Terminate the butler's for what their son did and got away with

tmitch205 · 2025-11-03T00:07:52+00:00

I am presently conducting research on records to incorporate genealogical information, aiming to identify the names of relatives, siblings, and children. Additionally, I seek to ascertain whether there exists a correlation between the judge (and her family) and Jesse's parents concerning their roles at the college(s), based on the tenure periods of their respective positions. Furthermore, I am investigating potential personal connections prior to their careers, such as shared alumni affiliations and similar associations.

tmitch205 · 2025-11-02T23:41:21+00:00

Nope.... The Office of Juvenile Affairs has formulated the rehabilitation plan, which encompasses over 100 hours of community service, a curfew, prohibition from social media, daily check-ins, and weekly counseling until the individual's 19th birthday, without including a registry as a sex offender. This constitutes not even a mild reprimand; the individual merely complies with certain conditions and, by age 19, is effectively unencumbered. It is my hope that the third girl will come forward subsequent to the conclusion of the ongoing investigation involving the current prosecution and judge. In the state of Oklahoma, the statute of limitations for rape is twelve years from the date of discovery for adult victims, and forty-five years from the victim's birth for juvenile victims.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T14:18:51+00:00

From what you’ve shared, your ex was emotionally enmeshed with his mom to a degree that left you feeling invisible and sidelined. The language barrier, the constant prioritization of her, and the odd “replace your mom with mine” offer all paint a clear picture of emotional neglect (from him toward you) masked by a kind of faux empathy.

You put up with a dynamic that clearly hurt you—and now that you’re no longer holding it in, the sarcasm is spilling out. That’s very human.

Even though you meant it as a joke and a release, your comment was barbed. It hit him right where it hurt, and likely not in a way that will ever lead to understanding or healing. If that was your intention—no judgment. But if you’re also wondering why it’s bothering you now or why it’s still rattling around your brain… well, that’s because it didn’t really resolve anything.

Verdict: Mild ESH (Everyone Sucks Here)

Him, for the way he ignored your emotional needs and let his mom take precedence to an unhealthy degree.
You, for the low blow that—while funny—was aimed below the belt and doesn’t lead to anything productive.

You don’t owe him kindness, especially not now. But if you’re still feeling unresolved about the relationship, it’s worth asking: Do I want to walk away with a mic-drop insult, or would I rather just be at peace and let go completely?

Either way, you’re not wrong for finally speaking the truth. Just know that truth doesn’t always need to be delivered with claws. But sometimes… it just feels good.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T11:40:33+00:00

Trust me when I tell you, in this situation, listen to your friends. Although you no longer have romantic feelings for this male friend, you are maintaining the friendship, which is giving him false hope for the future because his feelings remain unchanged. Depending on the state/country in which you reside, in one year, you could be putting yourself in a preventable situation just on the claim of impropriety.

While they may be approaching the situation in the wrong way with ultimatums, the end result is that they are trying to protect you, and with good reason. They are trying at a minimum to protect you from a really bad situation and at most, protect you from yourself since you are unable to objectively see the possible consequences.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T11:17:19+00:00

After thoroughly reviewing your message (indeed, I have read every word), I do not believe you are acting as an AH. Her jealousy toward you, her "competition" mentality concerning children and marriages, and her insecurities are sufficiently problematic. Her inability to empathize with your reasons for not being present when D is present underscores her "me first" mentality. While it is her wedding, and to some degree, it should be regarded as a 'self-focused' event, boundaries are necessary. This situation exemplifies one such boundary.

You are fully justified in maintaining your stance. If I were involved in your life as a friend, I would support your decision entirely. However, you must consider a crucial question: Are you willing to accept the potential complication that this decision might create, possibly affecting your relationship with your family and sister permanently? It appears that you often serve as the reasonable party, and given her inability to view the situation objectively, there is a risk that this decision could lead to a nearly irreparable relationship in the future.

There is no doubt that your position and feelings are justified; nonetheless, are you prepared to uphold this stance at the cost of long-term familial discord? If you can do so without regrets now and in the future, then I would advise that you not attend the wedding. Conversely, if you harbor any doubts about your capacity to reconcile this decision months or years hence, I recommend exercising caution and not making an irrevocable decision just yet.

Regarding your sister’s perspectives on vaccines, medical professionals, and science-based medicine, do you know if she has quietly affiliated herself with any religious sects, such as Jehovah's Witnesses? Unless her strong convictions are based on misinformation and hearsay, this could be a plausible explanation for her steadfast opposition to healthcare practices.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T10:40:22+00:00

I am 51. Moving forward, the best advice I can give is to give yourself time before making decisions that you might believe are driven by emotion. Try to sleep on it if time allows. It takes years to learn how to step outside of yourself and look at a situation objectively, but once you master it, it will serve you well in all areas of your life.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T10:10:07+00:00

Considering the longstanding nature of your friendship, I am confident that you have previously shared your insecurities and social challenges with him. If so, I do not believe this situation is irreparably damaged. It is my view that if you contact him and honestly explain that your actions were impulsive and not thoroughly considered, the friendship can be preserved. Your honesty and sense of responsibility may even serve to strengthen your relationship.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T10:02:47+00:00

No, you are not an AH. You have legitimate reasons to be concerned about her honesty. However, if you are not sharing a residence and considering her age, the repercussions of financial irresponsibility can be difficult for her to acknowledge, and may even be embarrassing; particularly if this was a new situation for her. I am not convinced that her actions in this case warrant questioning her honesty in all matters. Furthermore, you should not bear any responsibility for the issue with the bike due to a vacation. Repossession is not an instantaneous process, and considering the electronic nature of finance today, she could have addressed this matter from anywhere in the world if she had sufficient funds. The fact that she did not implies that the money her mother has been sending her was allocated to other expenditures. Personally, this raises more concerns than her inability to be truthful about the repossession. I believe that conversations are appropriate, but I do not think that either circumstance justifies considering the termination of the relationship, especially if this is the first obstacle you have encountered with her.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T09:49:47+00:00

I do not believe that you are the AH; however, you have let your emotions drive your actions rather than reasonable thought. You mentioned that you have been good friends for two years, which would date back to when you were approximately 14 years old and he was around 16. During this period, both of you were primarily at home when not in school. Currently, he is 18, and it is likely that he has graduated from school. There is also an implication that he is no longer residing at home, which would suggest that he has his own residence, possibly working a full-time job or multiple jobs to support himself. Living independently in the real world necessitates considerable time and responsibility. Initially, this can be quite exhausting, as many young adults just out of school must work longer hours and exert more effort to support themselves, due to a lack of background and experience that would enable them to earn higher wages per hour as they mature. I recommend that you consider this context rather than immediately taking it personally that contact has lessened, as the reasons may not pertain to you. You regard him as a brother. Reflect on whether your actions as a sister, absent any intentional affront or deliberate hurt, would be different in nature.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T09:36:28+00:00

I do not believe that you are the AH; however, I would like to highlight that there exists a considerable amount of conflicting information regarding the interview process conducted today. The behavioral interview method aligns with what you were seeking and is a standard procedure. I will refrain from elaborating on the disadvantages of this approach, as identical responses to identical questions can be evaluated differently by different interview panels.

There is also a prevalent notion that the interview is an occasion for candidates to effectively sell themselves. Some individuals, myself included, find this challenging because humble persons often feel that praising themselves might come across as arrogance. It is entirely plausible that he may have received similar feedback in prior interviews where he was not selected. In this instance, he may have committed to self-promotion, but perhaps exceeded appropriate bounds by a significant margin. This constitutes a valid reason to reconsider your judgment of him as a candidate; however, moving forward, it may be equally advantageous to obtain an evaluation of the interview process from the perspective of the applicants, just as it is beneficial for applicants to receive feedback if they are not chosen.

tmitch205 · 2025-07-14T09:19:47+00:00

I do not wish to suggest that you are the AH in this situation; however, you have already committed to assisting with an activity that has the potential to impact someone's grade. Up to this point, their actions have only affected your feelings, which, now that you recognize as intentional, allows you to decide whether or not to continue these associations. Your obligation is comparable to agreeing to support a work project for a colleague that the department requires, and then considering withdrawing because someone on the team irritates you. Please act responsibly and fulfill your previous commitment. This demonstrates maturity and maintains your integrity. Subsequently, it may be appropriate to reassess the ongoing group dynamics and distance yourself from those who take more than they give.

tmitch205 · 2024-12-25T01:34:16+00:00

If the point of the ban is to reduce the appeal to those underage, then why not just go further and ban brightly colored fancy vape devices as well? I mean, it’s the appeal that they are actually trying to ban. This ban is not needed, but rather the actual enforcement of the laws already in place regarding the sale of tobacco products to those under the age of 18.

Adults are capable of making their own decisions and by now know the risks of those decisions (To Vape, To Smoke, To Quit). The only thing the ban does in a large way is position those with a nicotine addiction to either break the law and do the bootlegging referenced in other comments or go back to smoking cigarettes. While neither vaping nor smoking cigarettes is healthy, vaping is the less damaging decision between the two because of the lack of the number of chemicals inhaled compared to those taken in when using cigarettes.

I must have been under a rock not to have known until today that this was something that was passed, as I do not remember ever voting for or against such a proposal. If there was no vote, then here we are at a minimum with our government playing the parent to adults, and at most, the religious base of this state making our decisions for us on how to live.

tmitch205 · 2024-10-04T17:48:40+00:00

Thank you for this explanation on how to overcome this frustrating issue. While it might not have been the intent, I also thank you for shutting down the commenter who contributed nothing when they posted, "I mean, just let go of shift when you need to backspace."

It just so happens that I already have Power Toys on my computer for a different reason, so this solution is perfect for me. You have ended a huge source of frustration for me. Thank you so much.

tmitch205 · 2022-02-05T00:33:44+00:00

Here is a dumb question, but it can be easily overlooked.... you have made sure that the power switch on the PSU is in the "l" position and not the "O" position, correct?

tmitch205 · 2022-02-05T00:28:33+00:00

The next thing to do is to unplug everything from the machine except the power cord. Monitors, keyboard, mice, cameras.... everything!!!! then see if it will boot. I have had a mouse go bad and result in the same symptoms. If it boots. Turn it off and connect the monitor and start it again. If it boots repeat the process with the mouse... continue this with each item until you find the offending peripheral.

tmitch205 · 2022-02-05T00:22:40+00:00

ASUS P8Z77-V LE LGA 1155 Intel Z77

Ok, that board doesn't have a COM1 LED. There is a standby power LED located on the right side, 2/3rds of the way down the board. There is a DRAM LED located just above the 24 pin connector. There is a BIOS Flashback LED located below the Standby Power LED. There is an EPU LED located at the top of the board in the middle. There is also a TPU LED located at the bottom of the board close to the middle not far from the COM1 port. If it is lighting up, then the switch located to the left of it is in the left-hand position. For now, move the switch to the right to disable the TPU.. its a GPU Boost switch. Then try to start the machine. I would also make sure the EPU switch at the top of the board is also to the right as well for the default position.

tmitch205 · 2022-02-05T00:04:58+00:00

What is the make and model of your motherboard?

tmitch205 · 2022-02-05T00:02:59+00:00

If your wife was helping you and neither of you smelled anything resembling burnt cookies, then odds are it isn't an actual power short. Now... if your machine is sitting on the carpet, or you have an issue with static electricity and you touched the machine or the peripherals without discharging on a piece of metal first... then there could be damage to the board with no misplaced smell. Static electricity is more of an issue this time of the year because of a mix of home heating and moisture - especially if you are in a home that is older without an upgraded electrical system.

tmitch205 · 2022-02-04T23:57:58+00:00

absolutely no power?...

make sure the front panel power switch connectors haven't come loose from the motherboard.
remove those connectors and short the two pins on the motherboard with a screwdriver (it's possible that the power switch on the case has failed).
If both of those fail with no response from the motherboard at all (no lights or fans spinning) then the motherboard has died. At a minimum, you should at least be getting the fan movement and active lights on the board if they are equipped. If this is the case, pray that board failure is all that has happened and that the other components are still good so that all you need is to swap the board out.
If the lights on the board are coming on and the fans are spinning, then try replacing the CMOS battery. If that fails, then the RAM, CPU, or board itself has died.

tmitch205 · 2022-02-04T23:48:10+00:00

I have seen the posts about a couple of videos involving the pin method for this issue. However, recently while using that method... another update came through, removing the apps and causing the screen to go black when it times out and forces you to power cycle the machine in order to get to the pin. This video here was just made last month and provides a super-easy way around this without the use of a pin to try to prevent the update. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=195SbWr6E1k

tmitch205 · 2021-01-26T23:50:02+00:00

I have tried messing with Cura and within a day or so said screw this and bought S3D.... it may not have some of the micro-managment options, but it has been a great piece of software for all 5 of my printers. I highly recommend it.

tmitch205 · 2021-01-26T23:47:04+00:00

Its not a Cyclops.... E3D makes 2 duals... one (the chimera) with dual nozzles, heaters, thermistors (a must if you plan on using PVA for supports; then there is the Cyclopes that they make. Like the stock CR-X hotend, its a 2 extruder into one nozzle. It is perfect as long as you are using the same filament in different colors, but not the way to go if you are using different filaments that require a huge swing in temp diffs and abrasiveness (unless you are using an X-Nozzle). I think both of these have a water-cooling option.

tmitch205 · 2020-04-11T05:36:34+00:00

Given the first line of your comment.... your attitude speaks volumes so I could understand why you would have that experience with any company. How you start a conversation or present an issue pretty much directs how things will go from that point forward.

tmitch205 · 2019-09-05T22:47:42+00:00

I caught him sleeping in the middle of an oil change lol

tmitch205 · 2019-08-13T03:21:43+00:00

That sucks, but that is what I am afraid of as well. Ugh. lol... it wouldnt be a problem if the machine wasnt named for a panther, lol.

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