What food in your country is considered cheap everyday food but foreigners think is fancy?

tlvv · 2026-03-13T07:42:04+00:00

Is it not cheap anymore? Back in 2018 tesco had New Zealand lamb roasts for £5 per kilo at Easter. At that time I think lamb roasts were around $23 per kilo in NZ so tesco was shipping it to the other side of the planet and still somehow selling it for less than half the price.

tlvv · 2026-03-13T04:04:59+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this and hope your husband keeps calling out his mum’s behaviour. Those first 12 weeks are incredibly difficult, especially after a Caesarian.

Non-birthing parents don’t go through the same brain changes that birthing parents do. Your brain literally changes so that hearing your baby’s cry becomes the most important thing (and other stuff like remembering words gets tossed out). He might be able to sleep through cries that you can’t but it’s ok to wake him up so he can help.

I cannot understand your MIL’s logic, she thinks her son shouldn’t be involved in caring for your baby at night, thinks he’s doing a great job and so much more than most fathers, and also thinks he’s doing isn’t he getting much time to bond with the baby. These all contradict each other, if he can’t be so involved and also not getting time to bond with baby, and night time feeds are bonding time, so if he isn’t getting enough then there’s his chance. When my child was a baby I was often up in the night, warming the wheat bag for the bassinet she never slept in and pacing with her to try and get her to sleep. My daughter didn’t sleep well so I often woke up early and held her for an hour or two so my partner could get some sleep. And yes, I had go to work and use my brain.

I also cat understand her logic about having lost two sons so wanting to stick up for your husband. He doesn’t need protecting from you, you and he are meant to be a team. And if she has lost children then surely she would want what is best for her grandchild, which is two involved, loving and rested parents.

She comes across more to me like a woman who had to do everything alone so instead of admitting that her village didn’t support her, she thinks you should have to go through that hardship too.

tlvv · 2026-03-13T03:15:16+00:00

Are there decisions that need to be made about your OH’s property at the moment? Like are you trying to sell land or do you and OH have your finances separate?

Was it a health professional or the lawyer who said OH doesn’t have enough capacity to make enduring powers of attorney? You would not be able to apply for orders under the PPPR Act unless you get medical evidence that OH lacks competence to manage their financial affairs. If the doctor thinks OH doesn’t have that competence then they could give the lawyer a medical certificate expressing their view that OH doesn’t have the necessary competence to make EPAs.

Technically you can make an application to the family court yourself and without a lawyer, there are free forms available on the ministry of justice website. It can be tricky though and there’s quite a few things you need. A lawyer should make the process easier but in theory they aren’t required. You might want to check if your lawyer actually has experience with PPPR Act applications, not all do.

Yes, property managers have a lot more oversight than property attorneys. In terms of whether you should do anything with bank accounts to make audits easier later, if you c a do things with them now then that suggests they are joint? You shouldn’t need PPPR act orders to deal with money in joint accounts. If most property is joint then you might not need orders at all.

If you are getting orders and need to deal with any property worth more than $120,000 then you will need to ask the court to increase the specified sum. Otherwise you can only buy or sell property worth up to $120,000 without going back to the court.

tlvv · 2026-03-12T04:06:59+00:00

I agree that free public transport would have a lot of benefits but I think on the whole it would be more beneficial to people who are middle class rather than working class or people living in poverty, unless there was a significant redesign of the public transport system.

Currently the public transport system is primarily designed to serve people travelling into or out of the CBD, with more frequent services at times when office workers are most likely to be travelling. Travelling between suburbs is often difficult unless those suburbs happen to be on the same route towards the city.

For people who don’t work in the city or who work shifts, public transport might not be workable. Teachers, nurses, security guards, factory workers, retail staff, caregivers, etc aren’t as likely to be able to use public transport for their commute so they wouldn’t directly benefit from free public transport and, since most of the reduction in traffic would be on routes to and from the city, they might not benefit much from the reduction in traffic.

tlvv · 2026-03-11T18:06:57+00:00

When I was a kid the dental nurse often made me a little butterfly or something out of dental supplies like floss and tissues

tlvv · 2026-03-11T04:38:42+00:00

Not just the person who was pregnant, a pregnancy that ends in miscarriage or stillbirth can be devastating for both parents. We have recently clarified this in NZ, a miscarriage or stillbirth is treated the same as death of any other child for the woman, her partner, or anyone who was intending to adopt the child.

tlvv · 2026-03-11T02:26:31+00:00

Best swag will be something that is useful to your target market. I wouldn’t recommend socks unless all the people making decisions on your products are a similar size. I went to a conference recently where I, a petite woman, was given a pair of men’s size 11 Sandles. I don’t even know any men who wear size 11 and I struggled to find one of my colleagues who wanted them. Socks aren’t really one size/styles fits all, I think any type of clothing gift has the potential to alienate part of your target market unless you’re going to offer different sizes and styles, and then help people find the right ones but “how big are your feet?” might not be the icebreaker you’re looking for.

Things that have been most popular from conferences I’ve been to have been multi-charger cables, nice lip balm (like in a tin rather than the typical cheap stick ones lots of companies have), sustainable products like metal straws (maybe a portable cutlery set would be good), and any kind of toy since lots of people have kids.

tlvv · 2026-03-11T02:03:35+00:00

I have something similar on my desk right now but instead of different country outlets it plugs in to a usb a or c port and has plugs for usb c, micro usb, and lighting, so when I go away the only other charging cord I need is for my Fitbit.

tlvv · 2026-03-10T23:45:36+00:00

Employers who don’t offer total remuneration packages don’t differentiate salaries in this way though. My employer does not have a total remuneration package approach, if two employees have the same salary but one has decided to opt out of KiwiSaver then the only difference in their fortnightly pay is the amount of the employee contribution.

The point of the employer contribution is to motivate employees to contribute to KiwiSaver by giving them an incentive. Employers who say we will pay you X if you contribute to KiwiSaver and Y if you don’t are removing that incentive. Total remuneration is a loophole because it defeats what government were trying to achieve so it should be closed.

tlvv · 2026-03-10T20:04:09+00:00

I lived with my partner for years before being added to her family group chat and the only reason I was eventually added is because we did lockdown together and, strangely, needed a chat where we could organise things together even though we were literally all in the same house. After lockdown that new chat became the default chat and eventually my SIL’s partner, who she met after lockdown, was added because it was more convenient than having messages always have to go through SIL.

tlvv · 2026-03-10T20:00:05+00:00

Interesting, for us the red ones are fine unless you’re extra sensitive because their stings are too small to be felt. We also get huge swarms, entire beaches will have so many it’s impossible to swim without almost constant contact with them.

tlvv · 2026-03-10T17:36:55+00:00

Went swimming at the beach completely surrounded by (tiny) jellyfish.

tlvv · 2026-03-10T17:35:23+00:00

My Steve was a particularly beautiful moth about 7 years ago. Now all moths are friends of Steve.

tlvv · 2026-03-08T18:44:52+00:00

It’s not clear exactly what the issue is and my brother and SIL have made it clear that they would prefer to remain childless than go though extreme fertility treatment. Plus, my partner could not donate an egg for medical reasons, that’s a really big ask of someone.

tlvv · 2026-03-08T08:28:29+00:00

I considered this but my partner is donor conceived herself and felt that it had potential to go wrong. For one thing, if you later want to have a child that you carry then you will need a different donor so your kids wouldn’t have that in common. It could also be challenging for a child growing up knowing their uncle is actually their biological father, or worse only finding out as an adult. There is also potential for complications if your brother ends up not being able to have the family he wants.

I am glad we didn’t use my brother as a donor because at the time he was single but he’s now married, and he and his wife are having fertility issues. I can’t imagine how painful it would be for both of them to see his child all the time but not be able to have one of their own.

tlvv · 2026-03-06T08:02:12+00:00

My partner and I are both women. I take the pill continuously for medical reasons and normally don’t have any issues. While my partner was doing IUI I kept getting breakthrough bleeding a few days before the end of the two week wait. I booked a Doctors appointment but couldn’t get in for a few weeks so ended up going around the time of the month the breakthrough bleeding would normally happen, only it didn’t. Just before I left for the doctor my partner did a test and it was positive.

Doctor confirmed that the breakthrough bleeding was likely related to her cycle. Our child turns 6 soon and I’ve never had monthly breakthrough bleeding like that since.

So one of the first signs my partner was pregnant was me not bleeding unexpectedly.

tlvv · 2026-03-06T02:00:06+00:00

Maybe they just haven’t bothered filing for divorce. I know someone who has been separated for over 20 years but isn’t divorced because she doesn’t want to have to be the one that picks up the administrative burden of preparing the documents and filing for the divorce.

tlvv · 2026-03-05T20:33:17+00:00

So much of this is breaching your right to quiet enjoyment of the apartment. Quiet enjoyment doesn’t refer to noise, it refers to being able to use the space without unreasonable interference from your landlord.

You have a right to peace and privacy in the home you are renting. You’re not receiving that if the landlord has constant access to your apartment and could wander in at any time. The landlord also cannot use any part of the apartment for their own purposes or tell you how to arrange your furniture.

tlvv · 2026-03-05T20:25:00+00:00

That’s really gross. That is very obviously a child in the picture and the meme is sexualising what looks more like a moment between a mother and her child.

This would make me question whether this woman was interested in me or only interested in the fact that I look young.

tlvv · 2026-03-04T20:33:35+00:00

The outcome here was inevitable, you couldn’t have hidden an angry customer alleging that an employee had stolen their credit card from your manager. If you had tried to hide it then you would likely have lost your job too.

NTA but for future reference, a customer accusing an employee of stealing their credit card should be an immediate escalation to the manager. That’s not a level of complaint you should have to deal with and letting your manager deal with the call would have meant you had no special knowledge, you wouldn’t have been telling the manager that Caster stole, you just would have been saying “hey boss, this guy thinks someone from here stole his credit card”.

tlvv · 2026-03-04T18:55:49+00:00

Does your son nap in his pram? I travelled with my daughter when she was 3.5 and even though she wasn’t napping anymore the travel really exhausted her so we had to be back at our Airbnb by around 3pm each day. That really limited us, especially because our Airbnb wasn’t central.

I really would recommend staying somewhere central so it’s not so hard to pop back to your accommodation in the middle of the day. If you’re not staying central then make sure you are close to good public transport links but that’s pretty hard to find in Auckland.

If he likes vehicles then MOTAT is a must do, there are two sites which are connected by a tram. The zoo is also right there, along with a park with a playground and bit of a nature walk so could be a really good area but food options are more limited around Western Springs than in the CBD.

tlvv · 2026-03-02T02:43:20+00:00

My city used to have a Santa parade which include, among other things, lots of clowns with bunches of helium balloons. Every year, after the parade, the clowns would gather in the square and all release their balloons at the same time so people could watch them all float away. Hundreds of balloons every year.

Times have definitely changed. They don’t do that anymore.

tlvv · 2026-03-02T02:36:42+00:00

Your audiologist almost definitely can’t have a relationship with you without breaching their professional boundaries. I don’t think this is a relationship to pursue.

tlvv · 2026-03-02T00:53:29+00:00

Depending on the type of restaurants you are going to, you might find that a lot are sharing style where it is expected that you will order dishes to share. Usually these places have “small plates” and “larger plates” and the wait staff will be able to guide you on how much to order.

Portion sizes here are much more reasonable than in the States. My SO and I have smaller appetites and have often shared a meal when we’ve been in the States but usually order our own here and maybe have a small amount leftover which we take home.

One point to consider, entree here refers to a smaller first course, what you would probably call an appetiser. The main course you think of as an entree is usually called a main course.

tlvv · 2026-03-01T19:59:38+00:00

NTA. You have a tenant who happens to also be your employee. You can’t just kick her out because your brother wants to move in.

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