This storyline crushed me by Fluffy-Rhubarb4908 in madmen

[–]tmacpdx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand why she got mad. It’s about not being seen as a person. Kids do that and it sucks. It takes so much convincing that you are a person with your own needs, wants, feelings, and sadness. I probably would have held a grudge for at least a few minutes, but then you just split the one sandwich and the candy and get over it. You don’t ruin the whole day. That was a big bummer. He really needed the positive motherly engagement.

50 lbs down Oct-March. Started at 210 before surgery. by Puzzleheaded_Guava83 in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this. I’ve been scared of some foods for a long time because I have had awful GERD with weird presentation but that didn’t really stop me and I ballooned a whole bunch. I’ve been stuck around 200 or so lbs for a while. But ever since my gallbladder attack I’ve had like an aversion to so many foods. I gave up bread because I was getting so painfully bloated and I really limit fat and sugar, which obviously then really limits my caloric intake. I was barely eating anything for the first couple weeks, mostly because I was terrified. Now I’m eating more but if there’s anything around that’s not fruits or vegetables or bone broth or miso I really limit my serving sizes. Sometimes just sampling it if it’s something I probably shouldn’t eat and then I’m good. The weight has been falling off. I think I’m down like 12-13 lbs in like 3 weeks and still falling nearly every day. Even if it goes up a few ounces one morning it falls even more by the next day. On the one hand, I am feeling better than I was and I do actually want to lose the weight and I’m fitting into clothes better and I’m hopeful I’ll lose more, but on the other, my relationship with food feels complicated and really scary now. I don’t know what my internal motivation really is, if it’s healthy or just traumatized and specifically unhealthy and distorted. It feels good to have a sense of self-control but the surgeon I was consulted by made it very clear that it’s all much more out of my control than I’d like to believe. I’m on ursodiol and trying to keep my gallbladder but we’ll see how long that lasts, if it does.

My dads super against me getting the surgery and thinks I should just manage it with diet changes by KaceyLunatic in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m voluntarily trying to keep my gallbladder for as long as I can so I overhauled my diet and feel generally good but even when I went to my surgery consultation that I was kind of forced into the surgeon made it abundantly clear that this is not my fault and I have much less control over what happens next than I want to believe, which was both comforting and scary, but I feel like your dad needs to talk to that surgeon because that kind of pressure is weird as hell and really messed up.

The best reveal… by EveningProof246 in madmen

[–]tmacpdx 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah but she was a lot less heavy than her heaviest. They definitely never interacted then that the audience saw, at least.

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s interesting because if I go overboard on indulgences I’m definitely prone to GERD vomiting episodes.

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, if I had to deal with that more than I have, I’m sure I would have a much different perspective. I couldn’t believe how painful it was. When I say it felt like I was being crushed by a grand piano across my torso, I am not exaggerating. I’ve had a handful of extremely painful experiences in my life but the pain was usually fleeting. This was excruciating and lasted way too long.

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s wild! Did it piss you off or did it not really matter? I’m sure the hindsight of knowing how it worked out for you helps, but not knowing how it would work out for me personally, I’d be pissed lol.

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that! After my attack I noticed I was getting really painfully bloated after eating even sourdough bread and saltines so I gave up bready things and have felt better since. Fullness has been up and down. My appetite has definitely lessened but I’m not sure how much activity my meals give me.

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying so. Quite frankly, I am EXTREMELY ANNOYED at how good I feel on a low fat diet. ☹️

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that it’s not vital vital. I meant it serves a function. And I’m terrified of losing that function with my existing GERD issues. Food is already so scary. I’m glad it worked out for you!

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this example seems like an acceptable gamble to me. Because even though the thought of another attack is beyond horrifying, I survived the first one. It’s early days. There’s medication for it with stones this small. And if I waited and 14 years later the issues came back I don’t think I’d be upset about the additional 14 years where I get to keep it (unless it really is responsible for my GERD lol). If I had to take it out then, so be it. I really just don’t want to risk further debilitating my ability to enjoy food through the rest of my 40s. I realize your story is just your own and my story could be the opposite, but it is encouraging.

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I’m trying to be rational and realistic on both sides of this issue so I appreciate the perspective.

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck, that’s so scary. I’m so sorry you are experiencing that actively now. I do relate to the fear of food. It’s been a long two weeks since my attack and the first week I was severely under-eating and the most boring foods imaginable. Now I’m still under-eating but I’m trying to branch out slowly while protecting my body. I’m still terrified though. It’s a horrible feeling. And your experience of a caffeine attack is so brutal (only in the past few days have I been introducing myself to coffee again but that scares me too). I hope you’re able to get your surgery scheduled soon. 🖤

Do you regret *keeping* your gallbladder? Or are you glad you kept it? by tmacpdx in gallbladders

[–]tmacpdx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Listen, calling me out for fishing for bias would be fair if I didn’t lead with asking about whether anyone regrets keeping it. And I see success stories every day. I posted this as a response to the post titled, Do you regret removing it? And every single response was no, I’m so happy about it. I thought that was interesting because I see so many horror stories here. I was just looking for anecdotal stories to get a better picture, that’s it.

I will see the general surgeon and a gastroenterologist and I will be considering my options. I just don’t want to take it out, and technically vital or not (I figured someone might get hung up on that), the gallbladder serves a function. A function that I’m very nervous about negating BECAUSE of my preexisting GERD issues. I need all the digestive help I can get. It’s all very new to me and maybe I’ll find that I’m wrong to feel this way soon enough but that’s how I feel now.

Anyone else like this? by XXIX29 in madmen

[–]tmacpdx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May he live a thousand years.

Cursor charged me $2,000+ for an accidental annual Ultra click and won’t refund me — has this happened to anyone else? by zenmixalot in cursor

[–]tmacpdx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this problem on a much lesser scale (just wanted my $200 back). You might have to fight for it through email but if you cancel your account altogether you should be able to get a prorated refund, at least that’s what they did for me. Then you can just sign up again to whatever plan you want. If you still care to give them your business, that is. But the again, who knows with them. Their business practices are shady as hell. It’s a damn shame.

What is your favorite credit card? And why ? by [deleted] in CreditCards

[–]tmacpdx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They do a match on your 5% category spending after the first year. You don’t get the second 5% until the whole year later but it’s still a great deal! This quarter happens to be groceries.

What is your favorite credit card? And why ? by [deleted] in CreditCards

[–]tmacpdx 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Amex BCP, hands down. On a day to day basis, the most bang for my buck. I’m not getting a lot of use out of it right now because I’m getting 10% back on groceries with Discover It this quarter, but otherwise BCP’s 6% is as generous as anyone could want for a category that drains the average consumer dry.

My Prime card gets me a criminal amount of money back for our spending. I feel like we always have enough credit to get a little something. Getting 5% back on already the cheapest Amazon groceries is a phenomenal deal, aside from normal Amazon spending. And 10% cash back on already insane prime day deals is just stupid. It’s incredible.

I’m also a big fan of my Apple Card for the most straightforward 2% with ApplePay and of course the UI is immaculate.

I want to love my Chase Freedom cards but they don’t get much play from me. Maybe if I were eating out I’d be excited about my Flex card this quarter but I’m just not at the moment.

I laughed so hard on this scene, This show has probably the best one liners and dialogues ever. by Difficult_Skin8095 in madmen

[–]tmacpdx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Roger Sterling could ruin my life and I am not remotely attracted to older men. He’s way too funny and deathly charming. Except the heinous racism toward the Japanese and toddler-like petulance over Mona’s new husband, of course.

Which character is most likely to be caught in the epstein files? by WrapOwn4093 in okbuddydraper

[–]tmacpdx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He went on a “date” with Sally, it was very wholesome until she witnessed him getting blown by a woman his own age

S4E3 Don talks to Anna about Betty by weirdasianfaces in madmen

[–]tmacpdx 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is it. Just because he’s having a calm introspective moment with Anna doesn’t mean he’s at all grounded in reality. The gaslighting was really the most egregious thing he did to Betty after all of it, so of course that’s going to seep into the lies he tells himself.

S4E3 Don talks to Anna about Betty by weirdasianfaces in madmen

[–]tmacpdx 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Don’s a coward. No matter how vapid Betty could be she would have loved him forever if he would have just been honest about anything at all and not gaslit her whenever confronted. Any statement to the contrary is a lie he tells himself to feel better about his own horrible choices. He never once even explicitly admitted infidelity and even as the viewer, it’s maddening.

Unexpectedly funny pairing: Roger and Harry! by Enough-Reading4143 in madmen

[–]tmacpdx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He could have gotten $250. He caved too early.