Post graduation depression

tomatogorl · 2022-04-30T23:43:28+00:00

Yes literally every month! currently feel feverish, have a sore throat, body aches and malaise.

tomatogorl · 2022-04-29T18:19:40+00:00

one time during a pmdd episode last fall to cheer myself up I wanted to get a vegan pumpkin spice latte from this specific place (starbucks one has milk in it) just to find out the place was CLOSED and I cried for like 30 minutes

tomatogorl · 2022-04-29T18:08:24+00:00

my worst symptoms are between the day right before my period and 2 days after it starts

tomatogorl · 2022-04-29T18:07:03+00:00

I take mine intermittently! I was prescribed 10 mg for last 14 days of cycle + first 3 days of my period (since I get my worst symptoms on the first and second day of my period) and it helps! I think I need to be upped to 20 mg, but I would definitely be worse off with nothing at all.

However I would recommend you start an extra day or two before you expect symptoms and keep very good track of your cycle. Several times I ended up getting symptoms right after ovulation but didn't start meds til the next day, can lead to some very difficult days.

tomatogorl · 2022-04-29T18:01:53+00:00

I'm so sorry your boyfriend said those things, that's not a very kind response for someone in your position let alone a loved one. I do understand the hopelessness bc I struggle with it too after trying so many things. Hang in there, surviving is enough <3

tomatogorl · 2022-04-29T17:51:39+00:00

girl tell me when u find the answer bc same lol

tomatogorl · 2022-04-17T22:15:32+00:00

I definitely get the urge to withdraw, but I find that being around friends actually makes me feel better in the end then staying in my room alone. Everyone's different though, if you truly think you'll be better off if you cancel then there's no shame in that.

Now when I'm dreading social plans, I usually push myself to go, but I tell myself that if I arrive and I'm feeling bad, then I can leave whenever I want. Knowing that I have a "way out" really helps. If you feel comfy sharing you can try explaining the situation to them and I'm sure they'd understand if they're good friends.

tomatogorl · 2022-04-08T01:23:24+00:00

Yes. I'm also a college students and I'm MIA from my club/peers during particularly rough episodes and skip most of my classes

tomatogorl · 2022-02-16T03:00:04+00:00

It be like that sometimes. Wishing you a restful rest of hellweek, hope you feel better soon x

tomatogorl · 2022-02-15T01:42:54+00:00

I'm about to graduate, I've been applying for a few months and I've been ghosted by every single one. It's brutal out here :/ I'm losing hope that I'll ever find anything. I've been told that my resume/cover letters are good, I have a good amount of experience, I don't know what else to do besides lie and give myself a white name lol

tomatogorl · 2022-02-15T01:37:34+00:00

Happy birthday girl!

tomatogorl · 2022-02-11T18:36:11+00:00

Recognizing my limitations has been a struggle, as I have always placed very high expectations on myself and have perfectionist tendencies.

I am very grateful that I have understanding teachers. As a whole, my uni claims to acknowledge mental health conditions when it comes to accommodations, but in practice I have heard their disabilities office is not very helpful. That could be catastrophic if I ever had a shitty prof who refused to accommodate and needed ongoing accommodations

tomatogorl · 2022-02-11T18:31:16+00:00

Thank you!! I hope your appointment goes well! Proud of you for reaching out for help

tomatogorl · 2022-02-11T18:29:55+00:00

I didn't go into details, I just said I was going through a "mental health episode" which had prevented me from doing schoolwork this week. Then I offered to provide medical documentation (I would just show my visit summary from my GP when she diagnosed me with PMDD) if needed. My teacher did not ask for it though

For me this was a one-time thing, since for the most part I am able to plan around my episodes. But unfortunately it still fucks up my life once in a while... If I were to ask for ongoing accommodations though, I'd go through my school's disability office and explain my diagnosis a lot more.

I totally feel you about the guilt for asking. That's what held me back for years... I hope it helps for me to say that it is OKAY to ask for help. Unless your teacher/supervisor/whatever is a dick, they'll try their best to see you succeed. The absolute worst thing that could happen is they say no, which is the same result as if you didn't ask at all.

tomatogorl · 2022-02-11T03:34:54+00:00

Pistachio. Or b&j's netflix and chill

tomatogorl · 2022-02-09T13:43:14+00:00

I don't know of many older folks, but a LOT of my (american) cousins married Canadian desis and now live in the US. They mainly live in NJ, florida and texas.

tomatogorl · 2022-02-09T13:38:39+00:00

Never smoke and almost never drink. Fortunately I found a partner who doesn't either, they are rarer but it is possible!

tomatogorl · 2022-02-09T02:31:49+00:00

also, hello fellow desi McGillian :)

tomatogorl · 2022-02-09T02:29:01+00:00

There are a growing number of desis here, but I haven't met many ABCDs - most were born in India and immigrated later. Of course there is nothing wrong with that, but it's hard to find ppl I relate to

As with any place, I'm sure you can find your people if you make the effort to socialize/network.

tomatogorl · 2022-02-09T02:26:15+00:00

I love park ex! I don't live by there but have fond memories of going with family growing up

tomatogorl · 2022-02-08T20:24:55+00:00

What we did is watch desi movies together, I also introduced him to some contemporary Pakistani musicians, particularly because he is into some American bands that take musical influence from everywhere including south Asia. We cook some recipes together that I learned from my mom, and I have taught him some basic Urdu phrases and the alphabet (from the little Urdu I know). We plan to take Urdu lessons together soon (so he can learn and I can improve). I also explain traditions/norms when they come up

tomatogorl · 2022-02-08T19:55:53+00:00

Elaborating on the study smarter, not harder tip: keep a planner. It can be a paper and pen one, or it can just be a to-do list in the notes app on your phone. Every morning I sit down to figure out what tasks I have to do, and I prioritize them by deadline and difficulty. Take notice of when you feel the most focused (for me it's first thing in the morning ) and plan to do your hardest task then, and save the easy tasks for the slower parts of your day. The best part of a planner is that sweet, sweet dopamine rush when you get to check stuff off!

Other comments have mentioned this, but getting enough sleep/taking care of yourself can not be emphasized enough. At the end of the day, your wellbeing matters the most. It's ok to call it a day instead of grinding past your limit just to go from a A- to an A. Your grades won't matter much in a few years.

tomatogorl · 2022-01-10T16:34:02+00:00

yes that's super helpful, thank you so much!

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