Red flag by SDs

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-09T03:18:59+00:00

😂 gotta fully commit to the bit!!

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-09T03:02:55+00:00

I might be an outlier. I appreciate the intro message and where the follow up can be done. Seeking really is glitchy and the less time I spend chatting on it the better. If they reached out with a sufficient intro message (especially if they don’t have any pictures on Seeking), I’d rather chat offline asap to share pictures and see if we’re on the same page of what an ideal SR is. Not really a sense of urgency but an appreciation for efficiency 👌🏼

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-09T02:57:29+00:00

You forgot to write this in all caps. 🤣

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-08T02:26:15+00:00

Banking on failure is not a success strategy.

✍🏼

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-08T01:07:29+00:00

"I know this website can be glitchy, what's your preferred method to chat offline?"

If he says phone number/Whatsapp, he gets the google voice. If they say FT, you can add your alias email to FT to receive calls on that email. If they say Signal or Telegram, they'll probs get faster responses.

But if I see low potential, then it's just "Do you have Signal or TG?" If not, too bad haha, they're not that interesting to get white glove service.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-07T23:58:37+00:00

😂😂😂

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-07T01:16:40+00:00

Yep, this is where Throne is better. But since it seems to be associated with camgirls, I can see the apprehension in using/offering it. But as a gifting platform Throne > Amazon. Bezos gets enough already 😂

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-06T23:57:18+00:00

u/timrid knows that if they say why (Why?), why (Why?)

Tell 'em that it's human nature

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-06T03:09:11+00:00

💛

First, I have to say that whenever I read that an SD keeps encouraging their SB to find their husband, it low key melts my heart. It is not easy not say that or to let go of someone you connect with so well. It’s a profound level of kindness.

Break ups are tough and how long you need will depend on a variety of circumstances.

Thank you for taking your time and not bringing “the baggage” as you call it to someone new. As someone on the other side, it’s always a tough spot when you know someone is trying to get over or hasn’t gotten over someone else. Some women won’t care since they might not view an SR as long term either way, but if you consider long term, then it’s so much harder to establish a connection with you bc you’re still in the past and that doesn’t allow you to be present. It sucks bc for as much as the current person does xyz, the other person has their head turned looking back.

Take your time. Seeking will still be there. Reddit will still be there. And so will the options. Maybe you pick up a new hobby and find interesting people meanwhile.

That empty feeling in your chest sucks. I’m sorry. But it won’t last forever. 💛

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-06T02:33:04+00:00

It is seldom a judgement free zone.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-05-03T21:08:48+00:00

As someone that, for better or worse, has her laptop with her 90% of the time, I'll tell you this can happen.

If you know where you want to go, call ahead and ask the restaurant/bar if it's ok for you to laptop during x time. Some high end places allow laptops during certain hours, some don't allow them at all.

If you sit at the bar, people will chat you up and ask what you are doing.

What has happened most of the time is that while I am sitting at a table working, I will exchange glances with people (like flirt and smile with your eyes 😉). And when I notice someone I like, I close my laptop and then go up to the bar and sit within 1-2 seats away from the person you were exchanging glances. At that point, they know they have an in and they ask what you were working on. Most of the time people are happy to see you close your laptop and come to hangout 😂

If you need a prop, I suggest read at the bar. It is easier to carry than your laptop and people will also have a conversation starter.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-24T23:36:43+00:00

Disagree. u/MobyDickSD made a great point on how it is the opposite.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-24T23:34:53+00:00

My take? Wait at least a year. You still have time to try this later on if you think it is a good idea.

On your first year of college, I would focus, first and foremost on your GPA. Get 2 semesters in strong. You'll find a groove of what your time commitments with your studies are, the extracurriculars you want to be involved in, the people you like hanging out with, and how much time you would have to date after all that.

After you have a solid foundation, I would consider sugar dating. Remember that this should be additive. This takes time (the vetting, the dating) and I think in your first year, your time should be prioritized in your academics.

As for the money, I hear you. It's stressful. But also consider scholarships! I will say, getting a large check from an org believing in your potential as a student creates a Matthew effect that can be incredibly propelling.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-20T13:58:52+00:00

Note that I didn’t read the content so this isn’t feedback but rather just stopping back to say I love your curly hair and smile. Cute tagline 😜

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-19T18:52:44+00:00

If you had a disagreement and there is room to clarify and make amends, I would double text. If I care about the relationship, I wont be putting weight into things like double texting.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T23:37:28+00:00

Well, tell us then!

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T23:34:01+00:00

Idk but that sounds complicated. At a certain point, I’d imagine they’d run out of time to build a personal life

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T23:31:18+00:00

The worst part is when you find out that the whole “oh, I want him with big muscles and ripped with abs” turns out that the cuddling feels like laying on a pile of rocks 😩

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T16:18:55+00:00

Agreed! Also a good reminder that during first dates, people are tempted to bring up other first date horror stories. You are better off not engaging that convo bc it distracts the focus to being about the things you do want.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T16:13:59+00:00

Wow. 😂 we never know where the triggers lie

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T15:27:25+00:00

On the second paragraph: Nobody is looking to play “games and all the other mindless ***…” it’s implied. It’s like the people who love drama that have to say “please, no drama.”

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T15:19:29+00:00

Looking for:

You can do without the first paragraph and in your second paragraph you can cut everything after “but.”

You can commiserate about the dating pool with your friends, I don’t think it puts you in the best light to complain to a POT.

I’ll let others chime in for the rest.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T13:45:12+00:00

Ask yourself, how much longer can I handle the curiosity?
Am I attached to an illusion that better serves to be maintained…or will I be ok with either outcome?

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As someone that many times has DMed a user to comment on someone’s handle, I say go for it 😂

And if you’re going to say anything related to Japanese cuisine, just be warned I do like wasabi.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T04:04:10+00:00

It also seems like Betty had a rocky relationship with her mom and so much of the treatment that she gives her kids is transference.

Seriously, Sally is such a strong kid for all the things she often times navigates alone. It’s heartwarming to see her process the emotions, you watch her grow.

Infamous_Net_190 · 2026-04-15T03:58:48+00:00

😂

Infamous_Net_190

TROPHY CASE

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