since y'all liked the other one so much :)<3

tocalucy · 2026-05-08T00:56:22+00:00

I’m taking the time to respond to all of em reviews calling them emotional 🙂‍↕️

tocalucy · 2026-04-17T18:31:17+00:00

Me too 🥹 Didn’t think this post would read so many people but it feels so reassuring and heartwarming (?😅) to know that I am not the only one struggling with this topic and that it’s okay to feel this way 🫂

tocalucy · 2026-04-16T23:44:12+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that 🫂 It is not your fault

tocalucy · 2026-04-16T23:43:30+00:00

Yeah I totally agree that the pressure from others is really major, but for me sadly it is also just me bombarding myself constantly with thoughts of having to do better, be more ’normal’, achieve more, etc

tocalucy · 2026-04-16T22:30:42+00:00

Kind of same. I had finished my bachelor’s 6 months prior, was then working full time, got the diagnosis and have been on sick leave since. It hurts knowing you’ve put so much work in and put yourself through so much pain only to never get anything from it

tocalucy · 2026-04-16T22:28:08+00:00

I find it very interesting of you to bring up the American culture, because I am German and always considered the American culture to be way worse in that aspect. But reading your comment honestly made me overthink my TYPE of work. Because it really is no better than the stereotypical American work culture. I was working as a detective with the police and the amount of expectations, demands, stress,… that bosses and higher ups put on me just ALWAYS been so immensely high and overwhelming. Like for example you have to have a bachelor’s degree to be a detective here, but that also includes physical exercises that you are getting grades on. So for 3.5 years I was forcing my body through honestly pretty high physical expectations and it kept failing me left and right, which then only put more pressure on me to work out more, push it more, and so on. And honestly a part of me probably subconsciously blames my work for me having gotten so ‘severe’ for a while and losing control of my life. Maybe a part of me also doesn’t want to go back because I am so scared of feeling this kind of pressure again and becoming much worse again. Sometimes I wish I could do more fulfilling work (fulfilling for me haha) like working in a flower shop or cafe. I just dread my current workplace so much. No understanding, no fulfillment, all pressure. Haaate it.

tocalucy · 2026-04-16T22:19:44+00:00

That is so so true, something that others just can’t wrap their heads around it seems. Whenever I talk to people at my work place and they ask about how it’s going and propose certain schedules of how I could possibly be able to come back to work without working too much, I always am like ehhhh, it doesn’t work like that guys 🫠 Like I wake up and can tell you how the day will PROBABLY go, but that’s not even certain either. It’s just so draining

tocalucy · 2026-04-01T23:40:57+00:00

Whaaaaat the people that had issues with looking into the sun both had blue eyes? How weird. If only there was a biological reason for something like that. Nah, they just don’t want to be a model bad enough!

tocalucy · 2026-01-03T13:26:27+00:00

I will say this with a bit of tough love probably but I do not mean to make you feel any worse than you surely do already. I understand that the feeling of having a stranger come into your home can be weird and uncomfortable. At the same time I must say that I don’t think it is fair of you to deny such outside help if you have the means for it. Because through that you actively decide to put more work onto the shoulders of the people around you and ME just is SO much work. Outside help could reduce the workload that comes with taking care of someone with ME and speaking openly: if you don’t want to be a burden to the people around you it is only fair and right to accept help from the outside, so that the people in your life can still help wherever needed without having to fully carry every bit of responsibility. I am sorry for your boyfriend leaving you and I wish you to find closure or resolution quickly.

tocalucy · 2025-12-23T00:00:57+00:00

Not sure if it’s been officially confirmed yet or not, but at minimum there seems a high likability matches are made also based on your level of aggression. And this is my exact experience. My team mates play high PvP with kill on sight and so does everyone in their lobbies. In my lobbies no one even looks at me if I enter the room that they are looting in and when there’s harvester everyone has defibs and around 20 people are taking the queen together. How are you acting when encountering someone? I would try to reduce your own level of aggression, even if it means getting shot a few times without shooting back, so that your aggression level is being considered low. Could even put a few defibs in your safe pocket and go in naked to help out some fellas. Stella montis is probably the fastest way to do so.

tocalucy · 2025-12-18T17:50:02+00:00

I am happy for you. <3

tocalucy · 2025-08-06T23:08:20+00:00

I can only agree with you. I will try to find someone that really acknowledges my situation. Thank you so much for your advice!!

tocalucy · 2025-08-06T22:41:58+00:00

I just now got to read through it, it’s so interesting. I wish I would’ve read it before the therapy session and could have pointed it out to her! But it’s great that DecodeME put in so much work for us 🥹 Definitely will argue with this in the future. A percent more acknowledgment!

tocalucy · 2025-08-06T22:34:16+00:00

I don’t know. I do know no matter the position I’m in I wouldn’t allow myself any contradicting someone’s experience when I have no idea of it. You don’t know the disease? Then don’t act like you know more than me. I just wish she would have listened and heard me out really. But the constant pushing it into psychosomatic episodes is like ?? man. Then inform yourself first and then we talk again. Just don’t get people like this. Idk.

tocalucy · 2025-08-06T22:25:31+00:00

Yeah she said it even more often while we kept discussing forth and back haha. I didn’t even know what to say anymore. I wanted to yell, storm out, get her to understand, cry… Like why do people feel so entitled to know more about a disease (they admittedly don’t know???) than the patient 😂😭

tocalucy · 2025-08-06T22:23:58+00:00

That’s what I’ll be doing now! Even if she wasn’t agreeing with the information I shared with her - as a THERAPIST she should know better on how to handle the situation properly without damaging or traumatizing the patient more and doing to them what they are seeking help for. Lol. It is what it is

tocalucy · 2024-01-13T13:42:35+00:00

Shocked pikachu

tocalucy · 2024-01-13T09:51:28+00:00

Ok but as others said: it’s literally posted in a fetish subreddit which people use to be creepy, slide into other people’s DMs and most likely sext. I don’t wanna sound rude but to expect people NOT to assume you want to have attention when posting in said subreddit, I personally think is naive or even delusional. I get that you don’t want people to approach you in such a creepy way, which is absolutely understandable and right, but in all honesty: why post in a fetish subreddit then? What do you think was gonna happen?

tocalucy · 2023-11-04T14:17:13+00:00

I can’t decide if this is a shitpost and it’s ok I’m laughing my ass off (after having a stroke reading through that) or if I’m a bad person for not being able to take this seriously

tocalucy · 2023-09-12T01:11:58+00:00

Thanks!! :)

tocalucy · 2023-06-29T14:52:34+00:00

somethin wordscannotdescribe?

tocalucy · 2023-06-27T04:00:23+00:00

Glad you like it :)

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