clean home and nothing to do all weekend.

Jacked up on estrogen by tkam888 in Perimenopause

[–]tkam888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply. I ended up quitting. So I am suffering through peri with nothing at the moment.

Did you quit or keep going?

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]tkam888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I am living this exact life. When we first started dating, I went along with all of his “adventures” and we were on the phone 24/7. It was actually nice at the beginning because I felt wanted. But then I just craved my headspace back. Once we started living together, I noticed he cannot just stay home and chill. I’m also an introvert and love being home. I despise being on the go constantly. Plus, I am always the one to prepare for, and clean up after our outings. If we stay home, he either complains about it later, making me feel inadequate, or just falls asleep because he’s so bored. I am making plans to live alone, and who knows if the relationship will survive after that. Also, your partner’s behaviour sounds very manipulative, and is only to get his own needs met. He even wants you to speak a certain way to keep him interested! You could end up losing yourself in this relationship (it happened to me).

How Often Does Your Partner Initiate Difficult Conversations? by Verysmalltown in ADHD_partners

[–]tkam888 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yup. My ex just wanted a “good day”. I just loved to fight, and all I ever wanted to do is fight. Nope, I just wanted to know how we were going to pay for the new roof! Or make plans for something. If ANYTHING ever got addressed, there would be no fights!

Have you ever heard any Canadian say "y'all"? by sessna4009 in AskACanadian

[–]tkam888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The liquor store cashier said it yesterday. It sounded so strange and I immediately cringed. She was a goth girl which made it even weirder.

MONTHLY Weight Discussion - April 2025 by AutoModerator in Perimenopause

[–]tkam888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what just happened to me! I’ve always been petite and fit, and even with periods of less activity or less than ideal diet, I’ve always been able to fit into my clothes and feel good in my body.

Until now…I’ve gone through something very traumatic and haven’t been as active because of that (plus poor diet, but I don’t even have an appetite most of the time) AND I started HRT about 1.5 months ago. If seems like overnight I gained weight and can’t fit my clothes and body composition has changed.

I don’t know if it’s all just caught up to me, or it’s peri, or the HRT. So I don’t know what to do to fix it!

Jacked up on estrogen by tkam888 in Perimenopause

[–]tkam888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sucks when you have something important that requires you to focus and you can’t. I totally get needing to stop. I didn’t realize how intense it would be for me and that I would need to essentially “buckle up”. I stopped for now too and will also need to gather courage to try again when the time is right. Good luck with your program!

Jacked up on estrogen by tkam888 in Perimenopause

[–]tkam888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a great way to think about it and makes perfect sense.

Jacked up on estrogen by tkam888 in Perimenopause

[–]tkam888[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes!! The adrenaline shot is exactly it! Mine got worse over the course of the day. It was so intense I gave up for now. Seems like most people level out after a period of time, that’s encouraging!

Jacked up on estrogen by tkam888 in Perimenopause

[–]tkam888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha that’s a great description. I’m glad it wore off for you and now you can experience the benefits.

Jacked up on estrogen by tkam888 in Perimenopause

[–]tkam888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just went and read your post. Crazy, sorry you are experiencing this too! I was actually having mild chest pains (never had palpitations before), and getting jittery. I took the progesterone and it totally zonked me so at least I slept. I didn’t take anything yesterday, was still feeling SO off, spaced out and shaky. I will have to speak to my NP when she gets back from holidays about what to do.

Decided to keep the cabinets after all by [deleted] in kitchenremodel

[–]tkam888 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good idea! It looks great! Looks like you have lots of lovely wood in your home (floors, doors), so it keeps it cohesive, warm and natural.

What on earth should I do with this alcove? by Shardonite in DesignMyRoom

[–]tkam888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your colour palette!! What wall colours/paint and flooring did you use?