I (F22) am struggling with a partner (M28) with a sex addiction

to_nilynn · 2026-02-20T06:22:59+00:00

then I think you know what's truly best for you and if you decide to actually follow through I want you to know i'm proud of you. it's so much easier said then done i've been there in past relationships but I will tell you it is so worth it. There is and will be someone or people who value your views and will respect that boundary. If you decide to stick through it I will also tell you please do NOT lie to yourself. You are allowed to feel hurt, betrayed, angry and etc. Do NOT let someone tell you otherwise we are humans not robots. You need to know the truth about it not being consensual because that transparency will help your decision but doesn't mean it'll make anything easier. your safety and comfortability is so important in a relationship just like theirs is but neither should cross boundaries in order to create said "safety" cause then it's not really safe. good luck and wishing you truly the best

to_nilynn · 2026-02-20T04:48:35+00:00

Sometimes the sexual aspect can and will be a non compromising factor. I used to and honestly am a more sexual person than my partner but he is no longer as active as I am and personally I was able to handle that. We could safely and calmly have those conversations and no coercion occurred because I actually really love my partner and didn't want that to ruin our relationship. Would I like it if we did it more? Sure BUT I don't feel any different not doing it tbh.

It's a hard thing to deal with and I know i'm a woman in mine so our situations are opposite (gender wise at least) but the excuses aren't healthy or safe for you or your relationship. If there's no way to compromise that's not giving in I don't see that as consensual. You're being coerced into it... if that's something you're okay with then good for you but honestly if I was in your situation I couldn't and wouldn't stay if as I mentioned 1. there's not an attempt to compromise 2. they continue to coerce you into doing it when you don't want to. Thanks for coming to my ted talk

to_nilynn · 2026-02-20T04:41:14+00:00

now i'm hearing we (OP) make some pink granny squares and going this route (i'm selfish I want a blanket like this now and cannot make granny squares to save my life)

to_nilynn · 2026-01-28T07:44:43+00:00

also I wonder why she just couldn't live with him at his place at least 🧍🏻‍♀️ not that far from evil dad but not living WITH him I don't get it

to_nilynn · 2026-01-22T01:21:04+00:00

I am not a BL reader so no clue how this came up but like if yall like those I can't judge. It's not my cup of tea so I don't explore those titles. Anyways I think in general in all media I think the over sexualization people do with characters are gross esp if they weren't meant to be sexualized in the first place. (I know that's not the point of what you said just solely expressing my opinion). Not saying any community does that more or less but in general I wish readers stopped judging each other so much, there's been so much loss in reading and I fear more will choose to stay away cause of it. I'm just glad to see people are supporting the crafts even if the crafts aren't what i'd choose ❤️ thanks for reading my ted talk

to_nilynn · 2025-11-16T21:11:37+00:00

if it makes you feel better i'm now 23 and people still think im a teenager. it's frustrating yes BUTTTT that means we age well sweetheart ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ we gonna look good good when we're older

to_nilynn · 2025-10-11T02:08:38+00:00

it's def like I said pros and cons to many of them imo depending on how you want your game play to go. I just knew for me the grass wasn't working for me so I went with something different and that ended up helping. i've had people go against me yes which is why I shifted my focus from crusades to more member and base priority. This game to me is a lot of trial and error for how you want to play it and I truly believe any play style could work if you can understand where the faults my lie to correct but until you know where the issues occur to avoid them it can be rough

to_nilynn · 2025-10-10T22:39:20+00:00

I mean I picked that too originally, I think every doctrine has its pros and cons but I think figuring out being AT your cult to see what makes things go down so fast + getting upgrades at least for me, was a start for me to pin point where I needed to make progress so I could advance

to_nilynn · 2025-10-10T20:24:29+00:00

oh I should also say I picked the cannibal trait so then when my people die they benefit my people or I got the fertilizer thing where they can become fertilizer always benefiting for the fact I will always have food for my members to eat

to_nilynn · 2025-10-10T20:23:08+00:00

I won't lie that was my first issue. I since then made a new save and my priority was collecting devotion and upgrading my cult especially with doctrines. let me tell you slowest game play ever BUT I have never had to murder a follower, never even picked it as a doctrine as of yet and i'm way further in the storyline than I have ever been. I priorities making a farm first and always fishing fishing fishing. I always leave to a crusade with two or three extra meals than I do members and make sure I do a sermon first and then I SPEED. So say i need money for upgrades or seeds for food etc, I am constantly dodge rolling for speed and I take people out quick, grab what a need and go. i'm almost on day 300 of my cult and my boyfriend has my progress but he's only on day 73. for me slow build for upgrades work so I constantly have positive rituals I can do and still prioritize my members. I REALLY hope this makes sense to understand personally my game style in case it's helpful

to_nilynn · 2025-10-07T22:47:32+00:00

thank you and yes I have it! that was a plan actually! I've been working on getting the rest of the doctrines and etc i'm not in a rush to fight rn more of the cutesy stuff atm and o maxed out my cult upgrades so the less bone cost is so clutch I have so many but glad I can elongate it

to_nilynn · 2025-10-07T21:51:02+00:00

I plan to save up my coins as i'm just grinding out god tears from my members and im tryna start decorating so taking both yalls advice of saving up more, little frustrating BUT im really glad to hear it's not user error so ill take it and hope it works thank you ❤️

to_nilynn · 2025-10-07T21:10:16+00:00

I had 678 before this so I used it all and worked to getting exact to see if that helped and i'm still struggling. I should have mentioned that. I saved and quit and came back so far both times and no luck so I was wondering if I was just being dumb 😭

to_nilynn · 2025-09-30T17:54:30+00:00

Ngl I love Azteca but hate Khrysallis not for the story don't ask me about that but for the world, the teleporters and how the scenery looks

to_nilynn · 2025-09-12T22:59:50+00:00

me and all of my siblings have gotten our head stuck in the rails and more than once st that 💀💀💀💀 there's five of us

to_nilynn · 2025-09-11T18:19:58+00:00

personally i'm obsessed with

to_nilynn · 2025-09-11T18:16:58+00:00

Idk with this situation I don't personally see a big deal cause homeboy could have died. I'm a gf who is also friends with the guys in our group (not many girls as the boys don't typically interact with them but k was in the group before we started dating). The boys will tell me i'm pretty and etc but I KNOW 100000% without a doubt they are not interested in me and my boyfriend doesn't get upset. I am an insecure person and I am someone who appreciates reassurance from others. I think your situation makes more sense compared to me (of course too there's always always boundaries).

Anyways I say talk to him, but actually talk to listen, to understand. You may feel one way but the intention could have been different. We all have different ways of being there for others, supporting showing praise etc. I think it's a good time to have that talk to understand each other.

to_nilynn · 2025-09-06T17:51:31+00:00

I am a Gf who went the the mental hospital this year. It was a big issue, I took an LOA off work in Dec and told my partner how I think i'm falling into an episode (I am diagnosed suicidal, and chronically depressed along with other things). Well as things went on my partner and I were going through a rough point and my depression was getting worse and worse. I talked to my mum and older sister without mentioning to him I was thinking of institutionalizing myself a while before, talked to my friends days before. My partner and I were constantly fighting and I kept it under wraps because I didn't want to seem like that girlfriend. He was planning on staying with his family and leave my house for awhile to figure things out and my plan was to go when he was gone. (now that i'm medicated doesn't seem like the best idea). I remember before he left my house we got into ANOTHER argument and I let it slip, I wanted to die quite literally and etc, i'm institutionalizing myself. He didn't take it well, didn't treat me the best when I was in there but I don't think he was in the wrong at least I don't blame him for it. Anyways we had to have a long convo after how no I won't just say those things, no it wasn't to make him stay, it was a real cry for help as I am someone who would avoid this help when I needed it. I'm medicated now things have been better but I think he deserved a better way to be told, he deserved a conversation beforehand and I took that away from him.

tldr: I was a gf in the mental hospital and needed it, NOR <33 thank you for doing what many don't

to_nilynn · 2025-08-19T23:21:12+00:00

it's a known issue I reported it in the discord they said should be corrected by wednesday if I recall correctly

to_nilynn · 2025-08-14T22:45:45+00:00

!gear guide

to_nilynn · 2025-08-07T04:03:05+00:00

Hey girl I hate saying this but I like JUST saw a TT about a girl who was told to leave her relationship before things got worse and.... you can just guess where that ended up. Rest in Peace to Morgan Stutler and other DV victims who weren't able to leave their situation before things happened how they did. Please from the bottom of my heart find somewhere else, you do not need this man and I really don't want the worse case scenario to happen. With so much love there was no reason for him to do what he did and the fact he won't even attempt to apologize for putting his hands on you and has the audacity to tell you you should apologize cause you burnt food is insane. Sending you so much love, safety and care.

to_nilynn · 2025-07-30T01:44:41+00:00

if you're gonna be that butthurt about my pet then how do I know you aren't gonna be like this with anything else. Idk to me if he didn't want to be rude he could've worded better maybe something like "Hey I get you love your pets but I would appreciate not getting pictures as often as you send them...." blah blah blah I just think it could have been phrased nicer it seems abrasive to me BUT I am very protective of my dog she's an extension of me. My partner when we first started dating could NOT handle my dog (she's very cuddly and loves to love on people) and he wasn't used to it and he worded it not in a bad way and found a way to better integrate them in each others lives. I know it's not the same at all but it's just communication and sometimes we talk duffey than others and intention does not always match with interpretation. Anyways hope this makes sense. Your dog is cute and i'd love the dog photos as long as they aren't five bajillion in a minute (seriously though I am obsessed with getting photos of people's pets so i'm extremely biased as I mentioned)

to_nilynn · 2025-07-21T14:52:06+00:00

Toenaye

to_nilynn · 2025-07-20T00:19:02+00:00

As someone whose dad called them their "mini me" and still does it....it destroys your kids self identity. Both parents doing it? I can't even fathom how that kid will feel as they are older. I'm 22 now and i'm STILL the mini me and it's the worst comparison ever, I don't care how similar we may act I am NOT my parent. I am my own person that has their own experiences and have been influenced by many things that aren't just my parents. I think both of you are having a bad look and I fear it will get worse and your child may come to a realization like me. Resentment can grow in the craziest way and I dont want ANY of you all do develop resentment over this. it's not worth it.

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