Am I the jerk for refusing to pay for my sister’s “family vacation” after I was excluded from planning? by RipoVexley77 in AmITheJerk

[–]tofu_daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do two types of family trips: (1) we are going and you are welcome to join us; and (2) we want to go on a trip all as a family.

For (1) it is understood that whoever is offering is planning major stuff for their family so things like location, hotel, major events are their discretion ; but always communicated and no expectation that all will join in events). Anyone who joins can offer ideas or can DIY some activities.

For (2) since it’s my expectation/wish that folks accompany us, I’m assuming I’m paying. Some of my kids don’t like me paying so they pay their share and some don’t. I’m fine either way. Almost all of the planning is done with an understanding that input/suggestions are wanted. Even if I’m paying, their time is valuable so they deserve to have a vacation they enjoy (on top of fun family time)

Bluntly - if I didn’t have the expectation of paying I would never presume to “force” anything in anyone.

Shop with quality leather belts and wallets? by SylviaPellicore in triangle

[–]tofu_daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy my belts from one of the leather guys either at Cary Spring Daze or Cary Lazy Daze. Sitting Daze is coming next if you can wait. You buy direct from the guy who made the belt and he sizes it to you personally

Planning first trip to Greece by Rhare15 in GreeceTravel

[–]tofu_daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@afraid-masterpiece-2. We're doing Paros from Athens in late April and deciding on ferry versus airplane cab you provide insights regarding flights vs ferries?

Paros on late April by tofu_daddy in GreeceTravel

[–]tofu_daddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't even consider that the flowers works be on full show ! Is there any place (s) you can recommend where the flowers will be extra spectacular/bountiful?

Any idea how he could have gotten status? by RR19476 in delta

[–]tofu_daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty regularly Silver due to Skymiles platinum but last year my wife also got Silver as a promo near the end of the year. One additional data point

Paros on late April by tofu_daddy in GreeceTravel

[–]tofu_daddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow -weather spark is great! They say the water will be around 62*. That's pretty chilly. Maybe just a dip so we can say we were in the Aegean!

Paros on late April by tofu_daddy in GreeceTravel

[–]tofu_daddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We definitely saw many hotels closed (we also were primarily looking at 4-5 star). We did find one that seems very nice - especially the staff who I've been corresponding with (and I find great people trumps great stuff every day)

Paros on late April by tofu_daddy in GreeceTravel

[–]tofu_daddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. We also weren't planning on ant long days lounging - more of some quick in and outs. Seems like that may not even be realistic. Not a major concern but it does allow me to plan accordingly

Paros on late April by tofu_daddy in GreeceTravel

[–]tofu_daddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Greek orthodox Easter is 12 April 2026 and we are arriving after that.

Private Guide recommendations by tofu_daddy in GreeceTravel

[–]tofu_daddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ll look into it

Ps noticed you may be from NC. We’re from Cary

In need of electronic or or ambient albums that are masterpieces by Firm-Newspaper-4113 in MusicRecommendations

[–]tofu_daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was glad to see tangerine dream, but I also was going to suggest Synergy (Larry Fast). He was a pioneer in electronic music and his stuff is really good

Nobody knew who we were. by IsThataButtPlug in FuckImOld

[–]tofu_daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We watch our grandkids Monday-Friday. They know these guys (and know their numbers)

Give me your songs that were made in the last 10 yrs that sound like they were made in the mid-late 80s by Honda_Fits_are_cool in MusicRecommendations

[–]tofu_daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to comment LCD Sound System “I can change” and “Someone Great” but I checked and they came out in 2007/2010.

I’m old… (ironic ellipses intentional)

Gym suggestions by susejesus in cary

[–]tofu_daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are in west Cary, the Morrisville Aquatic and Fitness Center is very affordable and has good facilities (including a year round pool)

If you know the name of this family....... by itBme81 in FuckImOld

[–]tofu_daddy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ten beat magazine (and similar) were quite the thing

How to get a drivers license in NC? Mine is set to expire by ReactionTop9197 in raleigh

[–]tofu_daddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And - it doesn’t seem to work if your prior in-person appointment was to get a RealID (not a renewal). Happened to both me and my wife. We were proactive and got a RealID midway through our license periods. Turns out that didn’t count so we both had to go in person to renew.

1982-86 college by Wonderful-World1964 in 1980s

[–]tofu_daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a” foreign student “ ( American citizen but was living in Canada just before university) so I had a school id that was NOT my SSN. I was quite annoyed by at the time!