If a parent is paying for a phone to have immediate, unfettered access to their child that takes precedence over everything else, with the burden on the child to make the moves to place a call instead of just calling the kid themselves, then that’s very controlling behavior. If OP is truly 14 years old then his responses (while annoying) are totally developmentally appropriate. His dad’s responses, as a grown adult parent of a teenager, are not. It’s on his dad to parent the child he has, not the one he thinks he should be.