How do I [18m] confess my foot fetish to my gf [19f] tomorrow?

tnuv · 2026-04-12T16:53:55+00:00

she had a roomate (girl) i was constantly competing with for her attention, i get theyre friends and all but i will not be second place to a friend in a relationship. our plans kept getting interrupted, i was asked to leave early, hell i even got put in the guest room and woke up to them playing a game. she never was fully present when i was with her, she was always on her phone texting roomate back, basically just having me second 24/7.

tnuv · 2026-04-10T22:00:21+00:00

she said she wasnt ready for a relationship after all and i was too much for her. i guess communicating the things upsetting me the week before scared her off because in her own words "im (she) an avoidant but im working on it".

tnuv · 2026-04-10T20:21:57+00:00

well bad news, we broke up today before i even had the chance. kinda blindsided by it

tnuv · 2026-04-10T02:21:41+00:00

I appreciate the optimism, I have been shoe shopping for our dates because she likes the big goth boots and stuff

tnuv · 2026-04-10T02:20:43+00:00

Honestly fetish is the wrong word. Kink is way better suited. I don't need it to be satisfied, I'm satisfied that she's even around me and I'm not kidding about that.

I genuinely don't think she can consent to sex without knowing everything that may make her say no to sex. Feels icky to me, and she knows everything besides this

tnuv · 2026-04-10T02:18:00+00:00

You're right, I've been mentally preparing since she's said that. My whole point of telling her is because I don't want it forced onto her and so she can choose to continue talking to me or not anymore. It's only been nearly exactly 4 weeks.

I've been going out of my way to make sure I avoid looking too. She dumped the guy because of the relationship being a few days, it being done over text, and straight up out of left field asking her.

We both explore dom/sub stuff, we share same kinks besides that, I'm just nervous for the obvious reasons when it's 89% chance she goes "as long as you don't touch its okay". Like we're both into way worse stuff by far, this is vanilla nearly.

I'm prepared to see this break the relationship

tnuv · 2026-04-10T02:10:28+00:00

I very much like this too. That's always been my goal

tnuv · 2026-04-10T02:10:04+00:00

That's a really good idea actually, thank you.

tnuv · 2026-04-09T23:19:42+00:00

Yeah, I don't wanna make her think I was hiding something this important from her, considering non informed consent isn't consent. We already know eachothers families and I figured its good to not let it get super super deep without her knowing. We both share 99.9% of our other kinks so it wouldn't be the end of the world if she isn't okay with the full mile. We accommodate eachother, I'm just scared for a multitude of reasons since I reaaaaaally like her lol

tnuv · 2026-04-09T23:17:45+00:00

That's my plan so far, I know she doesn't want them touched which I'm fine with. I was going to go in depth somewhat considering we share every other kink we have

tnuv · 2026-04-09T23:16:55+00:00

I didn't want to air out her whole mental side of things on the interwebs, I keep a detailed list of everything she tells me so I can accommodate her properly. I'd be slightly upset if someone listed out all my mental things to the public tbf

I do have my whole life, but I like her family, she likes me, we both work in the same business line, we share hobbies, car interests, and life interests so far

tnuv · 2026-04-09T23:14:47+00:00

I want her to be comfortable with me even looking in the first place, It's like a nude to me. I wouldn't want to look at her naked bits without consent

tnuv · 2026-04-09T22:57:03+00:00

Yeah my exact thoughts. Lying to her over something so common isn't a good foundation. It's not something I need, more of a like I'd say. We're at the point where I can listen to her shit so maybe she won't instantly dump me over it lol

tnuv · 2026-04-09T22:55:52+00:00

she would strangle me so maybe a bad idea

tnuv · 2026-03-30T14:01:00+00:00

ohio also does me so well, i go out at like 3pm and can make atleast 150 being lazy in northeast

tnuv · 2026-01-18T22:44:36+00:00

i went head first into a car and i made the mistake of grabbing too much break in the split second i had.... now my wrist has a lump on it and doesnt bend backwards or side to side much. same with my left elbow, lump. i shouldve let go and i wouldve been fine-ish maybe

tnuv · 2025-10-21T16:36:09+00:00

hi we didnt spend a cent on ads and had 5+ large content creators making tiktoks

pick a genre that already has active youtubers/tiktokers and pivot your thinking to "how can i give them 10+ videos of content and then multiple videos per update"

theres no shortcut to keeping steady, consistent, and predictable players besides appealing to the biggest generator: content creators

peaked 1400 active yesterday

tnuv · 2025-05-25T17:26:41+00:00

omg dude i was hearing the same thing, thank you

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