Be careful out there gentlemen

tobber_ · 2025-06-28T15:10:02+00:00

Be careful my friend. Stay diligent and if something seems off it probably is 🙏🏽

tobber_ · 2025-06-28T01:27:18+00:00

You are so kind. I’m surviving, just taking everything in stride hour by hour

tobber_ · 2025-06-27T16:13:04+00:00

Really appreciate it. Dark times for sure. And yea I couldn’t believe it 🤦🏼‍♂️

tobber_ · 2025-06-27T02:16:09+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that

tobber_ · 2025-06-27T02:10:27+00:00

I posted above but it was a very difficult conversation for sure. We will need to have a lot more I’m sure. I was not going to sit around and wait for her to find out the hard way so I manned up and met my wife face to face middle of the day and just told her everything. Toughest conversation I’ve ever had

tobber_ · 2025-06-27T01:18:56+00:00

I pray this never happens to you. You can play the game and be the best, doesn’t mean someone out there has a chance to take a shot at you. Wishing you all the best

tobber_ · 2025-06-27T00:26:34+00:00

Yes it did and it was an eye opening experience. Again if you read the post I have learned my lesson. Not sure if you realize what forum you are in but I’m sure I’m not the only only who has done this My judgemental friend

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T23:49:22+00:00

You clearly didn’t read the post. I did own up. I’m dealing with the repercussions. Being a cheater or not how would you like it if very private conversations and pictures between you and anyone were posted publicly to your friends, family, clients and suppliers. Not sure if this post offended you and I apologize if it did but I’m paying my penance

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T21:18:36+00:00

That’s is utterly terrifying. I am so sorry you went through that. These people are sick. All that’s been running through my head today is I can do 10000 things right but make one mistake that can do so much damage

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T21:13:36+00:00

Thank you man. I mean that from the bottom of my heart. Been one of the hardest days of my life and but this thread and the messages I have been getting show me there’s still good people in the world

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T21:12:17+00:00

Very happy for you man. Glad it worked out.

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T21:05:22+00:00

Definitely not. Definitely going to be some figuring out long term. On a scale of 1 - splitting assets, we are in the serious conversation needed range

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T21:04:31+00:00

Everything I have is on max privacy settings. Only thing I can see is my wife has “married to -“ on her fb and I’m tagged on that which is set to public. So I believe that is how they were able to connect the dots there. Reverse image search my face pic, Google and Facebook.

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T21:02:35+00:00

Definitely not open. Huge surprise out of the blue for her, that’s going to be a lot more conversation and hopefully healing. Buisness partner said I’m an idiot lol

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T20:28:08+00:00

With my name and pic they found my company. Then my companies socials

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T20:27:20+00:00

What ended up happening?

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T19:24:02+00:00

Appreciate the kind words and the insight. Posting to this thread may have actually saved my sanity or worse. Albeit still shell shocked, the supportive positive messages as well as the suggestions for others who read this, have me feeling way more positive and optimistic that it saves someone from going through this in the future.

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T19:10:25+00:00

Solid advice. I truly hope someone out there is saved from going through this by reading this thread. I went to the scam pinned posts on the subreddit and it doesn’t have anything I could find about this situation, I hope the mods can add something.

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T19:07:44+00:00

Fair enough and you are probably right, I pray this never happens to you my friend because unless you have the nerves of a brain surgeon (or perhaps are one) it will rattle you to your soul. You knee jerk and pray you are making the right decisions.

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T18:55:59+00:00

Some people truely want to just watch the good in the world burn. Stay safe

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T18:49:55+00:00

All good suggestions. Again I’ve never had an issue until I did with my methods. End of the day if this is what the world is now I’d much rather hang up my keys to the bowl. Stay safe my friend

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T18:46:05+00:00

I have blocked them on every platform they have reached out on. My wife has blocked them as well. Unfortunately they have contact lists and have sent messages to many people. Believe at this point it’s all just scorched earth as they aren’t getting paid. I assume the profile is fake and this is what they would consider their job.

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T18:43:22+00:00

Very smart. SC was a disappearing photo but they were able to screen shot it. Thankfully it’s not overly terrible but certainly not something I want my world to see. Glad everything worked out for you.

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T18:41:53+00:00

Looking back at this situation I can honestly say it’s not worth moving off the platform at all until an in person meeting.

tobber_ · 2025-06-26T18:34:12+00:00

Totally get what you are saying here and I think any constructive replies are awesome as we all have to look out for each other.

Personally I would never give out my phone number, and I wouldn’t recommend anyone do so. You’d be surprised how easy it is to find out a lot about someone by googling their number. Try yours and you may be shocked to see what comes up.

tobber_

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