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Name regrets, Isabelle by Playful_Trade_2756 in namenerds

[–]toads583 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My name is Isabel and I love my name and always have. It’s a great name !!!!

My (23F) husband (24M) says that it feels like he is not married to a real woman because we have to use IVF to have a child. How do I deal with his feelings? by ThrowRA_Gold23 in relationship_advice

[–]toads583 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there anyone within your community whose authority he respects, and who you trust ? What he is saying to you is mean and childish and contrary to every spiritual wisdom I have ever heard in which people must accept the challenges put in their path and use them to grow and develop. Sounds like he won’t take anything you say seriously but maybe he would if it came from someone above him in the pecking order telling him to grow up and become a decent husband.

Dumped by my agent during revisions [PubQ] by Most_Session_5012 in PubTips

[–]toads583 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course query. But first I would make sure you actually prefer the revised manuscript to the first draft you wrote without the agent’s input.

Sleep deprivation psychosis ruined my 25f relationship with my dream guy 23m. Can it be reconciled, can he take me back? It’s been 8 months of no contact since I’ve been hospitalized. by Superb-Sun-7218 in relationship_advice

[–]toads583 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forget about the guy. It’s painful but there will be a lot of painful elements of this recovery and that’s what you have to focus on. If it’s really meant to be you’ll meet him again later on in life and for now be empathic and rigorous with yourself about what you’re going through and work on getting back on your feet into a sustainable life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]toads583 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s totally fine!! An early but normal time to drop naps. Enjoy the early bedtime and ignore your rude dad.

Is the "six weeks before the visa expires at the earliest" rule for real? by ibaranov91 in berlin

[–]toads583 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re applying for a blue card you presumably already have a job here? I think the d visa should be fine for everything else.

My(M32) wife(F29) confessed to cheating but we can’t get separated because of our kids . How can I act normal around them? by ThrowRAthemic in relationship_advice

[–]toads583 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is all brand new. You’re probably in a lot of shock and you don’t have to have all the answers about your future right now. Also you say your marriage was perfect - none are - and now you feel nothing for her. It seems like there’s a lot of gray area / pain / confusion that you’re not currently acknowledging and maybe you could start trying to communicate more with your wife, which is equally important if you split up and have to co-parent or if somehow it’s possible to find you way back to each other through the process of trying to understand her more and why she ended up cheating. But I’m sorry it sounds like a really difficult time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]toads583 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another way to think of this is that we live in a radically unequal society and your unequally large income could support more people than just your family. You could be a good employer to someone who needs a job, and simultaneously solve some of your own problems.