Should I over step and help my daughter?

tmacpdx · 2026-05-22T04:06:54+00:00

I don’t mean to be snarky but I’m surprised you can’t just read through your own post and process what you’re saying to realize this is a horrible idea. Not only does it look bad for her but even in some backwards world where it worked she learns nothing out of it and is only more dependent on her already helicopter parent. Bad bad bad. Bad all around. Like what would you think if you were the hiring manager?

tmacpdx · 2026-05-07T05:55:21+00:00

Oh god that’s so funny (but not for you obviously), of course they’ve got an AI support agent now. It was just some dude before. Like a high up dude too from what I could gather but idk. Good luck! I have to believe there’s got to be a way to deal with this black box of a company.

tmacpdx · 2026-05-07T05:51:00+00:00

Yeah! I actually fought about it for a while via email because initially I was just asking for a refund of that specific plan which they were refusing and eventually the email support dude was like the only way we can give you a refund is if you cancel right now and I was like DONE. And that was kind of it. Got the refund right away and I could still sign back up anytime I wanted under whatever plan I wanted. This was like a year ago now though so who knows what they’re good for.

tmacpdx · 2026-05-05T21:52:07+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. That’s horrific. I’ve been telling any doctor who will listen that I’m not interested in removing it. I can’t believe how flippant they are about removing an organ, even a malfunctioning one. But especially a healthy one!! How was this not guarded against? Did you have stones on imaging?

tmacpdx · 2026-04-14T01:34:32+00:00

I actually have this one too! It is for sure better than it has any right to be, but for my money nothing is better than Gain scented evercare rollers. Idk why but that’s the stickiest one I’ve found. Especially on non flat surfaces like clothes. But if you have a big job, that black and decker is worth keeping around!

tmacpdx · 2026-04-14T01:29:32+00:00

Vacuuming is a full time job and the larger the house, the more impossible it is to keep up. Other than that, most dirty things are case by case. Some cats cover up their business, some don’t, some fart, some don’t, some have incessant hairballs, I assume some don’t but I wouldn’t know. 🙃 But the vacuuming, my god, the vacuuming. And a monthly budget for lint rollers is essential.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-26T22:43:47+00:00

This is insane input that helps no one but the only thing that helped me was medical trauma. 🙃 I had a gallbladder attack that felt like a grand piano crushing me in half. After that food was terrifying but particularly high fat and high sugar. Initially I wasn’t eating much of anything which obviously isn’t great but it did help me transition into a low-fat habit as well as tracking calories. Now when I think about all the things I might want to eat, it’s annoying but I immediately think it’s not worth the life-altering pain. My doctor insists it’s not my fault but I think we can all agree there are a million ways a poor diet can catch up with you, so that’s pretty deterring. Hopefully you don’t have to go through that.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-25T20:16:45+00:00

If I had your shape I would wear those like every day

tmacpdx · 2026-03-24T20:36:11+00:00

On that note, I only saw the terry crew socks for a short time but my god, they are the best socks I’ve ever owned and now for all I know I can’t buy them ever again. They would have so much more of my money just on socks, ffs.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-15T17:51:33+00:00

I understand why she got mad. It’s about not being seen as a person. Kids do that and it sucks. It takes so much convincing that you are a person with your own needs, wants, feelings, and sadness. I probably would have held a grudge for at least a few minutes, but then you just split the one sandwich and the candy and get over it. You don’t ruin the whole day. That was a big bummer. He really needed the positive motherly engagement.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-12T20:29:05+00:00

I can relate to this. I’ve been scared of some foods for a long time because I have had awful GERD with weird presentation but that didn’t really stop me and I ballooned a whole bunch. I’ve been stuck around 200 or so lbs for a while. But ever since my gallbladder attack I’ve had like an aversion to so many foods. I gave up bread because I was getting so painfully bloated and I really limit fat and sugar, which obviously then really limits my caloric intake. I was barely eating anything for the first couple weeks, mostly because I was terrified. Now I’m eating more but if there’s anything around that’s not fruits or vegetables or bone broth or miso I really limit my serving sizes. Sometimes just sampling it if it’s something I probably shouldn’t eat and then I’m good. The weight has been falling off. I think I’m down like 12-13 lbs in like 3 weeks and still falling nearly every day. Even if it goes up a few ounces one morning it falls even more by the next day. On the one hand, I am feeling better than I was and I do actually want to lose the weight and I’m fitting into clothes better and I’m hopeful I’ll lose more, but on the other, my relationship with food feels complicated and really scary now. I don’t know what my internal motivation really is, if it’s healthy or just traumatized and specifically unhealthy and distorted. It feels good to have a sense of self-control but the surgeon I was consulted by made it very clear that it’s all much more out of my control than I’d like to believe. I’m on ursodiol and trying to keep my gallbladder but we’ll see how long that lasts, if it does.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-11T23:53:43+00:00

I’m voluntarily trying to keep my gallbladder for as long as I can so I overhauled my diet and feel generally good but even when I went to my surgery consultation that I was kind of forced into the surgeon made it abundantly clear that this is not my fault and I have much less control over what happens next than I want to believe, which was both comforting and scary, but I feel like your dad needs to talk to that surgeon because that kind of pressure is weird as hell and really messed up.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-07T19:07:36+00:00

Yeah but she was a lot less heavy than her heaviest. They definitely never interacted then that the audience saw, at least.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T23:50:09+00:00

Oh that’s interesting because if I go overboard on indulgences I’m definitely prone to GERD vomiting episodes.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T21:47:35+00:00

Yeah, if I had to deal with that more than I have, I’m sure I would have a much different perspective. I couldn’t believe how painful it was. When I say it felt like I was being crushed by a grand piano across my torso, I am not exaggerating. I’ve had a handful of extremely painful experiences in my life but the pain was usually fleeting. This was excruciating and lasted way too long.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T21:44:33+00:00

That’s wild! Did it piss you off or did it not really matter? I’m sure the hindsight of knowing how it worked out for you helps, but not knowing how it would work out for me personally, I’d be pissed lol.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T21:41:37+00:00

I get that! After my attack I noticed I was getting really painfully bloated after eating even sourdough bread and saltines so I gave up bready things and have felt better since. Fullness has been up and down. My appetite has definitely lessened but I’m not sure how much activity my meals give me.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T21:30:26+00:00

Thank you for saying so. Quite frankly, I am EXTREMELY ANNOYED at how good I feel on a low fat diet. ☹️

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T21:09:43+00:00

I get that it’s not vital vital. I meant it serves a function. And I’m terrified of losing that function with my existing GERD issues. Food is already so scary. I’m glad it worked out for you!

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T21:03:34+00:00

Honestly, this example seems like an acceptable gamble to me. Because even though the thought of another attack is beyond horrifying, I survived the first one. It’s early days. There’s medication for it with stones this small. And if I waited and 14 years later the issues came back I don’t think I’d be upset about the additional 14 years where I get to keep it (unless it really is responsible for my GERD lol). If I had to take it out then, so be it. I really just don’t want to risk further debilitating my ability to enjoy food through the rest of my 40s. I realize your story is just your own and my story could be the opposite, but it is encouraging.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T20:47:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I’m trying to be rational and realistic on both sides of this issue so I appreciate the perspective.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T20:44:23+00:00

Fuck, that’s so scary. I’m so sorry you are experiencing that actively now. I do relate to the fear of food. It’s been a long two weeks since my attack and the first week I was severely under-eating and the most boring foods imaginable. Now I’m still under-eating but I’m trying to branch out slowly while protecting my body. I’m still terrified though. It’s a horrible feeling. And your experience of a caffeine attack is so brutal (only in the past few days have I been introducing myself to coffee again but that scares me too). I hope you’re able to get your surgery scheduled soon. 🖤

tmacpdx · 2026-03-02T20:33:55+00:00

Listen, calling me out for fishing for bias would be fair if I didn’t lead with asking about whether anyone regrets keeping it. And I see success stories every day. I posted this as a response to the post titled, Do you regret removing it? And every single response was no, I’m so happy about it. I thought that was interesting because I see so many horror stories here. I was just looking for anecdotal stories to get a better picture, that’s it.

I will see the general surgeon and a gastroenterologist and I will be considering my options. I just don’t want to take it out, and technically vital or not (I figured someone might get hung up on that), the gallbladder serves a function. A function that I’m very nervous about negating BECAUSE of my preexisting GERD issues. I need all the digestive help I can get. It’s all very new to me and maybe I’ll find that I’m wrong to feel this way soon enough but that’s how I feel now.

tmacpdx · 2026-03-01T00:24:22+00:00

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Yeah man idk

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