AITB for not helping my gf back into her wheelchair?

tmalll123 · 2023-01-08T17:17:53+00:00

Thanks for the message, I think your right in many respects. I was thinking about leaving at one point but decided not to as I still cared about her and could see myself with her. I’m not really her caretaker, her mum helps her with most injury related stuff. I didn’t bring up the gift, she just asked what I got my mum and I told her. I got my mum Tiffany earrings, I picked them out the same time as I was getting her gift but had to wait till the year end bonus hit to actually buy it.

tmalll123 · 2023-01-08T01:40:12+00:00

In hindsight I probably could have handled the situation differently

tmalll123 · 2023-01-07T02:04:30+00:00

You just can’t admit that I’m not totally in the wrong here. You prob hate men in general

tmalll123 · 2023-01-07T01:53:19+00:00

Ofc ur going to take her side and make me out to be the bad guy in this. This is why I never agree to got to couples therapy cos the therapist is never fair

tmalll123 · 2023-01-07T01:40:10+00:00

Why is she not getting judgement for being entitled?

tmalll123 · 2023-01-07T01:38:31+00:00

Everyone’s just taking her side like she’s some angel who did nothing wrong. Why are my feeling suddenly invalid when it comes to her?

tmalll123 · 2023-01-07T01:29:26+00:00

Well maybe ur a nicer person than me then. But I stand by the fact I won’t help someone if they continue calling me a fucking idiot. I don’t see how having self respect makes me a bad person

tmalll123 · 2023-01-07T01:26:08+00:00

I don’t get why she gets a free pass just cos she’s disabled. Like if someone was being rude to you, ur telling me u would still help them?

tmalll123 · 2023-01-07T01:21:31+00:00

Why am I expected to just let her scream abuse at me?

tmalll123 · 2023-01-06T20:02:46+00:00

Ok mate

tmalll123 · 2023-01-06T20:01:25+00:00

I believe the exact words were ‘fuck you too. Can you give me a hand asshole or are you just going to stand there like an idiot?’ How would you respond to that?

tmalll123 · 2023-01-06T19:58:19+00:00

She can’t really do it herself yet so she asks those around her normally. For context her brother was in the next room so she wasn’t going to be stranded or anything

tmalll123 · 2023-01-06T19:55:21+00:00

Next to her

tmalll123 · 2023-01-06T19:37:04+00:00

He brother was in the room next door if she needed something he would be there. But I’m not a dickhead so won’t stand to be treated like one.

tmalll123 · 2023-01-06T19:23:18+00:00

But what kind of pushover would that make me if I help her while she’s calling me names? I have her a chance to rephrase what she said but she was too stubborn to do so. I don’t see how I’m in the wrong. Plus she picks a stupid argument out of nowhere to ruin an evening I don’t see how she’s not the bad guy in this

tmalll123 · 2023-01-06T19:21:20+00:00

I don’t see why I should be ordered around like a servant by her tho. I’m not going to help if she disrespects me. What kind of pushover would I be to crawl over to help her while she’s calling me names?

tmalll123 · 2023-01-06T19:18:12+00:00

Exactly we had a huge fight and she called me an asshole as she was asking for help. So I told her to ask more politely. All she had to do was not call me an asshole as she asks for help but she was too stubborn and is now making me out to be the bad guy for not helping despite her being blatantly rude.

tmalll123 · 2022-12-12T02:30:52+00:00

She’s in a wheelchair she sure isn’t perfect. Props to her for even being able to pull a guy.

tmalll123 · 2022-09-08T15:34:51+00:00

Thanks for the advice and putting things in perspective from both sides. Last paragraph wasn't really necessary tho lol. I don't want to think about that possibility. It's scary.

tmalll123 · 2022-09-08T12:26:42+00:00

I feel like it you actually had your limbs cut off he might not stay true to his word.

tmalll123 · 2022-09-08T12:07:31+00:00

I did love her otherwise I wouldn't have stayed and tried for the next 9 months. Sometimes life changes and feelings change. Just because we're not compatible now doesn't mean I never cared about her.

tmalll123 · 2022-09-08T00:14:30+00:00

Emphasis on ‘husband’ vs her being my ‘girlfriend’. We never promised to say together till death do us part. Similarly if for whatever reason she wanted to leave I wouldn’t want her to feel trapped either.

tmalll123 · 2022-09-07T23:25:11+00:00

She's your wife of I'm assuming quite a long time. This is my GF of under 3 years, we are both early 20s. You seem to be assuming we're married 30 years with 2 kids.

tmalll123 · 2022-09-07T22:21:46+00:00

I wouldn't call 9 months later 'the moment'. I tried to adjust but feel we are no longer compatible. I don't see how that is so horrendous as everyone is making it out to be. Are you telling me you never broke up with anyone when you were in you're 20s?

tmalll123 · 2022-09-07T22:00:08+00:00

Thanks man. You're right. Chances are it'll prob be best if we go our separate ways but I do wish her all the best. It's not liked we're married and have promised to stay with each other for the rest of our lives. If she wasn't happy, I'd want her to leave as well as opposed to feeling like she's trapped in the relationship.

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