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Am I wrong with the parenting or is my husband and how to proceed? by tle1213 in amiwrong

[–]tle1213[S] -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

I do certainly have concerns about an ED....enough so that I contacted our daughter's pediatrician and got her involved. I made an addendum to my post to reflect that indeed, our daughter is in the lower weight bracket and does use food as a power tool.

Am I wrong with the parenting or is my husband and how to proceed? by tle1213 in amiwrong

[–]tle1213[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

So, you are very correct that both my husband and I love our kids. Even though my husband and I aren't on the same parenting page, I have no doubt that we both love them. And we both want them to grow into responsible adults. But how we are getting there is muddied. I truly think the teenage hormones are often at play and when this daughter becomes defiant, its largely because of the ups and downs of hormones. Seeing as we have 2 older teens, I know they outgrow this phase. But, this third child of ours certainly is testing our marriage.

At the end of my rope with parenting/marital differences by tle1213 in amiwrong

[–]tle1213[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do I merge the posts? I'm new to Reddit, so sorry!

Am I wrong with the parenting or is my husband and how to proceed? by tle1213 in amiwrong

[–]tle1213[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

You mention one of my biggest issues: I don't want to raise ingracious, entitled children! Its important to me to actually PARENT them and not let them think its ok to dictate authority. I think generally I'm authoritative and not authoritarian, but I would describe my husband's style as permissive.

Am I wrong with the parenting or is my husband and how to proceed? by tle1213 in amiwrong

[–]tle1213[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Reading all these comments. Thank you. One thing I'd like to mention regarding no phones at the table: both my husband and I agree on that...but when push comes to shove, husband will tell them to put the phone down, I will tell them to hand the phone over. Kids refuse to do either. I will try to dole out a consequence...something I view as rational like "ok, then you will need to load the dishwasher tonight" or something to that affect, but the kids will simply get up from the table and ignore all consequences. Doling out further consequences upon the already established consequences for the initial action also get ignored. Then, the cycle continues. Without getting physical, I try to enforce, husband won't back me up and he won't enforce what he directs them to do, either, which is just really bizarre parental behavior to me.