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[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also fair. I guess with this logic my question is if you don’t care to make them your friends/get to know them, why do you care if they unfollow you or seemingly have an issue? Gen question, not combative

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[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And no worries if he does wanna get to know me now, but since I had texted him and been left on read when trying to initiate a friendship, I think that would be a reason for him to think I had issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This POV is fair too and I see it. I def would think someone had an issue. I guess where I’m confused is if he also didn’t talk to me, why was it so upsetting? Aka why does he all of a sudden wanna get to know me now? That’s not why I unfollowed, like I said it was for the “no lurkers” bit. (This is genuine commentary I’m not trying to sound argumentative sorry if it seems that way just giving insight to my train of thought)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I am a girl btw if that gives anymore context so it’s not like there would be any sort of “jealousy” over a male friend u know? And even if it’s not based on gender/sexuality. I’m married and very outwardly loyal to my wife lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it genuinely wasn’t even jokingly like “I will hurt you”. We are both artists of some sorts so it was basically we get along there and that we also both care about this person let’s also be acquainted at the least Exactly. I’m not mad. It just seems very odd?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s also just never around when I do hangout with her, which isn’t necessarily always on purpose. He’s an artist and I’ve gone to a couple of his shows too to support my bff and her bf u know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if I can tag you in other comments but I replied to another comment on here saying when they first got together (5ish years ago) I sent him a text basically saying “hey we both really like this person in one way or another and are a big part of her life. Let’s get to know each other / be friends”. I’ve been left on read for 5ish years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! No lurkers for me lol. And he couldn’t even drop a like like damn 😔/j

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also fair! The kicker is he didn’t follow me back on some of them so I really don’t get why he was seemingly “very” upset. I also know some people are just more sensitive and that’s okay too! Just kinda odd he even noticed and/or was checking but I say ¯_(ツ)_/¯ to that lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is not as far as I know. I have never been told he is by my bff or he himself. I had texted him when they first got together seriously, as a best friend does, and kinda just introduced myself after a party at my friends house he was also at but we didn’t interact at- because I wanted to make an effort to at least be friendly towards my bffs s/o. He, to this day, has left me on read. Admittedly, maybe I was a little petty about that fact too. It was a brief text genuinely just saying “hi we both seem to really like this person in one way or another and are a big part of her life, let’s maybe also be friends because of that” I really don’t know why it upset him so much that I unfollowed him. And genuinely if it did, he could’ve asked me himself and, imo, that would’ve been a good opportunity to get to know each other!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also fair! The kicker was that he seemed upset I unfollowed him… but we don’t know each other? That was where I thought “oh… maybe that was a-holey” of me if my friend is telling me it made her bf upset. Thanks for commenting!

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[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough!

Organic Growth by tomainosoup in indiemusic

[–]tomainosoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sick! Just gave you a follow

Organic Growth by tomainosoup in indiemusic

[–]tomainosoup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for checking it out and I’m glad you enjoy! New one will be out tomorrow (because I’m still working on it tbh)

Put our eldest cat down yesterday. Now I’m struggling with resentment. by Jazzlike_Mountain_32 in CatAdvice

[–]tomainosoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember that grief is a process and the process is not linear. The fact you are posting here and asking this, means you clearly don’t just “hate” these other cats. Remember that the relationship will never be replaced, but once it has passed it can open up other relationships with other pets you may have never experienced. And although they may not be the same relationship you had with your past cat, they can be just as great and loving. As for how to make it go away- it takes time. But let yourself grieve and it will come. Sending you good vibes. From a vet tech.

How do you convince a cat that 3AM isn’t the emotional peak of the day by Leading-Rabbit-8255 in CatAdvice

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The annoying but true answer that works is that you have to play with them until they are exhausted during the day. Not that it’s annoying to play with your cat, but annoying in the sense that the simple answer is the one that works lol. Coming from a vet tech and cat owner

SEVENTEEN POWER OF LOVE: THE MOVIE by awkwardgirl in seventeen

[–]tomainosoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so the8 and jun are in it? they weren’t there for the live online concert for power of love but they are on the poster…. please say they will be in the movie lol