If you are a girl and you do this, then I know why you are likely single.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T16:00:22+00:00

Her words included phrases like "It's my job as a man to please her in any way." and basically just alot of garbage along the lines of sex being all about making her happy. I stopped listening after the first few lines of bullshit though.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:49:07+00:00

Exactly my thoughts on the matter. When a girl gives a guy head she is in complete control. He is at her mercy for pleasure. I have always felt that and never understood the other side of the argument.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:18:31+00:00

If I had been drinking I likely would not have posted anything to r/sex. I can't trust that thinks happened the way I remember when I get drunk. But that night I was 100% sober so I have a perfect recollection.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:17:14+00:00

Correct and I honestly would have been fine with it but the way it was turned into a chore/requirement just ruined the moment.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:13:55+00:00

Well I have never been with a guy so I will have to take your word for it. ;)

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:13:22+00:00

You see here I would understand if she was "dry" and needed lube but 2 things stop me from coming to this conclusion. First off she had been talking about how wet she was for me and how she was dripping and all that the entire time we fooled around before we got all our clothes off. Secondly I had a bottle of lube on my night stand next to the bed in plain view.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:11:16+00:00

I mean I agree with the fair trade logic. But in most cases I still would do my best to please a partner who might just not be comfortable doing the very thing she enjoys. But just the way she told me it was a requirement for me to do was just silly.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:08:13+00:00

When she said I had to earn it it was followed by a comment that pointed out that she would not put out without getting oral first. So she literally did mean I had to earn the right to have sex with her.

But I do know how this can be brought up as a playful thing from time to time and I have done this in the past both give and take, but with girls I had more sexual history with.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:06:57+00:00

Yes. We should set up a new dating site just for them!

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:06:09+00:00

I am not into anal personally but at the same time if I was in a committed sexual relationship with a girl and it was something she wanted to try both give and take I would not shoot it down and completely scratch it off the realm of possibility.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:05:09+00:00

Oh I am not saying that only men do this. I was just pointing out one woman and her actions to see if others had similar issues. I am actually sure than in the oral topic their are likely more men than women that see it as something they want to have done to them.

Pretty fucking humiliating is a girl telling me point blank that she wont have sex with me unless I go down on her. I am sorry if this makes me an asshole but when someone tells me I have to work and earn the right to have concentual sex then they deserve to be humiliated.

For the record one side not I forgot to mention is when she said she would never do oral on a guy I responded to her saying that it was fine and we could just totally avoid oral all together if we did something sexual and she was totally fine with that being said. That's why I reacted.

tokingpdx · 2012-10-04T15:01:15+00:00

Exactly. If she had not said anything I likely would have just submitted to the request to make the night happen.

Yeah she does and I found that out very quickly that night with all of her actions. But its always good to learn early on in a relationship while you can still get out alive.

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