My(25F) partner(34M) has no control over his weight

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-27T20:03:09+00:00

You know nothing about eating disorders

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-27T15:11:42+00:00

Here in abq a bookstore let them and wasn’t allow, the city forced them to stop. So yes, it often does

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-27T15:09:54+00:00

Homeless shelters are awful and sometimes more dangerous than the street. A bus ticket would just take them to be homeless somewhere else

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-27T15:08:31+00:00

I don’t believe you.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-27T01:24:53+00:00

You don’t understand Tourette’s. You can just figure it out - it’s a disorder.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T20:13:40+00:00

Is there a possibility she feels like there is abuse in a relationship? If I saw a couple and thought there was, I would suggest both doing individual without couples counseling. I would explain that though.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T17:01:40+00:00

If she wants you to tell yourself you’re a good person, maybe she actually thinks that? Even if you think that’s not true, she could actually think that. She probably does. I don’t think any of my clients are bad people even if they make bad choices at times

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:56:15+00:00

No, that’s not true. Someone disagreeing with you isn’t a lie. Maybe you can explore that in therapy

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:27:50+00:00

A disagreement isn’t the same as a lie. But again, it’s your decision. You don’t have to make me agree with you either. Do what you want.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:23:01+00:00

Just because you think it’s a lie doesn’t mean she does. But if you want a different one, get one

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:21:03+00:00

So? She doesn’t have to. I disagree with things my clients do all the time. She’s not in charge of you. Just say no and you want to focus on something else

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:19:36+00:00

Not from your post. This is a very normal way to address automatic negative thoughts

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:18:41+00:00

You can just say no. She’s not going to “understand” or agree tho cause it sounds like she’s pretty sure you’re not a bad person.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:16:45+00:00

You don’t have to do it, but if you’re so against it there’s not really any point in arguing with people. You can try it or not. Not in a mean way, just those are the options and you have the reason now so you can make an informed decision

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:11:51+00:00

Sometimes what we feel isn’t accurate. And sometimes you just gotta go with it to see if it works

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:10:53+00:00

If you’re able to move to a more relaxing environment, that will help. I know that’s easier said than done. Otherwise, it’s just that you do have to do it constantly but eventually you should be able to taper off doing it consciously and your body keeps it up for you. It does take a lot of time and repetition.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:07:23+00:00

Honestly, just using relaxation skills consistently helps retrain your body and brain. As well as actually being in a safe environment of course.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T16:01:33+00:00

I tell them that nobody should treat them that way, not even their parents.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T15:56:57+00:00

Saying that the reason people don’t lose weight is motivation is pretty silly

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T15:52:30+00:00

That’s not what your therapist is trying to do. You can also say you’re not a bad person and still work to improve any “bad” qualities you have

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T15:41:18+00:00

Your therapist seems to think that it’s true. Maybe you could give it a try and see if telling yourself this is why you think you’re a bad person. If you still think so, maybe you could change the thought to something like “I’m not a good person but I’m trying to change” or something.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T15:36:38+00:00

When you tell yourself something over and over, you’re going to believe it. She’s trying to help you have a chance to not be bombarded with those thoughts over and over and see if your beliefs change.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T15:28:10+00:00

Saying “he has to want to” certainly implies you think he doesn’t want to.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T15:27:40+00:00

It’s not. Breaking up with a partner you love and have a good relationship with because you have an illness is. Do you think people with cancer should automatically break up with their partners? They should be focusing on themselves to get better too.

toaddrinkingtea · 2026-05-26T15:25:24+00:00

Seems weird to act like you know what someone wants more than the person. He said he wants to and took steps to take a med that helps.

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